I've been traveling for over a month now... make it stop

[jaedaliu]

I said, in general. I'm not talking about mega-companies or a group needing specialists. Out of college, a medium to small group/company doesn't want to pay for someone's relocation.

But you lose a valuable time of your life that you'll never get back. The years before 30 are much more valuable than the later ones.

I'm sorry your meaningful years of life are about to end. Over 70% your valuable years are used up.

So, what exactly did you do for Seattle? That you dedicated 3.5 years of time and energy to the city?

It's been said already in this thread what you should do, I'll just repeat:
1) Figure out where you want to live. You want to live in a major metropolis. There aren't many in the US. According to Wiki, NYC, LA, Chicago, Houston, Philly, Phoenix, San Antonio, San Diego, Dallas, San Jose are the top 10. Scratch LA off your list because it's a spread out area. San Jose is already small. So you have 8 cities to choose from, cross out the ones you've already decided not to live at.
2) Get a job in the city you want to live in. Put on your cover letter that you won't need relocation costs if you think that'll help you with landing an interview. You can tell them at the interview that you need a week to pack your stuff and drive cross country.
3) Get a small apartment near your work. It's going to cost a lot because it costs a lot to rent in any major city, but that's the price you pay to live in a city and walk to work.

 

[KoolAidKid]

Once again, all of you trying to help him are missing the point of a trident thread. He wants an audience to complain to, not solutions to his many 'problems'.

 

[Ns1]

Once again, all of you trying to help him are missing the point of a trident thread. He wants an audience to complain to, not solutions to his many 'problems'.

This.

 

[TridenT]

I'm sorry your meaningful years of life are about to end. Over 70% your valuable years are used up.

So, what exactly did you do for Seattle? That you dedicated 3.5 years of time and energy to the city?

It's been said already in this thread what you should do, I'll just repeat:
1) Figure out where you want to live. You want to live in a major metropolis. There aren't many in the US. According to Wiki, NYC, LA, Chicago, Houston, Philly, Phoenix, San Antonio, San Diego, Dallas, San Jose are the top 10. Scratch LA off your list because it's a spread out area. San Jose is already small. So you have 8 cities to choose from, cross out the ones you've already decided not to live at.
2) Get a job in the city you want to live in. Put on your cover letter that you won't need relocation costs if you think that'll help you with landing an interview. You can tell them at the interview that you need a week to pack your stuff and drive cross country.
3) Get a small apartment near your work. It's going to cost a lot because it costs a lot to rent in any major city, but that's the price you pay to live in a city and walk to work.

I cannot speak to everything I did in or for Seattle. There were some organizations that I contributed to and an overall group that I put quite a bit of time into. It was a fruitless endeavor.

Finding a city I want to live in is the first problem that I have to figure out. All that other stuff is obvious.

 

[hans030390]

I know you will keep telling yourself and everyone else otherwise, but you really make it sound like you will be unhappy no matter where you are at. When you have this many people saying the problem lies with YOU, you'd think you'd start to listen. Maybe not. I just think you're in denial about what really makes you unhappy in life and are chasing a phantom that will continue to leave you disappointed as always.

 

[JEDIYoda]

wHY DON`T YOU TRAVEL THE WORLD???

If you don`t have to money to travel to India....
Buy yourself a bucket....
take a dump in the bucket.....
place your head in the bucket and pretend that you are in India......

 

[Zstream]

Head to Saint Louis, not the city and you will find cheaper housing, plenty of jobs and low traffic. I'm talking about Webster groves, Maryland heights, Clayton, Fenton, Saint Charles etc.. I'm sure this is like many other locations but the outskirts of STL is a nice mix of city and laziness

 

[OverVolt]

YOU PICKED SHIT CITIES. caps

 

[TridenT]

I'm in Boston until Monday. Hopefully it's great. If not, I'm moving to austin, SF, Or Portland. No income tax and cheap nice apartments in north austin (with attached garages!!!) is a real winner in my book. Commuting down at night takes very little time. (I'll live close to my job so that I can ride my bike in)

 

[TridenT]

Sweet jesus... I don't know where to get an apartment. It seems like every building is either horribly maintained and/or noisy as fuck.

I was trying to be cost efficient and find a reasonably priced place but everything had horror stories. I tried to find some luxury/non-cost-efficient places and it's the same shit! People are like, "Well, the apartment is beautiful but... god I can hear everything my neighbors are doing. Bros are also trashing the entire place. Nowhere to park and cars get broken into a lot. Grounds are never cleaned and drunks are everywhere..." etc.

It seems hopeless. Apparently I had the most amazing apartment ever when I lived in Seattle. Noise was an issue here or there (I lived in a building that was next to rich kid buildings that were party-types) but it was never a real problem for me... My building itself was amaze-balls because it was almost all owner-occupied.

 

[Red Squirrel]

You did everything wrong, that's why. Stop spending money on useless travel and find a job and settle. You are just spending tons of money and now probably can't afford a house and will be stuck living in crappy apartments where everything is going to go wrong and you wont be able/allowed to fix it yourself.

You probably would enjoy a more laid back environment in a small town with not too many people. Move to Canada's north. But PLEASE not Northern Ontario. Maybe Nunavut.

Not going to find development here though unless you start your own business. Mobile apps are pretty big these days, try to think of a time waster game concept and you might strike gold. Been wanting to look into that myself... look at how much money games like candy crush make, it's crazy. Heck, that one that uses the SMB pipes and took the guy like half an hour to code. It's practically like winning the lotto.

 

[pete6032]

OP did you find a job, what city are you looking for apartments in?

 

[TridenT]

OP did you find a job, what city are you looking for apartments in?

I just started applying for some jobs. So, no job. I was looking at Austin. Apartments in Austin over 500sqft tend to trend towards $1-1.50/sqft a month (But some are in the $2-4 range, especially "luxury" apartments). And regardless, I have a limit to how much I can spend a month anyway... and some cities (SF) don't allow me to even enter for my limit unless I get a serious pay increase. ($1500/month being the highest I want to spend since my net income would be ~$4000-5000/month in most cities. I could pay more but I want to pay $800-1000/month for a decent 450-600sqft apartment. (Depends on how the space is utilized))

 

[slugg]

Have you interviewed for any jobs at all? I'm trying to understand why you're so confident that you can get a high paying job in any city you want. Because you don't sound hireable.

 

[Capt Caveman]

Thank god, you're not looking to live in Boston.

 

[x-alki]

People, stop trying to help TridenT. He never takes advice as his posting history here shows. Just ignore the little fruit loop fucker.

 

[Greenman]

Have you interviewed for any jobs at all? I'm trying to understand why you're so confident that you can get a high paying job in any city you want. Because you don't sound hireable.

This is what I was thinking. Are developers a rare breed? Is it the software equivalent of a medical degree? Or is the op deluded and on his way to a high paying glamours career in the food service industry?

 

[OverVolt]

Did you stop in any small towns along the way Trident? Probably not, and you probably won't. I think I understand trident threads now!

 

[TridenT]

Did you stop in any small towns along the way Trident? Probably not, and you probably won't. I think I understand trident threads now!

For gas and a candy bar, sure. Did I stop for anything else? No...

 

[TridenT]

Another month on the road... maybe more. I can afford it but I don't wanna!

 

[OverVolt]

Ashville. Somewhat hickish in some parts. Great town. Not many tech jobs but I'm sure some operation around there could use your skills.

San Fran really is a tech center of the US. You might be better off staying there. Although the housing boom is a crisis in the works for the city in my opinion.

 

[RGN]

I am a city person. I am not a person who is into ghetto shitholes though. (For instance, most of Chicago and San Diego) The gentrified areas are what I am interested in because they have nicer buildings and less people who are shooting up occupying said buildings. Or, if they do shoot up, at least they don't do it in the street as much. That's always nice.

Where the fuck you are from that "most of Chicago and San Diego" are considered "ghetto shitholes"

 

[Red Squirrel]

Have you even considered a small city? Maybe you think you like big cities but actually don't.

In a small city you can have a quiet house that you own vs shared walls, commute will be 5-10 minutes, cost of living is not going to be through the roof... there are lot of perks.

I know personally I would not be able to stand living in a big city. They're nice to visit but not live in. Also too expensive.

Since you are somehow surviving without a job, instead of trying to find a job, use that time to start your own gig like make a mobile game like flappy bird or something. It seems crazy the simple things that make it big.

I've been toying with the idea of doing that myself on my spare time. need to think of a simple game concept that has not really been done on mobile and do it. It seems you can take any existing idea, add "on mobile" to it and it's a new killer thing.

The guys who made candy crush, angry birds etc are pretty much living off of their creations.

 

[Greenman]

I just started applying for some jobs. So, no job. I was looking at Austin. Apartments in Austin over 500sqft tend to trend towards $1-1.50/sqft a month (But some are in the $2-4 range, especially "luxury" apartments). And regardless, I have a limit to how much I can spend a month anyway... and some cities (SF) don't allow me to even enter for my limit unless I get a serious pay increase. ($1500/month being the highest I want to spend since my net income would be ~$4000-5000/month in most cities. I could pay more but I want to pay $800-1000/month for a decent 450-600sqft apartment. (Depends on how the space is utilized))

You're basing your budget on an income you don't have, from a job that you haven't applied for, in a city you don't know the location of. You're either the most confidant person I've ever run across, or the stupidest.

 

[Maximilian]

People, stop trying to help TridenT. He never takes advice as his posting history here shows. Just ignore the little fruit loop fucker.

I tried froot loops for the first time last month. Didn't taste as good as they looked