I got thrown off my game. I'm sorry for being a dick lately.
You have no game. You should be focused on your problems instead of trolling others
You see...I am a single dad. Lil rudeguy is 16 and I've had him full time since he was 1. I've always made sure he is taken care of, never asked for a handout. His mom is a deadbeat who doesn't work. The only thing I have ever asked her to do is pick him up from school so I could work. For 10 years that worked. Last year I started paying her to do it because it wasn't worth fighting with her about gas money.
My fiancée is 41. She had her first kid at 18. Her parents were able to send her to Europe to avoid the bullshit other's would throw at her. Her birth control pill failed due to a freaking antibiotic they figured out.
The dad was a nice guy, but he was 20 and tried to help out as much as he could. I am glad they didn't make the mistake and just get married over it.
She had a second kid with a guy that she dated a long time at 26 years old. Once she was pregnant (this time grape fruit was the culprit), he moved on and was a real dead beat dad. We are still fighting with him on $47k in back child support. He kept bringing her to court and forcing her to travel back to Florida to fight it. She was unsuccessful in the past because she didn't understand how she can use the internet and books to fight for her cause.
Her third kid was at 30, some military guy that swept her off her feet and promised her and her kid's the world and proposed to her. She got pregnant.
They are separated and after three months he started at least sending her money for his son. It's still a difficult situation.
Fast forward to this year. The first day of school I drop him off in the morning. I get a call at 3 pm from lil rudeguy. His mom didn't show. I left work and picked him up. That night his mom told him that she had to babysit, so she wasn't going to be able to pick him up from school. Well shit. So the next day I left work early again to get him from school. But I can't lose my job, so we transferred him to online schooling.
Doesn't the school have after care? Who is monitoring his online schooling? He is 16, maybe he is self-managing...being you bragged about farting with him in a lobby making others smell your farts; I have doubts. I hope he succeeds.
However; at 16, doesn't he a bus or can bike/walk home? if not, why not.
So for the past 2 weeks I've had to run around getting all the paperwork and dumb stuff for school taken care of even though I had no idea what I was doing.
He is 16 years old. He has been in school for 10 years probably. How can you not know what to do?
Of course his insulin pump picked this time to act up. Well fuck me. I'm a contractor right now, so no insurance. I don't get much of a choice, so I started the paperwork to get him a new pump. But the first thing the pump companies want is insurance info. Apparently paying cash is something they aren't used to. I'm still fighting that battle.
So post on a diabetic forum. I am sure you will find help. Have you looked into Medicaid?
My g/f is on military insurance, but took the initiative to get Medicaid too as a back up if things go south. Surprisingly, there is a lot of government aid out there.
Her kids are on free lunch, she is getting food stamps, and she is looking for work now. We had the problem of getting her to six months of residency in Florida.
That said, I am paying all the bills. I thought I was going to keep my M3 after all, but that ended up with 3.5 dependents (one my dream girl from high school, the .5 is her 22 year old daughter that still needs help time to time) and one income plus my credit card companies deciding in March when I divorced my ex to pull a credit report, see my mortgage company reporting me 3 years+ delinquent and take me from 10% average rates to a solid 25% APR. It was like the perfect storm. I called those companies right away and told them the situation, that I couldn't afford to pay at the new APR's and that I never paid just a minimum payment with any of them / nor was I ever late (usually I paid two weeks early, based on my aggressive payments I was more than 3 months+ ahead with many companies that considered early payments counting for future payments).
The funny thing is now those same companies are asking to lower their rates since they now realize I was always paying way more than my minimums and sending in 4-5 figure payoffs at times. I am on the fence of filing a bankruptcy now. My mortgage company fucked me, then my credit cards did right after having to put $30k of divorce / moving costs / etc on them. Three? years ago I knocked down $80k of debt (mostly from my second college education).
Anyhow, the kids are happy. We get them to and from school. The 15 year old gets a bus, the 10 year old she usually drives. I have the luxury that my job isn't just in 8 hour blocks so sometimes I can take a break and drive with her to get him. He likes it when I am there too.
So now I am buying clothes (I bought a full 10 days of clothes for the 10 year old 6 months ago, this past weekend I now had to buy another week of clothing because he out grew them all), bought bikes, bought laptops and phones, bought school supplies, etc for kids that are not even mine. IMHO, you either want to be a dad or don't. You can't blame anyone else. I am not saying some single parents have it rough or even impossible, but I am saying many don't know how to get the help they need.
So yea...I've been a bit stressed. Sorry for taking it out on you guys.
Focus on your shit first, then start fucking with people on-line and in reality.
At least you are focused on the kid.