Over the years, I have come and gone on this message board. I've made a lot of good friends and learned some surprising and occasionally important things. I have also bared my soul... I've been very emotionally naked and honest here.
I've talked a lot about my marriage and how my husband and I have struggled to make what essentially was a mistake to begin with work. We've been going to a counselor, I've been going to an individual therapist, but my husband doesn't really think there is any need for him to go to an individual counselor. Our session today made it pretty clear to me that there is no hope for our marriage (barring some kind of miracle) and that my life is going to change in a very big way soon.
I will be ok... I've grown and I've got a great support system. I even have an excellent job waiting for me after the new year, it is just a matter of paperwork. My husband and I will continue to go to the counselor for some time because we have children to think of, and a domestic nuclear war is not in their best interests.
For all you bitter men who have been screwed over by women in the past, don't worry about the Mister. I have no desire to screw him over. We will work out a fair settlement, and he will be free to find happiness without the baggage of a vindictive ex-spouse. I have never been that way and won't suddenly start now.
For all of you who have encouraged me to stand up for myself and be strong, Thank You. I did that and apparently it was a deal killer for the marriage, but hey, I feel much better about myself than I have in years. And THAT is the best thing I can give to my kids.
The reason why I am saying goodbye is threefold. 1) I tend to disclose to much of my private life, and I can't do that any longer. 2) I won't have time to post anymore... being a working professional and a single mom will take all of my time and then some. 3) It is a way of me closing a chapter in my life and moving on. It's a symbolic thing.
I wish each and every one of you well. I won't be logging on again so don't PM me. If you really want to stay in touch, I check This E-Mail on a regular basis so you can give me a holler there.
Be Blessed and Be Well~
Isla the Defeated
I've talked a lot about my marriage and how my husband and I have struggled to make what essentially was a mistake to begin with work. We've been going to a counselor, I've been going to an individual therapist, but my husband doesn't really think there is any need for him to go to an individual counselor. Our session today made it pretty clear to me that there is no hope for our marriage (barring some kind of miracle) and that my life is going to change in a very big way soon.
I will be ok... I've grown and I've got a great support system. I even have an excellent job waiting for me after the new year, it is just a matter of paperwork. My husband and I will continue to go to the counselor for some time because we have children to think of, and a domestic nuclear war is not in their best interests.
For all you bitter men who have been screwed over by women in the past, don't worry about the Mister. I have no desire to screw him over. We will work out a fair settlement, and he will be free to find happiness without the baggage of a vindictive ex-spouse. I have never been that way and won't suddenly start now.
For all of you who have encouraged me to stand up for myself and be strong, Thank You. I did that and apparently it was a deal killer for the marriage, but hey, I feel much better about myself than I have in years. And THAT is the best thing I can give to my kids.
The reason why I am saying goodbye is threefold. 1) I tend to disclose to much of my private life, and I can't do that any longer. 2) I won't have time to post anymore... being a working professional and a single mom will take all of my time and then some. 3) It is a way of me closing a chapter in my life and moving on. It's a symbolic thing.
I wish each and every one of you well. I won't be logging on again so don't PM me. If you really want to stay in touch, I check This E-Mail on a regular basis so you can give me a holler there.
Be Blessed and Be Well~
Isla the Defeated