Living together prior to marriage

[slycat]

i have lived with 4 chicks...girlfriends.
obviously since i've done it repeatedly...it wasn't so bad.

 

[ohtwell]

I lived with my husband for almost a year before we got married. I think that it was good for both of us because we had the ability to get used to each other's quirks before taking the step into marriage.


: ) Amanda

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: minendo

Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
Just so you know, living with your future spouse before marriage increases your risk of divorce.

(Learned that in my Marraige and Family socialology class)

Obviously its not true for everone but it is something to think about.

This is true if you live together prior to engagement, but the number is much lower for couples that are engaged prior to living together.

That's what I've heard as well.

 

[bolido2000]

I lived with my gf for 1.5 years. Honestly I didn't feel it like a big deal. The thing is that you will spend most of the time with her and not see other people much. Also, everytime we fought I wished we didn't live together so a break up would be easier. Overall it was a good experience, but only do it if you 2 don't fight much.

 

[Gaard]

If you live together without getting married it's a lot easier to split up...a LOT easier. For Pete's sake, though, don't knock her up...it can make the whole a lot easier thing a lot harder.

 

[gbz]

I have lived with my girlfriend for the last year and a bit and we have grown much stronger as a couple i feel as a direct result of the experience I intend on asking her to marry me in the coming year and I think that i am ready for that step as a result of knowing what we are like together after seeing each other pretty much everyday.

 

[flavio]

There's no reason you can't just keep living together without the marraige part too.

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: Gaard
If you live together without getting married it's a lot easier to split up...a LOT easier. For Pete's sake, though, don't knock her up...it can make the whole a lot easier thing a lot harder.

I will not be breaking up with this girl. I will marry her, but I want to be finished with school before that happens so that I am better off financially.

 

[Gaard]

Of the thousands and thousands and thousands of people who get divorced, how many said "I dunno if it'll last. Sure, I love her now, but who knows 10 years from now?"

Not saying you're foolish, just that you should be realistic and protect yourself. You did ask for opinions from those with experience. Unfortunately, I'm all too experienced.

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: Gaard
Of the thousands and thousands and thousands of people who get divorced, how many said "I dunno if it'll last. Sure, I love her now, but who knows 10 years from now?"

Not saying you're foolish, just that you should be realistic and protect yourself. You did ask for opinions from those with experience. Unfortunately, I'm all too experienced.

And I respect your opinion and experiences.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Originally posted by: GirlFriday

Originally posted by: Jellomancer

Originally posted by: Pepsei
also remember... people who are against living together before marriage are usuallyh the type of people that won't get divorces.....


living together is cool..just don't mix finances

Exactly... Catholics and redneck women who refuse to divorce their abusive husbands.

You might want to rethink that statement. I'm Catholic, lived with my husband for two years before we were married, and I am getting divorced now.

As for living together, I swear, that was the best time of our whole relationship. I would live with someone again, without being married, if the right guy came along.

The Church doesn't allow divorces though, so I don't know if you can call yourself Catholic.

 

[Challenger]

Been living with my woman for eleven years now two kids and things aren't any different than having the piece of paper that mkes it "legally binding".We're in the process of buying a house and things couldn't be better,I honestly think that piece of paper would complicate things and make it seem more like a legel obligation than a loving commitment.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
Just so you know, living with your future spouse before marriage increases your risk of divorce.

(Learned that in my Marraige and Family socialology class)

Obviously its not true for everone but it is something to think about.

Yeah right. Just getting married increases your risk of getting divorced.

 

[philmacrevis]

I think people should live together before marriage, so they have some time to adjust to each others living habits. I lived with a girlfriend (who I thought I was going to marry) for a year and a half and it didn't work out. I also lived with my wife for a year before we got married.

 

[minendo]

More experiences/opinions?

 

[MaxDepth]

Originally posted by: GirlFriday


You might want to rethink that statement. I'm Catholic, lived with my husband for two years before we were married, and I am getting divorced now.

As for living together, I swear, that was the best time of our whole relationship. I would live with someone again, without being married, if the right guy came along.

Sorry to hear that Ms. GFriday. And I agree with you. I was in a relationship of 5 and a half years where we lived together for four of them. Three years in, she bitched at a friend's wedding that I would never marry her; I asked her to marry me six months later. But it was she who bailed on the relationship a few months before the wedding with some of her friends telling me that she freaked when she realized that we both would have to compromise in a healthy marriage.

I didn't mind not being married because everything was in either/or's name for the bills and rent. And I'm not the type who needs my woman to carry my name, either. So when she left because she thought she'd lose her freedom, I kinda shrug because I think any serious relationship, especially living together, each person should lose a little bit of personal freedom for the greater whole.



And I will never have another girl live with me, though. That one hurt too much for me to want to do that again.