I don't understand why so many people have to stick their noses into the planning process of someone else's wedding. BIL is getting married and SIL is apparently bent out of shape that her 8 year old son isn't going to be the ring bearer. Keeps sending him texts along the lines of "I don't want to make it an issue but I just don't know why you don't want your nephew to be the ring bearer. Its your wedding and you can do what you want but if you could let me know the reason why you don't want him in the wedding I would appreciate it so I can help him deal with his disappointment. He's your only nephew so I can't understand this on my own."
First thats some passive aggressive bullshit right there. Second, BIL never said the nephew would be in the wedding. The SIL started asking them who the ring bearer was going to be less than 12 hours after the engagement announcement and didn't like the answer "We're not going to have a ring bearer or flower girl." (The nephew is terribly behaved so there is a decent chance the nephew won't do what he is supposed to on that day anyway) Lastly, and most importantly, its not your goddamn wedding. If they want the nephew to be in it, they'll ask. If they don't ask don't try to make them do something they aren't interested in doing for their ceremony.