Originally posted by: Redviffer
And with all that, there are even worse things you could be doing right at this moment. (Iraq???)
I'm in the same boat, but it's better and what I used to do in the military, so I'll keep coming in... now if only they would give us free coffee.
no doubt that there could be worse things ... you could say that about any situation, and yes i am happy that i have a job. Are people with jobs not allowed to complain about the hole they are in? are civi's not allowed to complain without Iraq being brought up? I'm not saying that I got the worst job on the planet, and that everyone should feel sorry for me.
What i am saying is that this job sucks, it might not suck for the next guy in line, but it sucks for me....and that the grass is always greener on the other side. How many of us used to dream about making a boat load of money in a job with no stress and no responsibility? ALL of use, that's how many. Well I have that job...and I hate it.
This isnt where I pictured myself when I took this job. Somewhere between getting drunk and puking in a garbage can in college and now (age 32 if it matters) I developed ambition, pride, and the strive to leave my mark on this world. My boss is a mirco-manager that has to have his thumb on everything. I often wonder why they pay me...or hired me. It's obvious that he wants to do everthing himself, and his way. To top it off, I can look around the office right now and count 6 other MechE's that feel the same way. We are all mindless drones... punch it at 7:00 .. punch out at 5:00 do it again the next day.
sure..i could quit right now. but I have more to worry about than just me...If all I had to worry about was me then I would have left a long time ago. We all talk big.."i can leave when ever i want to " or " fvck i'd quit if it was me" unfortunately life isnt that simple anymore. A lot of peeps will piss on this thread about how I should be thankful for this and that...and im not denying that...i am thankful, but i guess im looking for more
....it's true what they say (whomever they are)..money truly CAN'T buy happiness. hindsight is 20/20, etc, etc...all the clichés apply.
Originally posted by: Ilmater
Fvck that! We need a psychiatrist!
Lighten up OP. It's not like you'll be doing that forever. I'm assuming that you have a college education, right? If so, you're far better off than many others.
Plus, if you don't like it, do something about it. Got a wife that wants to take a vacation? Tell her you can't do it. If she loves you and wants the best for BOTH of you, she'll understand.
Dude, I was getting deeper and deeper into debt for a long time. It was managable, but it got worse and worse. When I got out of college, I had a good amount of credit card debt ($13k), but instead of paying it off with my well-paying job (which would have been easy) I chose to spend like I didn't have $300 payments every month. I finally decided that just because people expected me to be willing to "put in a little more" on things or "buy things just because" that I didn't give a fvck. The only thing in my life that prevents me from being utterly happy is my debt.
So one day I decided that buying everything I wanted that cost $30 or less was not a good idea, and I put a stop to it. I'm now paying down my debt and very quickly raising my credit rating. I was down to a C rating without having ever missed a payment on anything. That's sad. In a year from now, I'll have two major bills paid off (car and $3k TV) and I can honestly say I'm happier because of it.
So tell your wife there's no vacation this year, pay off some big debts with high interest rates, and after awhile, find a different job. Look on the bright side: you can look for a job that pays the same and spend all the time you want doing it. You don't have to jump on the first thing that comes along because you can just turn down jobs that you wouldn't enjoy or wouldn't pay enough.
it's not about debt ... its about loosing track of what makes one happy, about selling out in order to achive that mystical american dream, and on a friday afternoon making that realization all at once...that you too are a sellout...and feeling trapped in your job. no im not the first one and i wont be the last. but i felt like sharing, venting, and giving others the opportunity to do the same.
we make choices and we have to leave with them. i am happy in all aspects of my life...great wife, great family, great friends, etc...but i have a void where there should be career fullfillment, yet im not willing to give up the paycheck .... and I'm fully aware of that choice...thats the parts that sucks.