Numenorean
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There's some great schools here in Colorado. No reason your GF can't go to one of them.
Why does she need to be close to her parents?
I don't quite see why you not moving with her would prevent her from going to school. You took out loans for school, she could too if it's really that critical to her.
In the end, though, I don't think this is a problem any of us can solve for you (as much as we'd like to). It comes down to what you see in the relationship with the GF. Would you rather be in a place you love with a job you love, or with the person you love? If you go to Denver, you'll probably enjoy your job and the location a lot more, but there's a very good chance the relationship won't survive the separation. There would be no end in sight to the amount of time you would spend apart. Just make sure that if you do move with her to FL that you don't end up blaming here subconsciously for job/location dissatisfaction. I wish you luck in making a tough decision.
What is Englewood like? That is where the office "in" Denver is.
I'm afraid that she'll meet someone at school, too, but my self esteem isn't that great. She values intelligence, and while I'm a smart person, I don't have the extended knowledge in the fields she loves that she finds attractive, so the pessimist in me sees her meeting someone smart in her classes.
Out of everything that you said, I think that was the most important.
Jobs come and go, but good people are in short supply these days.
My opinion, having a good partner is better then having a good job. Money and jobs come and go, but your partner is there day after day, year after year.
We went to her parents' the first week of February for vacation, and the people terrify me, and the drivers more so. I hate it and the only reason I would live there is for her.
So my life is going to drastically change within the next 6 months, and it's causing me a great deal of stress. Since I'm not a very stressed person in general I feel like it is affecting me too much.
I posted before about how my (and others) position is being moved to Denver. They finally gave us a date: June 15. Upon learning that I thought it sounded like as good a time as any to get the hell out of Kansas (it's not terrible, but I don't particularly like it here). My lease is up at the end of September, and my girlfriend is moving back to south Florida because her parents are there, and she wants to be near them.
We both decided that I can just move with her because my company has a huge office in Orlando. The problem is I didn't know what to do for a job for the three months between June and September. My company is offering me severance, but if I take it I can't work for the company again for X period of time. My alternative was to take a temp position here in my current office doing work that I used to do here four years ago. It was a fantastic plan. I have my current position until 6/15 and then I do old grunt work for three months, then move to Orlando and get a new position still with the company (I've been talking to a recruiter down there).
Now they are only guaranteeing my temp position until July 1, a mere 16 days longer than my other job. They say I might be able to stay longer, but the guarantee is only until July 1, so I'm assuming (safely) that I am only staying until July 1. What should I do for the remaining three months? And to top it off, my girlfriend keeps asking if I'm sure I want to move, which makes me feel like she doesn't want me to. She says that isn't the case, and I believe her (hard to explain, but I know her thought process very well), but it still makes me uneasy.
I almost want to wash my hands of the whole situation and just move to Denver alone and keep my current job.
save enough money so you dont have to work for 3 months