FelixDeCat
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Its a shame your dad is so cold as to treat you like that. It is good however that you at least understand and forgive him because in the end, you only have one dad.
Over the years, my specialty has become a "Love, Sex and Kink" expert in my field and I'm working on developing books, courses, and an app to help couples improve their communication, intimacy, and love relationships. Not something that I could do if I was in a 9-to-6 job easily, and for now my private practice is doing okay.
I completely get it. The resentment is completely understandable... You want so badly to be treated with openness and unconditional love, acceptance, and support... And when it doesn't ever come, or if it doesn't come in a way that makes sense, it hurts. A lot.
Parents (especially Asian) who only value you by how much you make are epic fails. I'm glad he pulled out of that disillusioned black hole and figured out the real meaning of life, which is to accept your kids for who they are and what makes them happy. I thank the good Lord every day for giving me a father who never pressured me to try and become something I'm not, nor want to be.
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What the hell is a Masters degree in Marriage & Family Therapy?
Glad to hear a happy ending. Although is it just me or does a degree in Marriage & Family theoropy seem like something that you would have to experience first? Im assuming you were not married with kids when you got your degree? I dont think id feel comfortable getting advice from someone who has never walked the walk or wore the same shoes.
Great story and thank you for opening up and sharing it with us(sent it to my wife)! Your dad is no different than a lot of parents from that time.... they had been through hard times and gave up everything for their kids, my dad did the same.
Now that we are older and are living our lives we may have not went down the path they envisioned for us but we are doing well and I really think they have to see a lot of them in us. I only ended up getting a two year degree but Im close to a BS now at 46yrs old and my wife and I just had our first of two kids (God willing).
Our life has been great together . We have a happy home and we are living a great life and are doing what we love and doing well My dad and I have a very tight relationship today GLAD you found yours!
Hard to put into words as eloquently as OP did, but I feel very blessed that my Father and I were close, but unfortunately he died early at 57 of a heart attack.
Your story is truly one of strength and determination to endure that relationship. Thank you for telling your story so others can either learn from it or find solace in what they deal with, knowing they aren't the only one that lives their life dealing with that.
I am glad that you were able to reconcile with your father.
I had the same talk with my mother some time ago but the event had a different outcome. I told them that if they couldn't accept me then they did not have to be part of my life.
Are you happy with what you currently do? I hope you are