Is it rude to ask someone how much they earn?

[JMapleton]

Share it with us darling.

It wasn't that much for ATOT standards. I impressed by co-workers, that's all I cared about.

 

[EMPshockwave82]

Is it rude to walk into a board room and set it on the table so everyone else knows where they stand?

WIDWIO

(When In Doubt, Whip It Out)

 

[child of wonder]

Outside of my wife, parents, and very close friends (2 people) I don't tell anyone.

 

[gophins72]

I've had people at my last job come up to me and say "what do you do with all that money" which is intrusive and extremely boorish.

Office politics gets worse when people find out others salaries.

 

[rcpratt]

I don't know about everyone else, but in my experience, these numbers tend to be shared between recent graduates while intoxicated.

 

[Eli]

I've never understood why this was a big deal. It's actually a terminable offense at my place of employment. What's wrong management, got something to hide?

I try and mention my rough hourly wage casually, just to see coworkers reactions. I couldn't care less if anyone knows how much I make.

 

[spidey07]

I've never understood why this was a big deal. It's actually a terminable offense at my place of employment. What's wrong management, got something to hide?

I try and mention my rough hourly wage casually, just to see coworkers reactions. I couldn't care less if anyone knows how much I make.

Because nothing good can come from it. It does nothing but cause jealousy and resentment.

 

[SoulAssassin]

He could be telling the truth, he didn't say in which currency.

$11,000
Per day

Errr...$

 

[lothar]

Depends on who it is.
Telling my mom or a "close" family member or friend? Not a problem. Do I think it's rude? Absolutely not.

Telling employees, co-workers and family/friends that are not so "close" to you? Yes.

 

[Cstefan]

ALWAYS.

It does not depend who, unless you a sizing a offer for a candidate. Discussing pay with fellow employees does not establish the lack of fairness in an organization, just the lack of negotiating skills on the part of the lower paid disgruntled employee. Which will lead to poor performance or attrition, deserved or not.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Because nothing good can come from it. It does nothing but cause jealousy and resentment.

Agreed. I used to work in payroll...imagine if I went around telling everyone else what other people made.

No way in hell would I ever ask someone else what they made or tell anyone what I make. My wife knows...that's about it.

 

[vi edit]

Our parents don't even know how much my wife and I make. All that they know is that we do "ok".

My Dad is pretty open about his income, but he's a municipal worker and that is published each year in the paper. A previous hospital my wife worked at did the same thing. Knowing how much you make really doesn't help anyone IMHO and just harbors resentment if you make more than them.

 

[rcpratt]

Our parents don't even know how much my wife and I make. All that they know is that we do "ok".

My Dad is pretty open about his income, but he's a municipal worker and that is published each year in the paper. A previous hospital my wife worked at did the same thing. Knowing how much you make really doesn't help anyone IMHO and just harbors resentment if you make more than them.

Hmm, my parents know my number. And I know my fathers, or at least approximately. It's hard to know the exact number when variable stock options and bonuses make up such a large part of his income.

 

[dquan97]

Our parents don't even know how much my wife and I make. All that they know is that we do "ok".

My Dad is pretty open about his income, but he's a municipal worker and that is published each year in the paper. A previous hospital my wife worked at did the same thing. Knowing how much you make really doesn't help anyone IMHO and just harbors resentment if you make more than them.

My pay is public info too, just have to know where to look

 

[Perknose]

Is it rude to ask the length of someone's penis?

KT

My [...] is a pubic record.

:awe:

 

[Perknose]

I had probably the biggest paycheck in the history of my department on December 17th and I honestly went around showing my pay stub to everyone I was cool with (not to strangers or people I wasn't "buddies" with).

We're very open about that stuff in my department because we compete with each other on hours worked and commissions.

Gay escort service?

 

[kranky]

Our parents don't even know how much my wife and I make. All that they know is that we do "ok".

My Dad is pretty open about his income, but he's a municipal worker and that is published each year in the paper. A previous hospital my wife worked at did the same thing. Knowing how much you make really doesn't help anyone IMHO and just harbors resentment if you make more than them.

That's it. My parents don't know how much I make. Neither do any of my close friends, and I don't know what any of them make. I have told my wife, but she forgets anyway. If I asked her she'd come up with a number anywhere from $10,000 to $400,000 - she's just bad with numbers.

I don't see anything to be gained by sharing that information. Although I can understand why commissioned salespeople share among themselves.

 

[RPD]

Yes, absolutely. You never know what kind of awkward spot you're putting the other person in. Do they make very little and you're making them self-conscious? Do they make a lot and now they're afraid you'll hit them up for money? In either case the consequence of you knowing their income gives them a potentially legitimate fear that you'll treat them differently.

And then again, there's my coworker who kept pestering me about how much I made. We did totally different jobs and I made more than twice he did (I know because he kept telling me how much he made), but he didn't understand my work and assumed it was about the same stuff he did. That could have created a problem for me at work up to and including being fired if I had disclosed it, so I refused to share the info and he got all pissy at me and it affected our working relationship.

So just don't ask unless you're assisting the person with financial planning, a career move, or something where that information is truly relevant.

I agree with this. If a good friend asked me, I'd tell him abouts how much I make, but it varies due to being 100% commissioned.

Personally I don't mind THAT much. I find that once you make enough to be comfortable and know the situation of the person asking you either don't care or it doesn't matter anyways.

 

[gimmewhitecastles]

its rude here but in some cultures, you need to dispense that info if ur looking to get hitched.