slackerinabox
Lifer
- Mar 15, 2003
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I've been in a similar situation, it boiled down to:
1. I always performed above and beyond, but no one really liked me there - i wasn't a "team player" in that after hours at the bar never interested me and spending the weekend with coworkers was the last thing i'd want to do, so I failed at politics and networking. I never made the right friends. Maybe you never made the right friends, or you made the wrong enemies - over something not performance related.
2. Someone new is always cheaper, and new is exciting. A new person doesn't felt owed anything, nor will they start negotiations from their prior salary. Someone new is always sexier too, both figuratively and literally - maybe they'd be fun at karaoke! maybe they'll bring in great brownies on fridays. maybe office nicknames can happen! or maybe they're a young hot kid straight out of college, willing to work for cheap! happened to me, replaced by a college kid who made about 1/2 of what I did, and looks much cuter as a member of the company's bowling team (I never went).
no matter what, new beats you. it's a lot like dating. don't be pathetic and run back, 'what do you mean, you said you're not looking for a relationship at all but you're dating the girl from the bar!!! take me!" have some pride, walk away. i say this after emailing the ceo after I saw a job vacancy for my job months after I was laid off for 'lack of work.' of course he never wrote back. this was a decade ago, i'm not that desperate these days!
1. I always performed above and beyond, but no one really liked me there - i wasn't a "team player" in that after hours at the bar never interested me and spending the weekend with coworkers was the last thing i'd want to do, so I failed at politics and networking. I never made the right friends. Maybe you never made the right friends, or you made the wrong enemies - over something not performance related.
2. Someone new is always cheaper, and new is exciting. A new person doesn't felt owed anything, nor will they start negotiations from their prior salary. Someone new is always sexier too, both figuratively and literally - maybe they'd be fun at karaoke! maybe they'll bring in great brownies on fridays. maybe office nicknames can happen! or maybe they're a young hot kid straight out of college, willing to work for cheap! happened to me, replaced by a college kid who made about 1/2 of what I did, and looks much cuter as a member of the company's bowling team (I never went).
no matter what, new beats you. it's a lot like dating. don't be pathetic and run back, 'what do you mean, you said you're not looking for a relationship at all but you're dating the girl from the bar!!! take me!" have some pride, walk away. i say this after emailing the ceo after I saw a job vacancy for my job months after I was laid off for 'lack of work.' of course he never wrote back. this was a decade ago, i'm not that desperate these days!
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