Interesting marriage quiz

[aidanjm]

Interesting true/ false quiz on marriage. Brings out some fascinating statistics that might challenge some of your assumtpions about marriage, divorce, etc. E.g., states which legalized no fault divorce saw an average 20% decline in suicide rates of married women in the 5 years following the legalization.

Link

 

[LumbergTech]

that was pretty interesting..highest divorce rate in the country is in the bible belt? not necessarily surprising....but notable

 

[EatSpam]

I thought it was pretty funny that those Religionists divorce at more or less the same rate as non-believers. So much for the holy sanctity of marriage. :laugh:

 

[homercles337]

Originally posted by: EatSpam
I thought it was pretty funny that those Religionists divorce at more or less the same rate as non-believers. So much for the holy sanctity of marriage. :laugh:

Actually, i read something a while back that attributes this to stupidity...er, well, at least i think of it as stupid. They marry young after having never lived together. Yes, i consider that as stupid as, well, believing in the easter bunny.

 

[trenchfoot]

the freedom of choice is a double-edged sword; especially so, if the sword is dipped in deception and false hope.

 

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: homercles337

Originally posted by: EatSpam
I thought it was pretty funny that those Religionists divorce at more or less the same rate as non-believers. So much for the holy sanctity of marriage. :laugh:

Actually, i read something a while back that attributes this to stupidity...er, well, at least i think of it as stupid. They marry young after having never lived together. Yes, i consider that as stupid as, well, believing in the easter bunny.

Sounds right... I always recommend living together for a year or two before getting married. It lets you see how your partner really is, on a day to day basis.

 

[Moonbeam]

I doubt the divorce rate in the Bible Belt has to do as much with religion as it does the general comparative ignorant backwardness of people living there in general. If anything, I would bet that without religion the divorce rate, crime rate, and generalized demoralization of people there, generally, would be even worse.

 

[shrumpage]

I"ve always wondered about he the divorce rate of Christians, it really depends on how the question is worded. If you ask Christians if they have been divorced, i bet that it would be average or even highter then other groups. I would be curious if they got divorced before or after they were a Christian, it would help give a more accurate picture of Christians, marriage and divorce. Divorce is a very trying emtional experiance, i can easliy see people seeking help during or after that time - and church being one of the places they end up.

 

[piasabird]

I bask in my ignorance and backwardness!

So are you attempted to call everyone who lives in the midwest a backwards and ignorant?

That is definitely a sign of your ignorance.

Maybe more people just get married in the midwest or maybe more people who are intelligent and forward thinking just choose to live in sin. It all depends on your point of view. People are not any happier because they are shacking up and getting beat up by their crack smoking boyfriends in large metropolitan areas.

Marriage does not totally change one's behavior. If you are childish before you get married the same is usually true after you get married.

 

[trenchfoot]

i've found that the main reason given for divorces within the congregation of which i am a member of is that a hardened disagreement occurs about the validity and value of walking the walk. one spouse will want to become more involved with the church than the other thinks is necessary, especially where it concerns time and tithes.

another reason for divorces within our church is when a couple will get married with the assumption that if there is a disagreement on religious matters before marriage, each will convince the other of their personal view of his/her beliefs after the marriage. particularly when one spouse is a non-member.

*edit*- for clarification

 

[Starbuck1975]

I doubt the divorce rate in the Bible Belt has to do as much with religion as it does the general comparative ignorant backwardness of people living there in general. If anything, I would bet that without religion the divorce rate, crime rate, and generalized demoralization of people there, generally, would be even worse.

Fairly broad generalizations based on stereotypes and your already hostile disposition towards religious conservatives.

A perhaps more valid and viable dynamic is that people in the Bible Belt tend to marry rather young when compared to their blue state urban counterparts, and therefore make impetuous marriage decisions. People who marry their high school sweethearts are more vulnerable to divorce, regardless of religion.

People who grow up in urban areas tend to place more of a priority on furthering their education and careers, which exposes them to more dating opportunities and delays marriage commitments until they are at an age and maturity to make such a decision. That, and the urban/career 20 something is perhaps more open to the concept of living with someone prior to marriage to test the waters.

For the record, the same dynamic exists in the rural areas of many blue states, not just the Bible belt.

 

[arsbanned]

I saw a study that indicated that living together had no affect on whether or not a couple might eventually divorce. It essentially made no difference. If you were married you'd probably understand why.

 

[homercles337]

Originally posted by: arsbanned
I saw a study that indicated that living together had no affect on whether or not a couple might eventually divorce. It essentially made no difference. If you were married you'd probably understand why.

Link? And one study does not trump hundreds, maybe thousands, of studies.

Ignornace is truly bliss, eh, Piasa?

 

[lyssword]

oh yeah lets bash religion out of all things, for being within 2% divorce rate as atheists/nonreligious.

 

[CSMR]

Originally posted by: homercles337

Originally posted by: EatSpam
I thought it was pretty funny that those Religionists divorce at more or less the same rate as non-believers. So much for the holy sanctity of marriage. :laugh:

Actually, i read something a while back that attributes this to stupidity...er, well, at least i think of it as stupid. They marry young after having never lived together. Yes, i consider that as stupid as, well, believing in the easter bunny.

Your "living together" is just unacknowledged marriage.

 

[Gen Stonewall]

It's sad that divorce rate for Christians isn't much lower than it is, given Jesus' very stern condemnation of it. But so often we're guilty of following after our own desires rather than following God. Not a good witness to non-Christians.

 

[LumbergTech]

Originally posted by: Gen Stonewall
It's sad that divorce rate for Christians isn't much lower than it is, given Jesus' very stern condemnation of it. But so often we're guilty of following after our own desires rather than following God. Not a good witness to non-Christians.

I can appreciate people who try to have a healthy marriage, but sometimes that simply isnt possible and a mistake was made, or a terrible event occurs which the relationship cannot recover from..you only have one life and it isnt worthless if you cant spend it with the same person the whole time....i prefer a long term relationship but i will not be mad at myself if it just doesnt work out

 

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: CSMR

Originally posted by: homercles337

Originally posted by: EatSpam
I thought it was pretty funny that those Religionists divorce at more or less the same rate as non-believers. So much for the holy sanctity of marriage. :laugh:

Actually, i read something a while back that attributes this to stupidity...er, well, at least i think of it as stupid. They marry young after having never lived together. Yes, i consider that as stupid as, well, believing in the easter bunny.

Your "living together" is just unacknowledged marriage.

Depends on the couple. The real advantage to just living together is that it makes it very easy to leave the relationship if it goes sour. Many marriages only last a very few years anyway, so if the couple lives together for a year, then hate each other, its much simpler to split if they aren't legally married.

 

[raildogg]

Originally posted by: EatSpam
I thought it was pretty funny that those Religionists divorce at more or less the same rate as non-believers. So much for the holy sanctity of marriage. :laugh:

What made you think the religious people were any better than non-religious people? What made you think their marriage was any better?

They do the same things you do, they have the same arguments you have.

But yes, you have finally proven that religious people are bad. Go you.

 

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: raildogg

Originally posted by: EatSpam
I thought it was pretty funny that those Religionists divorce at more or less the same rate as non-believers. So much for the holy sanctity of marriage. :laugh:

What made you think the religious people were any better than non-religious people? What made you think their marriage was any better?

They do the same things you do, they have the same arguments you have.

But yes, you have finally proven that religious people are bad. Go you.

I don't think religionists are better, but a lot of religionists like to paint themselves as morally superior to nontheists like me because they're church going, worshiping types. The truth is amusing, that they fail just as readily as secular people, despite their god.

 

[raildogg]

Originally posted by: EatSpam

Originally posted by: raildogg

Originally posted by: EatSpam
I thought it was pretty funny that those Religionists divorce at more or less the same rate as non-believers. So much for the holy sanctity of marriage. :laugh:

What made you think the religious people were any better than non-religious people? What made you think their marriage was any better?

They do the same things you do, they have the same arguments you have.

But yes, you have finally proven that religious people are bad. Go you.

I don't think religionists are better, but a lot of religionists like to paint themselves as morally superior to nontheists like me because they're church going, worshiping types. The truth is amusing, that they fail just as readily as secular people, despite their god.

If you know they're not better, then what is the big fuss? If they think they're superior, good for them. Let them live peacefully as long as they let you live peacefully. The truth is that we are all humans after all and we act alike, religion or no religion.

 

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: raildogg

Originally posted by: EatSpam

Originally posted by: raildogg

Originally posted by: EatSpam
I thought it was pretty funny that those Religionists divorce at more or less the same rate as non-believers. So much for the holy sanctity of marriage. :laugh:

What made you think the religious people were any better than non-religious people? What made you think their marriage was any better?

They do the same things you do, they have the same arguments you have.

But yes, you have finally proven that religious people are bad. Go you.

I don't think religionists are better, but a lot of religionists like to paint themselves as morally superior to nontheists like me because they're church going, worshiping types. The truth is amusing, that they fail just as readily as secular people, despite their god.

If you know they're not better, then what is the big fuss? If they think they're superior, good for them. Let them live peacefully as long as they let you live peacefully. The truth is that we are all humans after all and we act alike, religion or no religion.

Wow, you're reading way to much into what I said.

All I said was that I found it funny, that's all.

 

[daniel49]

sounds like bull crap to me from the people I know who marry , divorce, and live life in general.
I onlt trust about a 1/3 of what the times prints anyway.
yawn