Is drinking to excess most weekends (Sat, maybe Fri also) every weekend make you a....

[CorCentral]

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: AcidBath
Well I feel quite a bit better after the opinions. I guess the real warning sign would be if my kids start to be affected (which has not been an issue).
Three cheers for water and Tylenol before bed.

I hope you're kidding. You should NOT be taking Tylenol if you are drinking that much.

I understand all the medicine label safety notices but some people are just not affected by this. Excederin/Tylenol and Beer for example. If your body has a reaction to you're in for trouble. Same goes for people that are allergic to something! Hell, something as simple as a peanut KILLS people!!

My dad's 62 now and has done the drinking beer/mixing (Excedrin, etc. nothing prescribed) all his life and he's still alive and well. More active than me really.

I would'nt advise it though........ Many weak peanut people out there that would die after drinking a beer and taking 1 aspirin. Not trying to be an ass, but it just has'nt affected me.

Take NyQuil for example, same thing. BUT, the only thing I have noticed with this is....... If you have been drinking, it will make your heart rate go up considerably.

I have'nt taken anything other than off the shelf stuff, too risky.

 

[spidey07]

CorCentral, I'm with you on the labels.

But with that much drinking on a consistent basis Tylenol should be avoided. It's hell on the liver.

 

[AliasX]

Stop doing it. Find something else to enjoy during that time. And seriously, you could save the money you sped on booze and put it aside for you child's education. Don't be selfish.

 

[Descartes]

14 drinks? By yourselves? That seems odd. I can understand having some drinks to relax, but why to that point? It's one thing to have a few beers or even a bottle of wine, but it's another to kick back the equivalent of about 14 shots.

imo.

 

[AcidBath]

Originally posted by: Descartes
14 drinks? By yourselves? That seems odd. I can understand having some drinks to relax, but why to that point? It's one thing to have a few beers or even a bottle of wine, but it's another to kick back the equivalent of about 14 shots.

imo.

Well maybe it boils down to tolerance & definition. I am 6'4" & 260 lbs. 14 Shots for me makes me tipsy but but in no way wasted. And not by ourselves, with friends over.

Drinking to excess would IMO would be unable to drive properly, finding new SNL skits extremely funny, etc. Not necessarily black-out conditions as others have said.

 

[CorCentral]

Originally posted by: spidey07
CorCentral, I'm with you on the labels.

But with that much drinking on a consistent basis Tylenol should be avoided. It's hell on the liver.

I don't take Tylenol........ How is Excedrin though? Like I said, my dad's been taking it a LOOONNNNNG time. He just had a complete checkup because he was worried, and all checks were 90%+ (for a 62 yr old)

 

[db]

If you have 14 drinks in a typical party night, something is wrong.
If you can't not drink, something is wrong, because it means you can not control it.
You might consider why you guys are drinking; in other words, what the drinking attempts to achieve (beyond
"getting smashed"). Did you guys used to do something else on a night like this before the kids came along?

 

[OVERKILL]

Imho,

14 drinks for 1 person in 1 night even a few times a week means you have a problem with alcohol.
Your a parent now.
A part of a parents job is to be a good role model.

Drinking in excess is not good role model material.

Don't forget, kids don't learn by what we say, they learn by what we (do).

 

[Fireman]

Don't worry.
YOUR NOT AN ALCOHOLIC !!!
Alcoholics go to meetings. :beer:

 

[HombrePequeno]

Definitely avoid Tylenol. Shoot for multi-vitamins and lots of water.

Fourteen drinks seems like quite a bit. Even if you weigh a lot that still means you're pretty drunk. I'm not really one to judge as long as it isn't affecting the rest of your life but sh!t that is a lot of calories. Unless you're using barely any Coke in your Jack and Cokes, that booze is your entire days worth of caloric intake.

 

[Saint Nick]

Do whatever you want.

Just don't be a bad parent.

 

[Auric]

jeffersonfailplane.gif (yes, so bad it's limited to 256 colours).

 

[Tiamat]

I would advise decreasing the total amount a bit. Children learn by seeing what their parents do, and copying them. While they are at bed, one time they might just come down and need something and you may not be able to properly care for them. That would not be a very good situation to be in.

 

[compuwiz1]

Originally posted by: AcidBath
So like every weekend the better half and I drink to the point of being wasted almost every Saturday and many Friday nights after the kids go to bed.
We are 28 (me) & 23 (her) with two kids (5 & 2). So I guess my question is if this makes us:
1. Young(ish) and having fun
2. Bad parents
3. Have a drinking problem
4. Normal for stressed parents
5. Something else
Many of you ATOT folks are older and wiser. Are we on a path to trouble? Am I worrying about nothing after my 14th drink tonight?

Nah, you're fine for a few more years. Still in the fun stages of alcoholism.

 

[compuwiz1]

Originally posted by: AcidBath
OK, few thing here:
The wife: http:/www.fixthebike.com/sami.jpg

Damn, Jim, I'd drink too! j/k

She has beautiful eyes.

 

[SacrosanctFiend]

Fucking ridiculous to drink like that with kids, verging on flat-out bad parenting. Hell, its ridiculous to drink like that weekly, even without kids.

 

[Jeff7]

Originally posted by: Tiamat
I would advise decreasing the total amount a bit. Children learn by seeing what their parents do, and copying them. While they are at bed, one time they might just come down and need something and you may not be able to properly care for them. That would not be a very good situation to be in.

That's my thought, too. If they know mommy and daddy got wasted each week, when they have the chance to gain access to any of that stuff, they're going to know it was "ok" to do, because their parents did it.

<---never saw either of his parents drunk, or even close to it.

If it's because of #4, stress, might I suggest finding either a way of preventing the stress from arising in the first place, or else some better way of alleviating it? Getting drunk doesn't really make the stress go away, it prevents you from getting anything remotely productive done during that time, and buying the alcohol just makes for an extra expense for the family to deal with. Take the beer money and put it toward the kids' college education fund, or if you've got one already, put it toward some family vacation, something like that.

Originally posted by: SacrosanctFiend
Fucking ridiculous to drink like that with kids, verging on flat-out bad parenting. Hell, its ridiculous to drink like that weekly, even without kids.

Well, someone had to say it.
(I never got the point of getting drunk, either, nor do I understand the desire to do so.)

 

[mugs]

If you can count to 14 you're not too drunk.

 

[AcidBath]

I am the wife, 24 to be exact! just seeing this post and it s 4am am it pretty much pisses me off! first of all if your a mother wasted and one of your kids has a problem, you immediately sober up! There isn't an option! if you go to go to bed and your kid wake's up puking, you don't sleep! at least I don't! Some of your reply's are gay! you a parentally don't have children, thats obvious, I'm not saying that you have to have 13 drinks to relax, you don't but just because your a parent don't mean your live as drinking is over! do I think my husband drinks too much? yes, but does that effect how good of a dad he is? no, All I'm saying is I have stayed up till after 4am and I know I will be getting up around 7am with my daughter thats just the sacrifice you make being a parent, but it docent make you a bad one!

 

[Alistar7]

Stop being selfish and let your kids share in the fun, poor parenting ftl....

 

[flxnimprtmscl]

Could you go this Saturday night without a drink? If yes, that's a start, but you still have a bit of a problem imo. If not, alcohol owns you.

Btw, I'm not judging. I have a drink or two almost every night during the week (having one right now) but I never drink to the point of being wasted and there are weeks where I don't drink at all.

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: Joemonkey
3. being agnostic/atheist

Funny, I'd claim the complete opposite.

Your other points were valid, though.

OP, you have to give your kids some material to work with when they write their "Obstacles I've had to overcome" essays for scholarship applications.

 

[ViRGE]

Originally posted by: AcidBath
I am the wife, 24 to be exact! just seeing this post and it s 4am am it pretty much pisses me off! first of all if your a mother wasted and one of your kids has a problem, you immediately sober up! There isn't an option! if you go to go to bed and your kid wake's up puking, you don't sleep! at least I don't! Some of your reply's are gay! you a parentally don't have children, thats obvious, I'm not saying that you have to have 13 drinks to relax, you don't but just because your a parent don't mean your live as drinking is over! do I think my husband drinks too much? yes, but does that effect how good of a dad he is? no, All I'm saying is I have stayed up till after 4am and I know I will be getting up around 7am with my daughter thats just the sacrifice you make being a parent, but it docent make you a bad one!

You can't just decide to "sober up", that's not how alcohol works. If you're really wasted, you're going to stay wasted, there's no magical solution that automatically makes you sober so that you can be the best parent you can be.

As for the subject at hand, I'm going to agree with Jeff7 and the like. At the very least you're setting a bad example for your kids, even at their age they're going to be learning something from the experience. The quantity of alcohol listed is also borderline alcoholic, your husband (and possibly you) have a significant problem with alcohol. Finally, I would also share my concern about your ability to be a fit parent during that time; every moment you're the caretaker of your children you're on the clock, and 14 drinks (even in your husband) can be enough to compromise that.

I'll also add some concern about the mention of "friends", driven by the lack of information. How loud are you being, are you sure your kids are actually sleeping, etc? It goes without saying that inebriated people don't always realize how loud they really are. You may be keeping your kids up and you don't know it.

The fact that you are concerned about your husband's drinking is a good sign, it means at some level that you think what you guys are doing is too much. You should discuss the issue and see if you can't find a better option.

PS If reading this thread pisses you off, then perhaps you should read it once more. No one is trying to be judgmental here or otherwise piss you off; it's a community of friends who are trying to help you guys out with your questions.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: AcidBath
I am the wife, 24 to be exact! just seeing this post and it s 4am am it pretty much pisses me off! first of all if your a mother wasted and one of your kids has a problem, you immediately sober up! There isn't an option! if you go to go to bed and your kid wake's up puking, you don't sleep! at least I don't! Some of your reply's are gay! you a parentally don't have children, thats obvious, I'm not saying that you have to have 13 drinks to relax, you don't but just because your a parent don't mean your live as drinking is over! do I think my husband drinks too much? yes, but does that effect how good of a dad he is? no, All I'm saying is I have stayed up till after 4am and I know I will be getting up around 7am with my daughter thats just the sacrifice you make being a parent, but it docent make you a bad one!

No you're a regular "Mother of the Year" candidate. Being an alcoholic doesn't mean you don't love your children but it does prevent you from being the mother you should be.

 

[Sluggo]

Originally posted by: AcidBath
I am the wife, 24 to be exact! just seeing this post and it s 4am am it pretty much pisses me off! first of all if your a mother wasted and one of your kids has a problem, you immediately sober up! There isn't an option! if you go to go to bed and your kid wake's up puking, you don't sleep! at least I don't! Some of your reply's are gay! you a parentally don't have children, thats obvious, I'm not saying that you have to have 13 drinks to relax, you don't but just because your a parent don't mean your live as drinking is over! do I think my husband drinks too much? yes, but does that effect how good of a dad he is? no, All I'm saying is I have stayed up till after 4am and I know I will be getting up around 7am with my daughter thats just the sacrifice you make being a parent, but it docent make you a bad one!

Actually, the sacrifice most couples make is that one parent will limit themselves to 1-2 drinks MAX, so that one parent will have their wits about them should an emergency arise. Would you feel comfortable driving your children to a hospital 3 hours after polishing off 14 drinks? I certainly wouldnt feel comfortable being on the road with you.

You dont become sober if your kids have a problem, you become a wide awake, semi-aware drunk. Just because, as was posted earlier, you are only a bit tipsy after 10+ shots, does not mean that you aren't drunk, it means you body has a very high tolerance for the physical effects of alcohol. You still have a high BAC.