now let's take the flip side of the coin. Say you get your "enjoy life" degree, but never ever find a job that let's you enjoy life (i have a couple of mba's, engineers, and teacher friends that have been laid off the past couple of years). But instead end up struggling to make ends meet
Dad starts looking kinda smart then, right? Happiness doesn't pay your rent or put food on the table. Taking the path with the least chance of failure and great security is something I understand a head of a family would identify with. I'm not saying he's right, you're wrong...his approach is kinda over the top. But it looks like his reasons are well intended.
Did you ever tell him that you understand him and his reasons also?
Very fair and a good point, brainhulk.
I did tell him that I understand him, I totally get his reasons, and I appreciate him for being so kind and concerned about me and my future. He only reacts because he cares, although it isn't always in a way that I understand or want.
And true, happiness doesn't pay my rent or put food on the table. However, from Day 1, I've never been the type to take the "safe, secure, reliable, predictable" route. My sisters all have, and you're right, neither if right or wrong. Parents want their children to have stability and safety, and I just don't fit that mold.
I've worked hard and gone a non-traditional route as an entrepreneur, following my heart with varying degrees of success. I'm 100% debt-free, have minimal bills/expenses, and spend most of my excess savings on loved ones or into a Roth. I wish my dad could see that I'm okay, that I'm always going to be okay, and if it comes down to it, I could get a traditional job.
But for now, I'm doing okay, and I'm excited about hopefully making some BIG changes. Over the years, my specialty has become a "Love, Sex and Kink" expert in my field and I'm working on developing books, courses, and an app to help couples improve their communication, intimacy, and love relationships. Not something that I could do if I was in a 9-to-6 job easily, and for now my private practice is doing okay.
So Dad means well, and I have told him I love and appreciate him and his viewpoint, which I do. Thank you for your input, totally a valid and important point.