Made a huge mistake moving in with a female roommate, what right do I have?

[Ns1]

Why would there be any expectation that a roommate, ie someone who is most likely young and single, would NOT do things like have friends over? Thats what people do at this stage of their lives.

OP expected everyone to be a lonely introvert like the OP

 

[1sikbITCH]

LOL. And become an astronaut and a billionaire and a fireman.

So you say being a billionaire is easy...

 

[Darwin333]

3am here and I can't fall back asleep. I'll deal with this somehow tomorrow. Is it right for her to bring someone over at 1am on a weeknight with constant walking around, talking, etc next room over when I have work and other important things going on?

Any real solutions from those who dealt with this issue before?

Now that is some bullshit. I'd definitely set some ground rules about late night noise. I can't friggen stand being woken up period, doubly so when I have work early as hell in the morning.

Then again I don't have any roommates but if I did that kind of stuff would be set in stone. Kinda hard to bitch about friends during the day but don't cut into my sleepy time.

 

[VAisforlovers]

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[Darwin333]

lol you sound like a total pushover.

I didn't read it that way. Sometimes if you really want shit done you just have to do it your damn self. It sucks but that's life.

It would be nice if you could do a 2-4 week trial run with a new roommate. Wouldn't solve all the problems because some people will be on their absolute best behavior but should weed out the really bad ones.

BTW, who the hell prefers fucking with the trash over vacuuming? Running a vacuum is easy as hell, mine even has an auto-cord rewind thing (wrapping the cord used to be my least favorite part).

 

[Darwin333]

Not according to the others who posted in this threads. According to them, I'm a social loser virgin with no friends

They are just projecting themselves, don't sweat it bud. Seriously, there is some good advice in the thread.

Step 1: Have a serious, non-confrontational, talk with her about what you want and listen to what she wants. Try and find a compromise but remember that she lives there too. Shit like "don't wake me up" should be respected especially if you have a normal schedule.

I personally think it would be kind of a dick move to do anything else before you do the above but that's just me and I'm not currently living in your situation so take that with a grain of salt.

Step 2: If above doesn't work talk to the leasing office about your options to get out without paying any penalties.

Step 3: If it's bad enough that you just can't possibly suck it up pay your portion of whatever fees and penalties and consider it a life lesson. You should have had this discussion before yall ever thought about signing a lease or you should live somewhere you can afford on your own and maintain complete control over it if you want a roommate. I've had a few roommates in my life, including 2 females that I wasn't boning, but it was in my condo that I owned.


My home is my place to decompress and not be all stressed out. The last thing I would ever want is to be miserable in my own home so I feel for ya bud.

Seriously, if she is in her 30's she should be mature enough to have an adult conversation and the two of you can come to some sort of agreement.

 

[John Connor]

OP, you need to make the "nest" as uncomfortable as possible. I mean I could and WOULD do all kinds of shit. Like eat a head of cabbage and a big can of beans and just fart my ASS! off all over the place. Walk around half naked, make noise like she does. Maybe visit Backpage and bring a few over, I don't know you make it up. Just be a real prick and a ½.

:awe:

 

[Darwin333]

OP, you need to make the "nest" as uncomfortable as possible. I mean I could and WOULD do all kinds of shit. Like eat a head of cabbage and a big can of beans and just fart my ASS! off all over the place. Walk around half naked, make noise like she does. Maybe visit Backpage and bring a few over, I don't know you make it up. Just be a real prick and a ½.

:awe:

Whatever you do, do NOT do this. It will only make the situation much more miserable for you.

 

[SagaLore]

So... is she a moaner? Or is she quiet up until the end and then shouts? Does she accidently say your name?

 

[John Connor]

So... is she a moaner? Or is she quiet up until the end and then shouts? Does she accidently say your name?

That's just a damn dirty fantasy. LOL!

 

[Ns1]

So... is she a moaner? Or is she quiet up until the end and then shouts? Does she accidently say your name?

Best reply so far

 

[waffleironhead]

You have the right to remain stupid. Anything you say can and will be used against you.

 

[zCypher]

So... is she a moaner? Or is she quiet up until the end and then shouts? Does she accidently say your name?

Almost spat out my beer. HAHAHA

 

[Joepublic2]

I lived with her temporarily before and she never brought anyone over so I thought she would be a low hassle roommate. We decided to get a 2 bedroom and she constantly has friends over. On top of that, she recently met a guy and brings him over to spend the night where the walls are thin. I'm so angry that I signed a 1 year lease to live with her. We are in our first month. What can I do here? Set rules or move out?

Halp ATOT my roommate is social n stuff.

3am here and I can't fall back asleep. I'll deal with this somehow tomorrow. Is it right for her to bring someone over at 1am on a weeknight with constant walking around, talking, etc next room over when I have work and other important things going on?

Walking around and talking?!? How will you survive?

Any real solutions from those who dealt with this issue before?

You sound like one of those whiny, hypersensitive roommates I used to have to deal with. Use this as an apparently much need opportunity to HTFU.

She's in her 30's...be glad you can't.

Probably has point elbows, too.

 

[tortillasoup]

LOL. And become an astronaut and a billionaire and a fireman.

Do you honestly believe that OP can become a fireman?

 

[Elixer]

The only answer here it to play https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c8AyVhs3gJU full blast, every time you hear the bed squeaking...

Then, sublease to someone ASAP.

 

[pcgeek11]

Bringing someone over at 1am on a weeknight and making a lot of sound waking up the other roommate? We're not in college anymore. She honestly should've gotten her own place.

And you should have also.

Exactly what were you expecting, really?

 

[JEDIYoda]

I lived with her temporarily before and she never brought anyone over so I thought she would be a low hassle roommate. We decided to get a 2 bedroom and she constantly has friends over. On top of that, she recently met a guy and brings him over to spend the night where the walls are thin. I'm so angry that I signed a 1 year lease to live with her. We are in our first month. What can I do here? Set rules or move out?

Did you make a mistake because your not getting any from her or because she is getting ALL SHE WANTS RIGHT UNDER YOUR NOSE,,,LOLOL

 

[pcgeek11]

I found this to be a very entertaining thread.

 

[Linux23]

I made the mistake of moving in with my girlfriend.

 

[KMFJD]

 

[akugami]

Picts. Need them.

 

[TallBill]

So really her being a female has nothing to do with anything, other than you're jealous of whoever is banging her.

 

[BxgJ]

I made the mistake of moving in with my girlfriend.

Details? Pics?

 

[zinfamous]

Not according to the others who posted in this threads. According to them, I'm a lonely loser virgin with no friends

They absolutely have a "right" to do it. They have a right to pursue happiness and all that.

Clearly your version of happiness and life needs conflict with hers. This is as common an issue with people living together as long as people have ever lived together.

You make this thread and litter it with protests thinking you have been wronged in some profoundly unique way. You embellish the horrors that you have sustained by inviting this Succubus to live with you.

You neglected to establish ground rules from the beginning, set boundaries so that both can be happy.

You should do that now. Explain to her in a normal human manner that you can't be up all hours of the night because she wants to be up all hours of the night hitting skins with her beau. You have work and you need your rest. Maybe she is biomechanically different--maybe she can stay up all night and work just fine the next day, or she doesn't work at all. That doesn't matter, because it does affect you. Make sure she understands your needs and that she can accommodate them to a certain degree--but understand that you aren't going to get everything. You can't get everything here.

Her needs in her life are as equal as your needs in your life. You both will make sacrifices--such are the rules of roommates. At this age, I can not fathom how you have not learned this yet...and at this age, I can not fathom how you have not found a way to live without roommates, cost be damned.