Jilted bride sues ex - fiance for $100 K

[spacejamz]

eh

it would mean she breached teh 'contract to marry' first as he had resonable beleif she would be faithful D:

what is he going to do? photoshop pictures of her with someone else? or maybe the judge will just take his word that she cheated without any proof....

 

[ShawnD1]

what is he going to do? photoshop pictures of her with someone else? or maybe the judge will just take his word that she cheated without any proof....

This is why you should always get your friends to have documented proof that they slept with your wife. Then when the turns on you, you have videos and pictures showing your best friend nailing your wife and you can play the "she cheated on me" card.

 

[Bateluer]

again...without knowing her financial situation, how can you make this assumption that this doesnt make sense FOR HER???

It was evidently enough spending to make the fiance balk and want out. Potential husband doesn't sound like a douchebag to me at all, sounds like he has some sense and saw where this marriage was heading.

 

[Zargon]

what is he going to do? photoshop pictures of her with someone else? or maybe the judge will just take his word that she cheated without any proof....

I would go with the photoshop over the trying to get the judge to believe you w/o proof

maybe get a friend to nail her and take pics

 

[Deeko]

She spent her money on THEIR wedding....He flakes out at the last minute after telling his friends that he didnt want to get married anyway but still tells her he wants to get married so she has no clue he is going to flake. I don't blame her for trying to get some of it back.

Come on - its not that simple. Maybe he was starting to see signs that he didn't want to marry her. Maybe his friends convinced him to break it off, and he agreed that he would, but he wasn't internally convinced. Its really not always that easy to tell your finace you don't want to get married anymore, you do realize that, right? Agreeing to marry someone isn't a legally binding contract, and telling a friend you'll break it off certainly isn't either.

Plus - I mean, come on, she listed the fact that he went to a strip club, got a lap dance, and didn't answer his phone in the middle of the night. She legitimately put that in the lawsuit. That doesn't tell you her story might not be as "oh-woe-is-me" as it she makes it seem?

 

[alkemyst]

pic of bride:

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/40821215/ns/today-today_people/

If one read the article in the OP they'd see that.

 

[alkemyst]

Come on - its not that simple. Maybe he was starting to see signs that he didn't want to marry her. Maybe his friends convinced him to break it off, and he agreed that he would, but he wasn't internally convinced. Its really not always that easy to tell your finace you don't want to get married anymore, you do realize that, right? Agreeing to marry someone isn't a legally binding contract, and telling a friend you'll break it off certainly isn't either.

Plus - I mean, come on, she listed the fact that he went to a strip club, got a lap dance, and didn't answer his phone in the middle of the night. She legitimately put that in the lawsuit. That doesn't tell you her story might not be as "oh-woe-is-me" as it she makes it seem?

As far as the stripclub goes to me it's more about her being understanding and then him not giving her the respect to at least pick up.

I am married to a woman that wants be to see some of Japan's men's clubs...she doesn't want to be there when I am, but fuck if she calls me I better take some time out to at least tell her how it's going or it will be my last furlow.

 

[Deeko]

As far as the stripclub goes to me it's more about her being understanding and then him not giving her the respect to at least pick up.

I am married to a woman that wants be to see some of Japan's men's clubs...she doesn't want to be there when I am, but fuck if she calls me I better take some time out to at least tell her how it's going or it will be my last furlow.

Yea, but lets be realistic here - a guy going out and getting hammered with his buddies on his bachelor party is plenty likely to just be drunk and asleep. I know if I'm sleeping after a night of hard drinking, a cell phone sure as hell isn't going to wake me up.

 

[Zargon]

Plus - I mean, come on, she listed the fact that he went to a strip club, got a lap dance, and didn't answer his phone in the middle of the night. She legitimately put that in the lawsuit. That doesn't tell you her story might not be as "oh-woe-is-me" as it she makes it seem?

seriously. no doubt either at another strip club avoiding her because shes trying to stalk him during his bachelor party, or pass the hell out

 

[Whisper]

OMG he got a lapdance at a strip club during his bachelor party??? for shaaaaaaaaaaaaame!

I agree, that part's over the top.

However, the article also mentions that he'd been telling others the wedding was off long before he'd informed her of that sentiment. If that's the case, and he continued to let her spend money to setup a wedding that he knew wasn't going to happen, he's a dick and deserves to pay at least half of the expenses.

I'll agree that it's tough to tell someone you don't want to get married. And it could be even harder if she's throwing $10k here, $30k there; however, that's all the more reason to say, "you know, maybe we should slow down a bit here..."

It's also entirely possible that he was very reasonable and she's just bitter.

 

[Zargon]

yeah. with what passes for journalism these days the womans neighbors brothers kid said that he heard her say it over the phone to someone

and they are reporting it as fact.

or, he got drunk and said it to a bridesmaid and hes totally screwed

 

[dardarla]

This is why you should always get your friends to have documented proof that they slept with your wife. Then when the turns on you, you have videos and pictures showing your best friend nailing your wife and you can play the "she cheated on me" card.

So you ask your friend to nail your wife & keep proof "just in case" she turns on you? Is it still cheating if you know about it?

 

[alkemyst]

Yea, but lets be realistic here - a guy going out and getting hammered with his buddies on his bachelor party is plenty likely to just be drunk and asleep. I know if I'm sleeping after a night of hard drinking, a cell phone sure as hell isn't going to wake me up.

I have only witnessed those avoiding answering their phones when their chicks call. Chances are this call came in way prior to closing anything down.

 

[mvbighead]

How much money does she have in the bank? how much does she earn? What you don't know??? Then how the hell do you know if she is spending too much???

It is incredibly stupid of you too make a statement that she is spending too much if you don't even know how much she makes or has...

Rich people spend insane amount of money on a wedding...why the fuck should you care??

Truth is, I don't care. Never said that I did. Read the post bub.

As to what I actually did post, yes, if a couple are setting up a marriage, each should have some aspect of financial responsibility in the whole deal, UPFRONT. Especially when you're talking about that much coin, and coin that she clearly has an interest in. Given the amount of expenses, it would've been easy for most couples to simple have one say to the other, "Can you go to X Cathedral to pay for the reservation?" "Can you go to the Y flower shop and pay for the flowers?" There are a multitude of other options, but the point is that there should be some financial input from both parties, unless one party is simply expected to foot the bill for everything.

I dealt with the same when I got married. I didn't just sit back and ride shotgun while my wife paid for everything. I asked where I could help, what I could pay for, etc. If she didn't get at least some sort of financial involvement from him, as I said before, that is her being foolish.

 

[PingSpike]

$ 30, 000 to reserve a banquet hall outside Chicago
$11 ,000 for flowers and spot lighting
$ 10,000 for an orchestra
$ 5 ,000 on her wedding dress and veil

No wonder he called things off, sounds like she was too expensive to keep. And, it sounds like she has a little bit of a control problem. So what if his whereabouts are unknown. If they get married, will he have to report in to her all the time, or maybe wear a tracking collar?

Sued for breach of promise to marry? What someones does with their body is their business.

Even if this dude ends up getting shafted and forced to pay for the whole failed wedding, he's still getting off way easier than if he'd gone through with it.

 

[spacejamz]

Truth is, I don't care. Never said that I did. Read the post bub.

As to what I actually did post, yes, if a couple are setting up a marriage, each should have some aspect of financial responsibility in the whole deal, UPFRONT. Especially when you're talking about that much coin, and coin that she clearly has an interest in. Given the amount of expenses, it would've been easy for most couples to simple have one say to the other, "Can you go to X Cathedral to pay for the reservation?" "Can you go to the Y flower shop and pay for the flowers?" There are a multitude of other options, but the point is that there should be some financial input from both parties, unless one party is simply expected to foot the bill for everything.

I dealt with the same when I got married. I didn't just sit back and ride shotgun while my wife paid for everything. I asked where I could help, what I could pay for, etc. If she didn't get at least some sort of financial involvement from him, as I said before, that is her being foolish.

You obviously cared enough to post in this thread...

So you are saying that they should do the exact same things you did when you got married?? Really?? The story is pretty lacking, but if you want to automatically jump on the bandwagon here that the dude is innocent, did nothing wrong and shouldn't pay half instead of reading the article and apply some critical thinking skills based on the limited information they provide in this article, that is up to you.

 

[PingSpike]

spacejamz is she your sister or something? WTF give it up.

 

[Stuxnet]

Even if the guy is forced to pay the 95k, he still won in the long run. Crazy bitch.

 

[mvbighead]

You obviously cared enough to post in this thread...

So you are saying that they should do the exact same things you did when you got married?? Really?? The story is pretty lacking, but if you want to automatically jump on the bandwagon here that the dude is innocent, did nothing wrong and shouldn't pay half instead of reading the article and apply some critical thinking skills based on the limited information they provide in this article, that is up to you.

What the hell is your problem?

Exactly what I did? No, nice exaggeration. Essentially, if the church is 30k, and the flowers are 10k, make the guy buy the flowers. Pretty simple concept. Make sure both parties are invested in the ordeal, and not just one. It is common sense... at least to me.

Am I on the band wagon that the guy did nothing wrong... nope. Simply that it is a poor financial strategy on her part. He very well could be an asshat, but if she was totally blindsided by the fact that he wasn't interested, there is yet another clue that she is a poor in the cognitive department. For me, my wife and I discussed all of our expenditures leading up to and through the wedding. Ya know, that whole communication thing that marriage is based on. Her debt becomes my debt, and my debt becomes hers, thus it is our debt... that make enough sense? So, when it comes to the whole shebang, instead of having $5000 on a credit card with 16% interest, we have it on a CC with 6% interest.

My main point being that putting $100,000 all on yourself with no investment from the other party is completely ignorant. And it is either ignorant, or she chose to do all of the spending on her own, with no input from the guy. In any case, there was a significant mistake on her part in regards to the financing of the whole ordeal.

Now, it very well could stand that the guy knew what she was spending, was planning on leaving her, and was just entertaining this to see how much she'd spend, but that is not exactly listed as fact in the article. The only facts I see are that he decided not to proceed immediately before the wedding and she invested $100,000 with no financial involvement from him.

I don't contend that he shouldn't pay, but I do contend that she was a complete fool for not at least getting him financially involved in the wedding from the beginning.

Edit: And the main reason I posted in this thread is due to the significant expense in the title. Sure it's a lot, but my whole point is that her paying everything is what caused this problem, not the guy. Had she sent him to pay even 30%, I'd be willing to bet most of this whole ordeal could've been averted, as he'd have backed out much sooner. Whether she was spending the money willy nilly or not, I have no idea, but with no financial commitment from the guy, I can only guess that the expenses were all her idea.