Originally posted by: Rachael
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: Rachael
Originally posted by: djheater
Tell him not to be a whiny b!tch.
I hate to put
anyone I love in such a situation, which is why this whole thing has been difficult for me.
That's the dilemma. Your family versus your boyfriend. While it's arguable that you made a 'commitment' anyone that won't accept that "being there" for a loved one in their time of need (or stress) isn't a valid reason to bow out of the commitment, is being unreasonable (e.g. whiny )
I'd agree, so perhaps things require clarification. He does
accept it as a reason. However, I think that he took a position more like a few others who replied- feeling that my mother's method of telling me I outright
couldn't go (rather than just
requesting such an action) was an unfair way to treat a young adult.
That said, the level of support you have expressed with regards to my decision is greatly apprecated.
I had a tempesuous relationship with my parents (like many young men) from 14-22 I didn't talk to my father for a couple of years and was seriously considering changing my name to spite him.
Eventually I came to understand that my parents are the only people in the world who have loved me unconditionally and without reservation. I can honestly say, that had I been in need my parents would have sacrificed everything and anything to help me. I am greatly blessed in that.
Parents are not infallible, in fact, in my experience they fvck up pretty regularly and often do and say stupid crap. I have never minded calling either of them out when they were flat out wrong, but your mother is not in this, I don't think. She's needy, and a pain in the ass, but she has the right to ask you to stay an ease her mind.
I'm certain it's not about you, and it's not about
EGGO, it's about her and her peace of mind. She's asking a lot, but I would wager it's no more than she would give to you, and probably without being asked.
Here's a question, how ould you feel if you were incapacitated similarly, and your Mom decided to be unavailable to you for a pleasure trip? Now, you might, as a young adult feeling your oats, say "That would be fine", but consider that she has no one else....