Is chivalry dead?

[ForumMaster]

i often hold the door open for people regardless of their gender. i've never had any other response except thanks.

 

[LtPage1]

Originally posted by: daveymark
Is it not ok to hold the door open for women any more? I was admonished for doing this earlier today. She went on some feminist equality diatribe about how women can do things for themselves and don't need men to hold them down

wtf?

That's not feminism. Keep doing what you're doing, you're fine.

 

[shortylickens]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: daveymark
Is it not ok to hold the door open for women any more? I was admonished for doing this earlier today. She went on some feminist equality diatribe about how women can do things for themselves and don't need men to hold them down
wtf?

ffs, who was this wretched woman? she isn't speaking for the majority of us.

Thats what I was about to say.
Dont let one bad apple ruin it for everyone else.
Theres a lot of different girls in the world, and if one of them makes you think they are all bitches then your life is gonna be real hard.

I normally treat women with a little bit of extra courtesy and they ALWAYS appreciate it. Even when I was in the Navy and had to work with the occasional "Bull-***", they were very pleased whenever I acted like a gentleman.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: daveymark
Is it not ok to hold the door open for women any more? I was admonished for doing this earlier today. She went on some feminist equality diatribe about how women can do things for themselves and don't need men to hold them down

wtf?

ffs, who was this wretched woman? she isn't speaking for the majority of us.

WFT I love it when I get a nice, chivalrous man near me. :heart:

I hold the door open for ANYONE who is behind me.. man or woman. It's just good manners to do so.

As do I. I guess I'm a gentlewoman. lol

 

[Agentbolt]

I normally treat women with a little bit of extra courtesy

Why? I'm not even disagreeing with you, to each their own, but do you have any concrete reason for doing so? Other than it's "gentlemanly"? Is there some reason you feel women deserve extra courtesy that other men don't?

 

[fire400]

don't worry about it.

clearly she's got some traits to learn from you.

it'll sink into her, don't worry, your deed will go quite far in her life, ..we all hope.

good job and good luck.

 

[Journer]

i usually open the door for anyone behind me...
i remember once when i was younger (maybe 10 or 11) some bitch was angry at me for holding the door open. i was completely baffled as my rents had been teaching me my whole life this was the right thing to do, and since it didnt seem to harm anyone and seems polite, i did so. she stopped and would not walk through the door. i remember being told by my dad if this ever happens to not say anything and walk on through in front...so i did. to this day, every time i think about it i cant help but think "what kind of dumb bitch comes to ALABAMA of all places on the earth and gets pissed off when she experience courtesy, especially something that is strong southern courtesy?" if i could...i would go back in time and talk to her about her interesting ways and try to figure out wtf her problem is...after calling her a bitch of course. lol

however, ever since then i've never had anything like this happen. occasionally there will be some males who just slow way, way down and make hand motions for me to go ahead, but never just sit there. i suppose the reason is they feel a bit insecure or something like that...maybe i'm wrong. anywho, i'de say at least 90% of all people i open a door for say thanks. good ole southern culture at its best

also, during my stay in japan me and a few other males did this upon seemingly instinct. almost everyone we opened doors for stopped and look for a second, said thanks, and walked through. we finally got asked why we hold doors open by our friends and we explain. after that they all say they desire southern boyfriends because they are much politer than Japaneses men, little do they know! lol