montanafan
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Do you still love her? Have your feelings for each other changed or is it just that the marriage isn't going the way the two of you, or one of you, envisioned it?
Originally posted by: Eghck
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
Originally posted by: sygyzy
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
Originally posted by: sygyzy
Just curious, do you have a pre-nup?
Nah... I was broke when we met.
Now we're not broke. She said that she is willing to just let me have what is in my personal accounts and my business (which is my firm) and she'll just take her 401k. Not a bad deal for me, really.
Wait, so stuff already happened since lunch? At lunch, she just mumbled something kind of mean. Now you guys are actually planning out the divorce? Oh man, this is getting ugly fast. I always feel bad in these situations. I really hope for a happy ending where you guys stay together but at the same time, I know that might not be the best idea.
Nope. That was two weeks ago.
Last week she explained at a tailgate party that she kept her maiden name to make our divorce easier... no name change.
She can really be a peach.
That makes it sound like she planned it all along. If thats the case, I dunno if there is anything TO salvage.
Originally posted by: RBachman
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
The biggest irony of all is... I'm a divorce lawyer.
In that case, rot in hell.
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
Originally posted by: BriGy86
Originally posted by: laurenlex
I'd try and save it, but be VERY CAREFUL about this house thing. There is a possibility she is stringing you along for her financial gain when it goes to divorceville.
I love women, but they can be very devious, cunning, dangerous creatures, especially when plssed off.
:thumbsup:
i can't stress enough
look out for number one! ("number one" being yourself )
The biggest irony of all is... I'm a divorce lawyer.
If it were anyone else's marriage, I would already have a battle plan in place, and I'd be loading for bear. Funny, when it is MY marriage, I guess I'm less willing to go to the mattresses.
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Originally posted by: Eghck
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
Originally posted by: sygyzy
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
Originally posted by: sygyzy
Just curious, do you have a pre-nup?
Nah... I was broke when we met.
Now we're not broke. She said that she is willing to just let me have what is in my personal accounts and my business (which is my firm) and she'll just take her 401k. Not a bad deal for me, really.
Wait, so stuff already happened since lunch? At lunch, she just mumbled something kind of mean. Now you guys are actually planning out the divorce? Oh man, this is getting ugly fast. I always feel bad in these situations. I really hope for a happy ending where you guys stay together but at the same time, I know that might not be the best idea.
Nope. That was two weeks ago.
Last week she explained at a tailgate party that she kept her maiden name to make our divorce easier... no name change.
She can really be a peach.
That makes it sound like she planned it all along. If thats the case, I dunno if there is anything TO salvage.
how about this outlook on it, she originally didn't change her name because she expected the worst. it went better than she expected so she stayed with him for 13 yrs, now it is slowing down a bit and she wants to bail.
Originally posted by: Gravity
Originally posted by: RBachman
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
The biggest irony of all is... I'm a divorce lawyer.
In that case, rot in hell.
LMFAO!!!! Kicked right in the nutz when it was down.....whoa!!!
Originally posted by: FrankyJunior
If you want it to succeed and just feel that you two aren't able to connect well, check out this book.
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/bookse...serid=184C2GTCsN&isbn=1881273156&itm=2
It's really great and has helped the couples in our couples group become closer together.
Or make an appointment and see a counselor. THe sooner you realize something is wrong and seek help, the higher the chance things can be fixed and the marriage will stay together.
Originally posted by: sygyzy
I am curious how you are treating her in all this. I mean, no offense to your wife, but when you quote the things she says or does, she sounds like not a very nice person. Are you a dick to her too? Because if not, then I don't think she is worth staying with. She seems abusive.
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
Originally posted by: sygyzy
I am curious how you are treating her in all this. I mean, no offense to your wife, but when you quote the things she says or does, she sounds like not a very nice person. Are you a dick to her too? Because if not, then I don't think she is worth staying with. She seems abusive.
You know... I'm really not sure. She tells me that I can be cold, verbally abusive, and downright evil at times. I really don't see it. I ask for examples, and she does not give me any.
Others have told me that she is abusive, and clearly does not love me. They have suggested that I leave her, and even offered me free room and board if I'd do it.
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
Originally posted by: sygyzy
I am curious how you are treating her in all this. I mean, no offense to your wife, but when you quote the things she says or does, she sounds like not a very nice person. Are you a dick to her too? Because if not, then I don't think she is worth staying with. She seems abusive.
You know... I'm really not sure. She tells me that I can be cold, verbally abusive, and downright evil at times. I really don't see it. I ask for examples, and she does not give me any.
Others have told me that she is abusive, and clearly does not love me. They have suggested that I leave her, and even offered me free room and board if I'd do it.
Originally posted by: sixone
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
Originally posted by: sygyzy
I am curious how you are treating her in all this. I mean, no offense to your wife, but when you quote the things she says or does, she sounds like not a very nice person. Are you a dick to her too? Because if not, then I don't think she is worth staying with. She seems abusive.
You know... I'm really not sure. She tells me that I can be cold, verbally abusive, and downright evil at times. I really don't see it. I ask for examples, and she does not give me any.
Others have told me that she is abusive, and clearly does not love me. They have suggested that I leave her, and even offered me free room and board if I'd do it.
That is not good. But that doesn't mean it's a lost cause. Are you willing to try counseling?
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
Originally posted by: sixone
That is not good. But that doesn't mean it's a lost cause. Are you willing to try counseling?
Maybe... I just hate counselors.
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
Originally posted by: sixone
That is not good. But that doesn't mean it's a lost cause. Are you willing to try counseling?
Maybe... I just hate counselors.