Long Distance Relationships

[Bumrush99]

I met this incredible girl this past week. Everything you could ever ask for in a woman, hot, smart, sexy, the total package... Problem being she lives around 5000 miles away from me I have never been one to believe that you could really fall for someone in less than a week, but the myth has been shattered. So, have any of you experienced a relationship that required a long plane commute? We talked about it a bit and both were very apprehensive, my gut tells me its not worth it, but everything else is telling me this could be a great opportunity for something much better..

 

[rh71]

long distance for how long ?

 

[Bumrush99]

Originally posted by: rh71
long distance for how long ?

TBD

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: Bumrush99

Originally posted by: rh71
long distance for how long ?

TBD

If it's for a few months, you guys could make it work. If it's TBD, you better get your @$$ in gear if you WANT it to work.

BTW, where'd you guys meet ? If you're going to say at a club or bar, you can just forget it.

 

[BillyBatson]

take it from personal experience... twice.... the odds are it will not work out. There is always the chance that it will because not every 2 ppl are the same but no matter how wel the relationship and its potential the distance thign just puts too much of a strain on the relationship. Never knowing when you 2 will see each other again and even if you do it will be too far downt he road and once you do see each other then you dunno when the next time will be. Sooner or later 1 or both of you will waver, you will see your friends going out and having fun while you stay at home to call that person at some ungodly hour even though you have work/school cuz their hours are different. She may decide to go out with her friends then you are stuck missing her and didn't get o talk to her for a day or 2 and you dun understand why cuz you stayed home and waited, did she not want to talk to you enough to stay aswell? but she needs a life you can't expect her to stay and in all the time to just talk to you... but why does she not WANT to stay?! lol.
You can try being friends with her, keep in constant contact and get to know her better and see what can be worked out if anything but just don't go all out and jump into a relationship.

 

[AnyMal]

Move on before you get hurt.

 

[KB]

I am experienced in this as I am now married to my long-distance love and know it will not work out except if the following are true:
-you have known each other for 3 months or more
-you meet often, at least once a month
-you talk on the phone and/or chat every few days
-you two are way too busy with classes/work/school to go looking for other people

Since you don't meet all of these I think you should move on.

 

[PricklyPete]

I met a girl almost 3 years ago while vacationing in Miami with some friends. I had just gotten out of a college relationship that had turned into a long distance relationship after graduation and the long distance thing really, really sucked. Anyway, I decided to leave any possibiliy of a relationship in Miami...but we kept up as friends and about 6 months later started dating long distance (plane flights every other weekend).

To make a long story short, she finally moved to SC and we have been going strong still. They can work out...but I am will tell you that it is very difficult and you are definitely going to want to move closer to each other as quickly as possible. The distance can cause a lot of stress on the relationship. Also, if either of you are the least bit jealous...don't do it. That is what killed the relationship I had when leaving college. My girlfriend would constantly badger me about who I was hanging out with and what I was doing.

So go for it...but realize it will be tough and you will have to put some effort into it to keep it going. They can work out.

 

[theNEOone]

a week? a fvcking week?

hey, go get the door - it's reality knocking and it's about to kick you in the nads.


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[Saulbadguy]

5,000 miles....wtf.

 

[Bumrush99]

Originally posted by: theNEOone
a week? a fvcking week?

hey, go get the door - it's reality knocking and it's about to kick you in the nads.


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Hahahaha, thanks for posting the exact reply I would have had to this post a week ago.. Funny how perspectives change quickly, maybe your right, maybe your not Either way it doesn't phase me much, reality normally kicks me in the nads sooner or later regardless of the outcome

 

[theNEOone]

Originally posted by: Bumrush99

Originally posted by: theNEOone
a week? a fvcking week?

hey, go get the door - it's reality knocking and it's about to kick you in the nads.


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Hahahaha, thanks for posting the exact reply I would have had to this post a week ago.. Funny how perspectives change quickly, maybe your right, maybe your not Either way it doesn't phase me much, reality normally kicks me in the nads sooner or later regardless of the outcome

that's not the point man. i met my g/f almost 7 years ago and fell in love w/ her in a day. i didn't see her again till 6 months later and we've been going strong for 6.5 years. here's the kicker though, we live 20 minutes away from each other by car, not 20 hours by supersonic jet.

do yourself a favor and move on.


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[maziwanka]

i would say no

 

[aphex]

Is there any chance you will ever be closer?

From personal experience, i started dating my girl 2 months before i went to Europe for a semester back in 2002. We did a long distance relationship from Netherlands to the US for 6 months. Then once i returned, a Gainesville to Deland long distance (~50 miles) for another 5 months.

Needless to say it must have worked out as were currenly engaged to be married and living togeather

Good luck buddy!

 

[Gothgar]

Originally posted by: Saulbadguy
5,000 miles....wtf.

 

[AdamSnow]

All of my relationships have been long distance... Not one of them worked except for the one I am in now (2 years soon!) which is working very very well...

Hit or miss man... I'd say go for it... give it a try!

 

[Qwest]

how old are you guys if you dont mind me askin?

 

[mrrman]

I wouldnt personally do it...to far for me..heck anything over 200 miles is to far

 

[Bumrush99]

I'm 29, so no misconceptions or fake hopes, have a very good sense of what I want at this point of my life, and its not to waste more time.

 

[Hikari]

I say go for it, personally.

My fiance is from the UK, and we've been going out for a while now and are engaged (obviously. lol). I'm even moving there later this year. Not been the easiest thing I suppose, but the end is in sight.

 

[Adica]

I am 30, and I have had 3 long distance relationships. The first two were bombs. The third one was the best. We are now together and we are getting married on January 23, 05! I say -Let fate take over. If it's meant to be... it will be. Good luck to you.

 

[jjones]

Go for it. Just have fun and see what happens. My wife started out as a long distance relationship just for fun.

 

[yhelothar]

Same situation here...
But it will be two years for me before I will meet her. So I didn't consider it at all. She got pissed when I told her I wouldn't consider her because of the distance .

 

[Triumph]

What's the point of a relationship if you never see the person?

 

[Specabecca]

It is your decision. You have a more difficult challenge ahead of you than most if you've decided she is the one. 5,000 miles is an awefully long way Do you see yourself moving to country to be with her? Or do you hope that she will move to you?

Anything is possible With great risk comes great reward.