Is someone who doesn't hold the door open for you a

[Exterous]

self absorbed dick-hole? And I'm not saying holding the door open so you can go through first but giving it a little shove or something so it doesn't close immediately behind them when you are right behind that person

 

[IronWing]

If they know you are there then yes.

 

[thebestMAX]

How about when you hold the door open for someone and they (or their whole entourage) just walk through without acknowledging you even exist?

I usually just as "you are welcome" to them.

What is the difference between most likely and probably? You left out female also. They probably do it the most.

 

[rpanic]

When my first son was born I worked nights and I took him everywhere during the day in his stroller. The only people to not hold the door for me were women about 25% of the time they would let the door slam into me or my son depending on if I was pushing or pulling the stroller not once did a man ever do that. Being a man with a baby it was a real eye opener not sure if it would have been different if I was a woman.

 

[Humpy]

I'm not sure it's even worthy of making a judgement over.

It's a door. You should be prepared to navigate through it on your own without any sort of emotional response.

 

[ioni]

If you were actually right behind them, the door wouldn't have shut before you got to It.

 

[rh71]

I always hold it open for others, but really, the best thing to do is not to even look back because then you're obligated to hold it for them. Unless they're right on your tail that is.

 

[GagHalfrunt]

Frankly, I expect them to step out of the way, hold the door open and then thank me for allowing them to serve me. Anyone that doesn't is an asshole that fails to recognize how much more important I am than they are.

 

[Exterous]

You left out female also. They probably do it the most.

Pretty sure women can be dick-holes too but maybe I'm just using mine wrong

I'm not sure it's even worthy of making a judgement over.

It's a door. You should be prepared to navigate through it on your own without any sort of emotional response.

For some of us our lives are so nearly perfect that these constitute major negative events for the year

 

[IronWing]

When my first son was born I worked nights and I took him everywhere during the day in his stroller. The only people to not hold the door for me were women about 25% of the time they would let the door slam into me or my son depending on if I was pushing or pulling the stroller not once did a man ever do that. Being a man with a baby it was a real eye opener not sure if it would have been different if I was a woman.

That's a totally different situation though. If you hold the door for someone pushing a stroller then that person will be in front of you and are likely to immediately do something annoying like stop in the doorway to adjust the stroller/baby or block the aisle or barf on the floor. There's a reason the first people to be thrown off a sinking ship are people with strollers.

 

[pauldun170]

I used to be the type of person who held doors.
Years of people not returning the courtesy with a simple thank you or acknowledgement finally took care of that problem.
Nowadays I only hold doors for people who are most likely to hold it in return and\or say thank you.
When you work in a diverse workplace, you soon figure out who is going to say thank you and who is not.

 

[GagHalfrunt]

There's a reason the first people to be thrown off a sinking ship are people with strollers.

Damn straight!! That line "women and children first" has been wildly distorted throughout time. It doesn't mean that they're first in line to get in the lifeboats, it means toss them overboard first so that they're not in the way of the lifeboats. So many people have that backwards.

 

[aigomorla]

how is it a pole when there is only a "YES" for an answer.

And no I don't think they are all the time.
It really depends on the situation.

What if they never saw you because they were preoccupied with something else?

What if they had no free hands to stand in the door way and pass the door to you?

What if he was in the middle of robbing the store / venue, do you really want that person to hold the door for you as he runs out?

So no, i dont think its always a impolite move when someone doesn't hold the door for me. If they do, then i always comment with a "thank you".
If they dont, then i just go on with my own life and not care about simple things like this. I have more important things to worry about and complain about like which lesser of two evils will become our next president.

 

[Imp]

Don't care anymore. I go out of my way to use the door that no one else is using...

 

[IronWing]

^^ The hipster door

 

[TonyG]

I have found that the majority(90%+) of guys will acknowledge the fact that you held the door for them, while very few woman will even glance your way, much less say thanks.

 

[Imp]

^^ The hipster door

Absolutely... I don't have tattoos though.

 

[alcoholbob]

I have found that the majority(90%+) of guys will acknowledge the fact that you held the door for them, while very few woman will even glance your way, much less say thanks.

im guessing its mostly young women that dont acknowlege that you hold the door for them?

Its simply biology. Young women are attractive and get a lot of free stuff because people want to mate with them. They are used to guys giving them gifts, paying for their meals, getting into clubs and events for free while men have to pay. Its simply a result of being inundated with attention while having a monopoly over reproduction/eggs.

In my experience older women are much more polite and thank you for being corteous, most likely because they no longer get that kind of attention or unearned societal freebies anymore.

 

[BurnItDwn]

At work we are supposed to use our badge to unlock the door. We are not supposed to "hold the door" as they want everybody to badge in. So, anybody who doesnt hold the door is merely doing their duty.

 

[feralkid]

I used to be the type of person who held doors.
Years of people not returning the courtesy with a simple thank you or acknowledgement finally took care of that problem.
Nowadays I only hold doors for people who are most likely to hold it in return and\or say thank you.
When you work in a diverse workplace, you soon figure out who is going to say thank you and who is not.

You can say it; it's whitey.

 

[MongGrel]

I usually will for most people.

Of course if you're working somewhere where you are badging in you would not do it, would even be a violation of most companies policies. Where a few times I had left the house in that past and forgot my badge, you would have to go over to the main security office and pick up a temp for the day.

Most young girls I don't even bother with these days, they have stupid attitudes and stopped doing it after being tempted to slam it on a few of them after the fact.

 

[pauldun170]

You can say it; it's whitey.

Age, culture, country of origin, gender....diversity is more than just skin color.

 

[Linux23]

I always hold it open for others, but really, the best thing to do is not to even look back because then you're obligated to hold it for them. Unless they're right on your tail that is.

I normally speed up and ride their backs so I don't have to open the door myself.

 

[Linux23]

At work we are supposed to use our badge to unlock the door. We are not supposed to "hold the door" as they want everybody to badge in. So, anybody who doesnt hold the door is merely doing their duty.

Big thumbs up on this policy.

 

[Red Squirrel]

At work we are supposed to use our badge to unlock the door. We are not supposed to "hold the door" as they want everybody to badge in. So, anybody who doesnt hold the door is merely doing their duty.

I'd love if all our buildings had fob access. Lot of them have door codes and we have to give the codes over the phone. Stupidest policy ever. I constantly bring that up that we should not be doing that. Anybody can call in saying they're so and so contractor and get a door code, then sabotage equipment or something. Great way to steal copper too.