just got dumped

[kranky]

Look man, I know it sucks now, but it's for the best. There's no future in wanting someone who doesn't want you any longer. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Sometimes people just grow apart.

And whether there's someone else or not shouldn't matter to you. She's on her own now, and you'll only be torturing yourself by worrying about it.

On a side note, I think you guys are being too hard on imtim83.

Originally posted by: imtim83
No one will ever see the light but oh well. I tried to tell you all but no one will listen to me. Thats ok not my fault. I could care a less if no one will listen because I don't want anyone to listen. They can find out for themselfs just like you have.

Let's give credit when credit is due. The guy is right.

Well, I didn't mean he was right about everything, just this part:

no one will listen to me

I'm sure we can all agree on that.

 

[brigden]

Here's a couple tunes to cheer you up:

Ben Folds Five - Song For The Dumped
Spacehog - At Least I Got Laid

 

[amoeba]

Originally posted by: SampSon

Originally posted by: amoeba
to the OP

Post it on YAGT.ORG

and you won't have to deal with the thread hijacking and the bickering.

Yup, because THOES geeks are so much more intune with relationships.
bahahahahaah

Jeez, just because you don't like to ask for the opinions of others on a forum doesn't mean you have to bash everybody's opinion on a forum. I don't think there has been that many postings either here or on Yagt that are really detrimental to the OP. I don't think you need a degree in relationship counselling in order to give your own experiences, give advice.

Besides, ATOT while filled with geeks as you put it, is not completely formed of nerds or people concerned with computers. It is a very diverse community as can be evidenced by the many arguments that erupt here.

If you think that ATOT is just filled with "geeks", then you must be a geek yourself. If you don't think you are a geek, then there must be other non-geeks on these boards as well that can give some worthwhile advice.

 

[tweakmm]

Originally posted by: imtim83

Originally posted by: tweakmm

Originally posted by: imtim83

Originally posted by: jjones

Originally posted by: imtim83


franguinho well its very true. It was so funny seeing the look on their faces as well. Its like they were shocked or whatever. Oh well. No one can have me and that will always be the way. I could care a less if someone loves me. I am not going to love them back. No way. I am single and will be forever. I don't care if they offer me $1 million dollars.

What happened? You find out you were an "accident"? Or are you just bitter because mommy finally pulled you off the tit?

jjones nothing I just know in this generation people backstab each other like their is no tomorrow. Espically relationships.

This is my last response to you as I didn't mean to hijack the thread, but people have been backstabbing eachother since the start of time.
E tu Brute?

tweakmm true but in this generation its done without any remorse. They just think of it as littering. No offense.

If you are so intent on keeping everyone away how the hell do you know what this generation is like? Or is human contact something that you don't actuatly need experience in to draw your conclusions?

I'm sorry man, but what you are talking about is not going to work. I don't care what you say, you are lying to yourself and in denial if you "truly" believe the absurd things you are saying. Seriously, get help now because I give your extreme misanthropy around 5 years, 10 years max before the pain of isolation is too much and you shuffle yourself loose this mortal coil.

 

[brigden]

Originally posted by: amoeba

Originally posted by: SampSon

Originally posted by: amoeba
to the OP

Post it on YAGT.ORG

and you won't have to deal with the thread hijacking and the bickering.

Yup, because THOES geeks are so much more intune with relationships.
bahahahahaah

Jeez, just because you don't like to ask for the opinions of others on a forum doesn't mean you have to bash everybody's opinion on a forum. I don't think there has been that many postings either here or on Yagt that are really detrimental to the OP. I don't think you need a degree in relationship counselling in order to give your own experiences, give advice.

Besides, ATOT while filled with geeks as you put it, is not completely formed of nerds or people concerned with computers. It is a very diverse community as can be evidenced by the many arguments that erupt here.

If you think that ATOT is just filled with "geeks", then you must be a geek yourself. If you don't think you are a geek, then there must be other non-geeks on these boards as well that can give some worthwhile advice.

Owned.

For a n00b that was great post.

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: kranky
Look man, I know it sucks now, but it's for the best. There's no future in wanting someone who doesn't want you any longer. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Sometimes people just grow apart.

And whether there's someone else or not shouldn't matter to you. She's on her own now, and you'll only be torturing yourself by worrying about it.

On a side note, I think you guys are being too hard on imtim83.

Originally posted by: imtim83
No one will ever see the light but oh well. I tried to tell you all but no one will listen to me. Thats ok not my fault. I could care a less if no one will listen because I don't want anyone to listen. They can find out for themselfs just like you have.

Let's give credit when credit is due. The guy is right.

Well, I didn't mean he was right about everything, just this part:

no one will listen to me

I'm sure we can all agree on that.

and we have a WINNAR!!


Sysadmin

 

[kuk]

Boa sorte, nuggets!

 

[cressida]

Yes, she is probably growing apart from you. She might of even met someone new and sparks fly too. Either way, it's tough but keep your head up. Here is some advice, just keep up what you are doing in your life and don't try to forget her or keep yourself too busy. Just look back at the relationship and try to grasp something good from it, and walk away with confidence that you have done all you can. Just think if it is a new chapter in your life and things will get better.

 

Originally posted by: amoeba

Originally posted by: SampSon

Originally posted by: amoeba
to the OP

Post it on YAGT.ORG

and you won't have to deal with the thread hijacking and the bickering.

Yup, because THOES geeks are so much more intune with relationships.
bahahahahaah

Jeez, just because you don't like to ask for the opinions of others on a forum doesn't mean you have to bash everybody's opinion on a forum. I don't think there has been that many postings either here or on Yagt that are really detrimental to the OP. I don't think you need a degree in relationship counselling in order to give your own experiences, give advice.

Besides, ATOT while filled with geeks as you put it, is not completely formed of nerds or people concerned with computers. It is a very diverse community as can be evidenced by the many arguments that erupt here.

If you think that ATOT is just filled with "geeks", then you must be a geek yourself. If you don't think you are a geek, then there must be other non-geeks on these boards as well that can give some worthwhile advice.

Oh please, if you only knew how cliche YAGT's are, you might chime a different tune.
The only way to truly learn is through experience. No matter what you tell this guy and how many times, it won't make a bit of difference. The only people that have ANY influence on his relationships woes are him, and his girlfriend(ex).

Yes, I'm a geek. I'm a geek that has had many, many girlfriends. So I probably have a great deal of "advise" for him. But the reality is, that he's asking the same dumb question that has been asked and "answered" in 10,000 other YAGT's here, and on yagt.org.
So why even bother? Why should I pander to his cookie cutter question?

Here is the ultimate answer for all of these YAGTs...
THERE IS ALWAYS ANOTHER GIRL.

 

[amoeba]

Originally posted by: SampSon

Originally posted by: amoeba

Originally posted by: SampSon

Originally posted by: amoeba
to the OP

Post it on YAGT.ORG

and you won't have to deal with the thread hijacking and the bickering.

Yup, because THOES geeks are so much more intune with relationships.
bahahahahaah

Jeez, just because you don't like to ask for the opinions of others on a forum doesn't mean you have to bash everybody's opinion on a forum. I don't think there has been that many postings either here or on Yagt that are really detrimental to the OP. I don't think you need a degree in relationship counselling in order to give your own experiences, give advice.

Besides, ATOT while filled with geeks as you put it, is not completely formed of nerds or people concerned with computers. It is a very diverse community as can be evidenced by the many arguments that erupt here.

If you think that ATOT is just filled with "geeks", then you must be a geek yourself. If you don't think you are a geek, then there must be other non-geeks on these boards as well that can give some worthwhile advice.

Oh please, if you only knew how cliche YAGT's are, you might chime a different tune.
The only way to truly learn is through experience. No matter what you tell this guy and how many times, it won't make a bit of difference. The only people that have ANY influence on his relationships woes are him, and his girlfriend(ex).

Yes, I'm a geek. I'm a geek that has had many, many girlfriends. So I probably have a great deal of "advise" for him. But the reality is, that he's asking the same dumb question that has been asked and "answered" in 10,000 other YAGT's here, and on yagt.org.
So why even bother? Why should I pander to his cookie cutter question?

Here is the ultimate answer for all of these YAGTs...
THERE IS ALWAYS ANOTHER GIRL.

I agree with your statement that there is always another girl and I know yagts are cliche. I think the general concensus of the board has been that he should find another girl instead of pining for the same one. Maybe the original poster even knows this and was just looking for a beer icon or just somewhere to blow steam.

Point is, if the OP wants us to give advice then we should give advice or stay silent instead of telling him to quit his bishing or generalize the population of the board.

You don't need to pander. If you find all YAGTS so cliche than just don't read/answer.

by the way...don't try to correct my spelling. advice as a noun is spelled with a c. Advise is the verb form.

 

[Kanalua]

Originally posted by: Graphicd00d
Sounds like someone else is in the picture.

bingo

 

[Alex]

Originally posted by: SampSon

Originally posted by: amoeba
to the OP

Post it on YAGT.ORG

and you won't have to deal with the thread hijacking and the bickering.

Yup, because THOES geeks are so much more intune with relationships.
bahahahahaah

we're the geeks but youre the one with almost 10 thousand posts? just wondering. hey and whats your problem anyway i was upset and bored.

 

[sxr7171]

Originally posted by: imtim83
No one will ever see the light but oh well. I tried to tell you all but no one will listen to me. Thats ok not my fault. I could care a less if no one will listen because I don't want anyone to listen. They can find out for themselfs just like you have.

Very true. Girls are very smart about these sorts of things and they never burn bridges. They know the nature of a nice guy and they know that by breaking up in a "good" way, they have a very good shot of having you around as a shoulder to cry on or otherwise provide them with the attention they so desperately need. Even if you don't do those things they know that you will serve as a "d!ck in a glass case" to be opened in case if emergency (as Chris Rock so eloquent conveys).

Sometimes it doesn't pay too nice to a girl, and sometimes it is necessary that we guys line up a bunch of backup girls and keep a couple of things going on at the same time. Otherwise you run the risk of getting shafted like this, while the girl can just move on while you wonder what the heck just happened.

Also, I have to say that there is a very good chance that she'll come back to you. Whatever you do, don't take her back. Once someone has broken your trust you can never get it back and that will make any future relationship pointless. There are times when people need space in a relationship, but you can do that without a formal breakup.

 

[timelapse]

Check my sig....

 

[IshmaelLeaver]

Originally posted by: franguinho
i cant believe this... i treated her like gold and did everything for her...

Well, that's your problem right there.

 

[y2kc]

Originally posted by: IshmaelLeaver

Originally posted by: franguinho
i cant believe this... i treated her like gold and did everything for her...

Well, that's your problem right there.

Indeed. Women like to be challenged in their youth not worshipped. You're a pushover, a dud.

 

[JimRaynor]

Similar situation happened to me, she avoided me for 2 weeks and was acting weird. I flat out asked her if there was another dude, turns out she slept with some dude twice. There goes a 1 year relationship.. So yeah, there is some other dude.

 

[Whisper]

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: IshmaelLeaver

Originally posted by: franguinho
i cant believe this... i treated her like gold and did everything for her...

Well, that's your problem right there.

Indeed. Women like to be challenged in their youth not worshipped. You're a pushover, a dud.

Agreed. Well, not fully. You've fallen into the "too nice" category. It's great that you'd be willing to do anything for her, but she also wants to know that you have your own agenda, your own goals, your own personality, and will turn her down sometimes.

As far as the finding herself goes: you said yourself that you're her first boyfriend. She's feeling hedged in, and wants to date around. The urge hits just about everyone eventually...especially young women in their early 20's. Another prime time for self-discovery is mid-20's, just as they're graduating college/getting established in life, and trying to find out just how they fit in.

The only advice I'll give is not to wait. It doesn't help you or her, and will only prolong the breaking-up process in your mind. Find ways to occupy the time that you used to spend with/talking to/thinking of her. Go out with your friends (ESPECIALLY when going out is the last thing you want to do), meet new people, and things will get better before you even have a chance to realize it.

 

[dakotus]

Originally posted by: Synergy
Yes, she is probably growing apart from you. She might of even met someone new and sparks fly too. Either way, it's tough but keep your head up. Here is some advice, just keep up what you are doing in your life and don't try to forget her or keep yourself too busy. Just look back at the relationship and try to grasp something good from it, and walk away with confidence that you have done all you can. Just think if it is a new chapter in your life and things will get better.

I agree with you 100%
this is what everyone tells me now too

 

[sxr7171]

Originally posted by: dakotus

Originally posted by: Synergy Yes, she is probably growing apart from you. She might of even met someone new and sparks fly too. Either way, it's tough but keep your head up. Here is some advice, just keep up what you are doing in your life and don't try to forget her or keep yourself too busy. Just look back at the relationship and try to grasp something good from it, and walk away with confidence that you have done all you can. Just think if it is a new chapter in your life and things will get better.

I agree with you 100% this is what everyone tells me now too

I completely agree and I think the OP should absolutely read this and take it to heart.

 

[Kaiser__Sose]

Sounds like, you have got a case of "my girls found another man"..
She is horning you sucka...

 

[Alex]

first things first:

Originally posted by: kuk
Boa sorte, nuggets!

thanks buddy!

And whisper thanks that helped put a lot in perspective... its been a couple days now and i think im used to the idea now... i still miss her and i just talked to one of her roomates (one of my best friends) and she told me that shes been really upset lately and that theres definitely not another guy and she just doesnt know what she wants...

i agree with what you said though, i just hope that she figures out what she wants soon and that im in the picture... either way ive already had one female friend offer to um, well, put out for me but i think for now id rather just get drunk with my buddies, who have been there for me.

Originally posted by: Whisper

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: IshmaelLeaver

Originally posted by: franguinho
i cant believe this... i treated her like gold and did everything for her...

Well, that's your problem right there.

Indeed. Women like to be challenged in their youth not worshipped. You're a pushover, a dud.

Agreed. Well, not fully. You've fallen into the "too nice" category. It's great that you'd be willing to do anything for her, but she also wants to know that you have your own agenda, your own goals, your own personality, and will turn her down sometimes.

As far as the finding herself goes: you said yourself that you're her first boyfriend. She's feeling hedged in, and wants to date around. The urge hits just about everyone eventually...especially young women in their early 20's. Another prime time for self-discovery is mid-20's, just as they're graduating college/getting established in life, and trying to find out just how they fit in.

The only advice I'll give is not to wait. It doesn't help you or her, and will only prolong the breaking-up process in your mind. Find ways to occupy the time that you used to spend with/talking to/thinking of her. Go out with your friends (ESPECIALLY when going out is the last thing you want to do), meet new people, and things will get better before you even have a chance to realize it.

 

[rgwalt]

Well, here is another perspective... she is a cute girl and all, but you can do better.

It is really tough, but it gets better. If things do work out, remember to just be yourself with her. Live your life, and if she wants to be with you, great.

Ryan

 

[Fraggster]

:beer::beer::beer::beer::beer:


Forget her and drink up

 

[GeSuN]

franguinho, I think you remember me... I was on rallispec's forum...

anyway, I just wanted to let you know that I totally feel your pain man...

I just got dumped (yeah it's 11h37 pm, and she told me 3 hours ago) too.

Exact same thing, she's all mixed up and needs to know if she still loves me .... blablabla....

What the hell am I supposed to do, and what the hell is going on about those girls?