Aikouka
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- Nov 27, 2001
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I think that goes back to a term that I used before... heavy handed... and arguably unfair. I mean... isn't it saying that if you don't exert the utmost level of control over your daughter, then she's going to likely have a child out of wedlock? There are two things that come to mind here...There is good reason for that control, and it is unplanned pregnancies.
1. I would expect excessive amounts of control to be related to rebellion from teens. As kids grow up, they transition from a sort of mimic phase to this phase of self-exploration, which is when they really form their own identity. Of course, when you combine this with the other changes of puberty, it's where kids often become the moody, self-absorbed brats that us old fogies often complain about. But the idea is that with a teen/young adult's strong focus on self (individualism), trying to shelter them would likely cause more rebellion. (Obviously, not all kids are the same, so this will vary quite a bit.)
2. Ultimately, isn't it all about trust? It's the idea is that you can raise your child well enough to make good decisions in life. Speaking of that, I think one of the issues is that young adults often don't understand the repercussions of such actions. Now, I'm not talking about the meme "how is babby formed?", but what having a child really means in the long term. However, I'd argue that young adults tend to focus more on the here and now rather than tomorrow let alone five years from now. On the flip side, even if you attempt to scare teens to try to keep them out of each other's pants, it isn't always going to work. So, it's important to stress that if you're going to make that potentially life-altering choice, be safe about it.
Ultimately, I feel like your remarks (even the ones I didn't quote) are generalizing a bit too much and maybe expecting the worst out of people. Do people end up like you say? Sure, I don't doubt it one bit, but let's hope that we can at least push a sense of responsibility and understanding onto kids.
Honestly, this is a whoooooooooole other topic that's a big ol' can of worms. However, I don't think it's nearly as clear-cut as you think.Why do you think so many minortiies kill each other?