Originally posted by: nan0bug
In all seriousness, you need to put that girl on the back burner and find yourself someone new.
As for the guy, screw him. Let him have her. She'll mess around on him eventually too, and then you can have the last laugh.
See, what she's doing right now is having fun with the fact that you're jealous. She's feeding her already inflated ego. She thinks shes hot sh!t right now, and she can keep getting away with it. You throwing it in her face that shes quite replacable will not only bring her back down to earth, it will also send a message to other women that you are a real man who will not be walked all over. Women like that -- its the whole alpha male thing.
Right now you're putting her on a pedestal, ignoring all the other beautiful young women just waiting for you if you'd get over the fact that this girl doesn't care about you, possibly never will, and definately only will long after you walk right out of her life and find someone new. You've got one-itis. You're afraid that if you walk away from her you'll look like a pansy to this other guy and to other women.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
What you need to get implanted in that high school aged brain of yours while it's still receptive to change is that you need to be willing to walk at the first sign of trouble. Think of the dating game like poker. The point of poker isn't to win, its to maximize profits and minimize losses. SAME WITH DATING. The guys who make the most money CONSISTANTLY, only go all-in on a sure bet. You've got to learn to get enjoyment out of the losses by knowing, not thinking, but KNOWING you will come out on top in the end.
When people say that theres 'a million fish in the sea' thats not just useless rhetoric. Thats hundreds of thousands of years of experience summed up in a nice little sentence. It's the truth. There are other girls, and while she's hot, if you were able to hook up with her you should be more than capable of hooking up with someone not only as good looking or better than her, but with a good personality too. She knows this. You know this. Why play along with her game? A real man wouldn't stress her or her thugged out other boyfriend. A real man would take control of the situation, walk away, and find another girl.
I don't know if you play poker at all, but maybe this analogy will help. This girl is like the pot in the middle after everyone else has folded, and you and this guy are the only players left.
Her thugged out boyfriend is the guy across the table betting an abnormally large sum on a small pot. You have to think like a pro and realize while it would be nice to win that pot, chances are he's already won and while you may have called his bet up until now, the small amount of money in that pot isn't worth what you could lose if you continue to play this hand. You have two pair right now. He could have 3 of a kind or anything more than that. You don't know, and it simply IS NOT WORTH IT TO FIND OUT. Cut your losses and wait for a better bet.
As for looking like a pansy, stop stressing that. Right now you look like more of a pansy, at least to other women (which is all that really counts, by the way), by letting her have control of the situation. You're thinking about that one reward, instead of the whole game. That other guy should be the last thing on your mind. If he were really interested in fighting you he would have done it by now, and vice versa.
You're trying to be the alpha male by asserting your control over this girl, but in reality she's the one controlling you - your emotions and your ability to see what's really going on. Be the alpha male by taking the control of your life out of her hands and putting it back where it belongs, in yours.
Eventually you will find someone who won't play stupid games and not only talks about wanting the relationship to work, but acts upon that talk too. Chances are its not going to happen in high school, so get that thought out of your mind and start being realistic.
Tomorrow you should call up some other girls and ask them if they want to hang out, even if you don't have an interest in them romantically. Ideally you should be talking to at least 2 other women all the time (don't advertise it to your main girl but don't hide it either) so you're prepared to move on if something like this happens -- that isn't cheating by the way, as long as its strictly friendly and flirtatious. It keeps your main girl on her toes and makes her value you more by letting her know that you have something to offer that other women want.
I hope you take my advice and do something with it instead of ignoring it and continuing to play yourself. Trust me, while I'm not THAT much older than you, I have learned quite a few things about women since I was in high school, and the most important thing I've learned is that you've got to be willing to walk away. If she really cares about you, she'll be BEGGING for you to come back and she will publicly make an ass out of this other guy, so what do you have to lose?