I think my response will be easier to follow if I break your post into parts.
<Part I of IV>
I appreciate your not expecting to convert anyone. At the same time, though, it's predicated on assumptions that don't really hold up. I'm a former Christian who got tired of contorting myself to warp or deny the vast array of science that directly contradicts the Bible.
Well, you yourself contradict the bible right there. There's no such thing as a former Christian.
You were either saved from eternal damnation (due to your sins) by belief in what Jesus did for you on the cross who died in your place or you weren't ever saved. When someone puts even the tiniest amount of genuine faith in the Lord to establish a relationship with Him, that person becomes a new creature in Christ:
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2 Corinthians 5:17
"Therefore if anyone is in Christ, this person is a new creation; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come."
Ephesians 4:24
"And to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness."
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That's why you won't see me say to someone that they should give their life to the Lord. He doesn't want your old, sin-filled life. He wants to give you a new one. What is this new creation that the verse speaks of? It literally is the permanent union of the newly saved person and Jesus Christ. The two become one, and with Jesus as Lord over that person's life, they will go on to do great things until the person goes up to heaven.
It is IMPOSSIBLE for that new creation to be transformed back into the sinful, hell-bound spirit the person once was. It doesn't exist anymore for one, and Jesus said Himself that no one can take a saved person from God. Here are His words detailing this fact, as well as explaining why you were never saved to begin with:
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John 10:26-30
"But you do not believe, because you are not of My sheep. My sheep listen to My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me; and I give them eternal life, and they will never perish; and no one will snatch them out of My hand. My Father, who has given them to Me, is greater than all; and no one is able to snatch them out of the Father’s hand. I and the Father are one.”
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...and to really drive this important point home, through the writings of the apostle Paul, the Lord explains here why absolutely nothing can ever, ever (ever!) separate a saved person from the love of God:
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Romans 8:37-39
"No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord."
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<Part II of IV>
Of being told to hate LGBT people (yes, including in the New Testament) when their sexual orientation is biological and does no harm to anyone. Of not being allowed to question what's true, to think for myself, to let my knowledge evolve and grow.
God created the institution of marriage between a man and his wife in part to give a living illustration of the eternal bond between Jesus and His church that I referred to above. There is an overwhelming amount of references in both the old and new testament to clearly back up the idea that the relationship of the truly saved church and Jesus is compared to that of a marriage, like this passage where Jesus in heaven is called the Lamb of God (after this sinful universe, Satan, and all his followers are put away forever):
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Revelation 19:7-9
Let us rejoice and be glad and give the glory to Him, for the marriage of the Lamb has come and His bride has made herself ready.” It was given to her to clothe herself in fine linen, bright
and clean; for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints. Then he said to me, “Write, ‘Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.’” And he said to me, “These are true words of God.”
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So if the Creator of everyone has defined how relationships are to be, any time we defy Him it is simply a sin by definition. There's really no need to even try to go out of one's way to specify this sin is said to be worse than that one, etc. To Him (as expressed throughout His word), anything sexual other than that between one man and woman united by marriage before God is wrong.
That includes what I went through. I was unsaved and I slept around before marriage... which was sin. I lived with my girlfriend (who eventually became pregnant, and I then married her one week before the baby was born)... which was sin. Even as a married man, I secretly watched a lot of porn hoping no one would find out (though God saw me).... which was sin. I am truly blessed that not only did God forgive me of all my sins once I accepted His free gift of salvation, but He also changed me on the inside to where I don't pursue sinful lusts any more.
So to try to carve out some carefully worded definition to try and make right that which clearly defies God makes no sense. He is the author of anything and everything that is good, He is a Holy God, so it is what He says that matters... not me, or you or anyone else when it is all said and done. This aspect of life too will be accounted for in front of Him. Everyone who is unsaved can try to explain to Him with any excuse they want on that final day, but He will render His judgment against all unrighteousness all the same:
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Hebrews 9:27
"And just as it is appointed for man to die once, and after that comes judgment"
Romans 1:18
"For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth."
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However, the one gigantic falsehood you wrote is just flat out not true. Nowhere does it say that we as Christians are to hate a sinner of any type, including outright enemies. In fact, Jesus commands the opposite:
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Matthew 5:43-44
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you"
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So clearly we are to love anyone, sinful or not, if we as Christians are to do as the Lord says. As I posted before, doing so would be simply following the example of Christ Himself:
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Romans 5:8
"But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."
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That right there is real Christianity in a nutshell. I don't care how many people out there yell and scream words of hate towards another for this reason or that... Jesus loves you! He hates sin, but He has nothing but love for the sinner and only desires that the person will receive Him. He proved His love for each of us by dying in our place for the sins we committed against God and His perfect will for our lives.
The sad thing is, as I've pointed out in earlier posts in this thread, the bible makes it clear that His love alone won't keep you out of hell. It's only God's grace that can keep you out of hell. The word 'grace' means something offered to you that you didn't earn and you don't even deserve. Yes, Jesus died for your sins, but you have to accept the gift of salvation that He is offering:
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John 3:16
"For God so loved the world that He
gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life."
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See the underlined word there? it doesn't say that God loved everyone so much that he just ignored or forgot about their sins so they can go to heaven. No, as I explained in an
earlier post in this thread, if God ignored His own law (the penalty for any sin is death), then He is no longer a perfect judge. So sin always has to be dealt with by death, and Jesus volunteered to die in your place for your sins.
God
gave His Son so you can avoid hell and live in heaven forever. Grace saves you, and it is His love that made His gracious act possible. All you have to do is receive His gift through belief in what He did for you. It couldn't be any easier than that.
<Part III of IV>
For that matter, I find it both strange and telling that folks will thank God for someone recovering from an injury or illness, but not for God dealing that blow in the first place. If you're consistent, you should thank God for killing millions of people with COVID-19 and other diseases, many of them in especially painful ways, simply because they wanted to be around friends and family. That people only thank God for the good things just shows that it's a secular impulse to appreciate the people in our lives. And"that's what God wanted" is not an explanation, because you don't know that even if we make the assumption God is real; it's just a hand-waving excuse to avoid dealing with a world where horrible things happen to good people without any discernible moral reason.
The issue here is you completely ignore the true source of everything bad in all of human history... sin. There was no such thing as evil or terrible circumstances or wickedness or sickness or even death until sin was introduced by His creations who defied Him.
That's the reason why no matter where you go in the world, or no matter how different cultures lived over time, one common emotion shared by most is sadness when a loved one dies. Why? Because we innately know that death is wrong. Even Jesus wept when He came to town and His friend had been declared dead for four days (though He resurrected Him later... this is all in John 11). Death, the ultimate terrible fact of the current human experience, was never meant to be.
However, one of several wonderful outcomes from Jesus laying down His own life for you and me on the cross was that He conquered death by doing so. This is because He never committed one sin His entire life of 33 years, so the law that death is the penalty for sin was unfairly applied to Him.
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Revelation 1:18
"...I died, and behold I am alive forevermore, and I have the keys of Death and Hades."
1 Corinthians 15:55
“O Death, where is your victory? O Grave, where is your sting?”
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So God has the answer to even the worst outcome of this miserable human experience that is caused by the sins you and I committed, as well as everyone around us: salvation through Jesus Christ. Remember, the Lord does not sin, we do. He gets our praise and thankfulness because of His patience and mercy DESPITE our sinful selves.
The law being followed means that any time we sin, we are all guilty to succumb to the first death instantly (separation of the spirit from the body), and nothing required God to save us from forever suffering the second death (eternal separation from Him). Your sentence for being guilty as an unsaved person who has not accepted God's gift of grace has not yet been carried out... and you believe that you can arrogantly resent the One who created you while enjoying His mercy?
You are given a chance to not only escape the perils of hell, but to spend eternity in indescribable bliss, joy and happiness. The only thing asked of you is to accept Him through faith, and somehow He's doing you wrong? He can and will sadly honor your rebellion and rejection of Him if that's what you want, but that poor decision is not His fault. It literally makes zero sense.
<Part IV of IV>
If you rely chiefly on evidence and reason, you can't operate on the possibility that there might be a spiritual element. You operate on the way the universe is observed to work, and if you don't know how something works, you either try to learn how it works using the scientific method (conduct experiments, verify that results hold up under scrutiny) or accept that you have no answer. You don't assign a spiritual origin to something just because you don't have a ready-made corporeal explanation for it. As history has shown, things we thought could only be explained by the spiritual have often turned out to have very solid scientific explanations.
How do you know the divine is involved in anything, really? Your support always boils down to "it's true because the Bible says it's true." But that's a tautology of sorts, a logical loop where you're never allowed to ask if it's really true or just the imaginings of ancient people who didn't have the tools to fully investigate the world around them. And if merely declaring loudly that something is true is enough, then a Buddhist or Hindu has just as much validity as you.
This still reflects what I pointed out earlier: that you act on the assumption that everyone 'knows' your view of the world is true, and just chooses to ignore it. Repeating that doesn't make it any more relevant to non-religious people, and doesn't make it true.
I pointed out how God addresses in the bible the points you make
here and
here.