If you are vere fortunate enough to have family you'll understand that your job will be to oversee and jump in when things go wayward. Like when the wifey, bless her heart, maxes out her credit cards, lol, and then hides the bills, hehehehehehehe. And who said I beat my kids with a belt? By the way I haven't. I got 20+ years guy at this. Talk to me in 10. I can completely see how this dude could lose his cool. I got friend, who had a son who all but just ruined their household. They struggled to control and then him and his mother started fist fighting. In the course of the year, she just lost it. She cracked his head open with a frying pan after he got caught shoplifting.
I don't know what the story is here, but I doubt its pretty on either front. The parents have a role, but so do the kids. At 16 there should have been more of a mutual respect. Because in truth, these are two adults. I stopped being the leader when mine was 15. by then all the training is about done. I helped her make her own decisions, but I didn't force her to do anything. But now we can talked about anything, even really private stuff. She'll come to me even before she'll go to her mother. I approach this with a little bit more understanding. I guess because I been there a time or two or three
I understand what you're saying, I really do. That doesn't change the fact that you're completely delusional.
We have plenty of evidence that this guy is a real piece of work, and none that the daughter was some sort've household tyrant. Give me a break. Again, there is a clear line between discipline and abuse. This crosses over that line.
So you're saying that if the dad said, "Well, she shoplifted.." it would be OK? I mean listen to yourself. You can't rationalize this type of behavior. You shouldn't be able to. It's clear that this was not a one time event. This guy "lost his cool" over and over again on his family. You think that's OK?