Just how Important was it for you to be Popular in High School ?

[Buddhist]

about as important as passing wind while watching a basketball game.

not very.

-M.T.O

 

[jeweleeann]

I went to three different High Schools and each year I switched schools at least once. It was hard to make new friends each time I switched and I was never in one place long enough to be "popular". I did, however, enjoy my High School days. Being popular was not really what concerned me in High School.

 

[Keribeth]

I went to 4 junior/high schools. I was more popular in some than others but I never had a problem with groups. I was pretty much freinds with everyone. If I wanted to hang out with one group one day and another the next, that was fine. Never really cared about being labeled "popular".

 

[StormRider]

I remember being sort of invisible in High School. I don't think anyone hated me and most people were kind to me but I never participated in any social activities outside of school.

I remember starting to come out of my shell in my junior year because I started making a conscious effort to be more outgoing. I joined a bunch of clubs and participated in some after school activities. But then my family moved to another state and I kind of withdrew back into my shell for my senior year.

 

[Yeeny]

High school was miserable for me. Of course, when your stick figure thin, with bad skin, thick coke bottle glasses and no social skills to speak of, you are pretty much doomed to begin with. I would have given anything to be popular in school, just so I could have fit in, and not have been picked on endlessly every day.

 

[loosbrew]

they kcked me out when i was 16...hohum. i guess wearing skirts and bath robes to school wasnt too cool to the gangstas.

loosbrew

 

[Urinal Mint]

desy:

No, I agree with you totally, it's all based on perception. I'd much rather have a sparkling love life and make a little less money than be where I am now (although I'm working on the love life ), because no matter how successful you are, people will always be fascinated with you if others are fascinated with you. And what better way than to have a hot chick fascinated and in love with you!

 

[yobarman]

<< Of course, when your stick figure thin, with bad skin, thick coke bottle glasses and no social skills to speak of >>




haha you rule!

 

[Looney]

Yeah, i didn't really stick to one group either. I hung out with everybody, which was probably why i had such a good time in HS.

As for being teased... i think that's despicable. I never insulted anybody based on the way they look or dressed, and i know it does happen. Even to this day i see it happen, and it angers me to no end. Have fun, but don't have fun at somebody elses expense.

 

[Alienwho]

I will be a senior in high school as soon as skool starts again. I don't give a sh!t how popular I am. LOTS of my friends are popular and play football [still] but many are taking the same path I took back in 10th grade that I would rather make money at a job and learn new things then to play football ALL DAY LONG.

 

[Electric Amish]

None.

amish

 

[ibintegra]

I was both popular and unpopular in high school in the same year. I was on student council and my own friends hated me (accused of stealing a girl from another guy in our 'group'). It was a strange experience but i think it made me sad that I wasn't liked by own friends. I'd say it's much more important to have good friends rather than be popular and have nobody to hang out with. That really sucks (esp at lunch).

 

[AznMaverick]

Wasn't too important for me, it was only 4 years of my life...i just made sure that i wasn't a loner and i had friends...

 

[polm]

I spent my elementary and middle school days in a very Orthodox Private Jewish school. I didnt have social interaction with anyone besides Male, White, rich Jews. Then My parents sent me to a public high school. I was desperate to fit in. I put myself through hell! Then I took the one big plunge that I thought might change everything...it did..I started to do drugs. Mostly Pot but a LSD, beer, cocaine ( a little ). And I got into so much trouble I was shipperd off to boarding school. After a year I came back...and all of a sudden I was the coolest guy on the block. I dont know what it was but it was Senior year and I was hooking up with the hottest girl in school! It was incredible, and then.....Graduation. It was all over, and all those meaningless, COOL friends are long gone. I still am close with my lifelong friends (some from my Jewish sachool days, and some my Pot smoking buddies(who really ended up becomeing true friends)). But the 'Popular Kids' are out of my life. I think back to Senir year, alot. I was having Sex with beautiful girls, and hanigng out with the cool kids. Now I am a 22 year old Computr Nerd. I skipped college to get paid, and thus I missed out on the last chance to continue the high school COOL game (i.e. join a frat in college), and I miss being with beautiful women. I wasnt those days back, all the time. I was left with a taste of something that I crave to this day. HOT, RICH, SNOBBY women! I want them, physically more than anything else, but I also want to satisfy that small part of me that is still a 9th grade nerd, wearing a yamurlka in high school and just wanting to fit in.

 

[jaydee]

Just finishing up my junoir year in high school. I've wanted to be popular but never drastically up until this year. Now I just do what I want, without thinking what the 'cool' people might think. Seems kind of pointless to strive to be popular when in 1 year, 80% of them you'll see at reunions only. Sure, reading tech reviews in study hall instead of playing euker isn't making me tons of friends, but I don't care anymore. I have no clique, I'm somewhere in all of them but no where I'm permanent. Some days I'm with the jocks, sometimes the nerds, sometimes a chick or two. Ironically most of the good friends I have all come from a christian camp I attend in the summer, and none of them go to my school, but I talk to them a lot.

 

[lowfatbaconboy]

im gona be a senior in hs next year and i don't give a crap about popularity
All popularity gets u is fake friends and no where in life after HS. Some of the sadest people IMO are the ones that think HS was the best time of their life

 

[Gooberlx2]

My HS experience was pretty mechanical. Goto school, do attend class, eat lunch and socialize, attend more class, goto soccer practice, go home and talk to girlfriend. Rinse and repeat.

It wasn't that bad, I had decent friends (non too close as I had moved after my freshman to a new state), got decent grades, even had a couple of classes and instructors that I liked. Soccer was fun but I disliked most of the people on the team.

I just think that if I had only applied myself even 1/4 of what I had my 1st year of college much less now (4th year) in HS it would have been more fun and I would have gotten more out of it, academically and socially. I never did homework or studied, and I almost never went out to parties.

I was never really concerned with being popular, the way I figured if I didn't step on anyone's toes then no one would step on mine. That's pretty much how it went too. I wasn't a hermit by any means but I was never the outspoken one, or ever the subject of any kind of gossip.

No real point in dwelling on the past, but I guess there's only 2 things I would have done differently.
1. I would have applied myself more academically and socially.
2. I have dumped my girlfriend way earlier. I think I was kinda roped by her and felt obligated to spend most of my free time with her, which is what happened. I should have dumped her the first time I knew I was unhappy with it and tried for some other girls. Because, with new relationships come whole new sets of people to meet, for better or for worse.

 

[Tib]

&quot;I really didn't give a sh*t. Oh yeah, and I hated high school!&quot;

Same here...I should've taken my GED when I was 16.

damnit

Tibor

 

[Tib]

you know...one thing that I notice is that the people who were considered &quot;popular&quot; do not even notice it.

And the people who weren't &quot;popular&quot; are looked at as total psychos and weirdos. No wonder there are so many killings and anger in HS these days.

Tibor

 

[tommigsr]

Popularity wasn't a big thing, but it felt good to know that people knew me. Even though they tend to call me as the &quot;Computer Guy&quot; *shrug*

 

[Azraele]

Not.


People teased me because I would refuse to wear my hair in the ridiculous poofball wall-`o-hairspray style, even my 'friends.'

I eventually figured if they couldn't accept me as I was (I wore my hair straight, brushed, and clean), then they weren't worth bothering with.

 

[Blieb]

Note one bit ... I dunno why I didn't care back then, I guess I had bigger and better things to worry about ... but now ... it's good to know that I was right in what I did (or didn't in this case!)

 

[epsilon]

I didn't give a damn if I was umpopular in High School. Neither did my friend and we had a blast. High School was so much fun. You have to drop all the anxiety crap and just enjoy yourself.

 

[mundania]

<<

<< ever think the reason you hated it is cuz you didnt care? >>


No, I didn't care because I hated it. >>



Anyone else find that paradoxical?

 

[purplecow]

mundania... hehe, nice name

Hate it, I don't care... I don't care, hate it.

lol. I don't mind high school, I'm graduating. I was never popular, and I didn't really care about BEING popular. I found that most of the kids who were &quot;popular&quot; were stuck up, and I didn't like that, nor did I want to be like that.