You live in a world outside everyone else. Your M3 was a turd, yet you think it was equal to mine.
Personally, I think you moved to Denver for marijuana. You are that sloppy.
I don't really agree that kids affect sex life...at least that has not been the case for my wife and I. We are 2 months in after having twins and we are pretty much back to where we were before the pregnancy. I will say that it likely helps that she stays home with the kids. If we both worked, I think our exhaustion would definitely hinder.
same, we have a 5 and 2 year old and still continue to get busy at least 3-4 times a week.
You live in a world outside everyone else. Your M3 was a turd, yet you think it was equal to mine.
Personally, I think you moved to Denver for marijuana. You are that sloppy.
We are 2 months in after having twins and we are pretty much back to where we were before the pregnancy.
Oh just wait. At 2 months they are still in the "lay on the floor and bat at an activity mat" phase. In another 12-16 months they'll both be running from one end of the house, climbing on the dining room table, pulling any and everything out from cabinets, locking you out of the house when you go to garage, flinging food on every square inch of your kitchen, and so on.
As they get older it takes *A LOT* more energy to keep up with them.
Yep, same here. With two kids (5 and 3) we're still doing it at least 4 times a week, sometimes more. It only slows down if you let it. There's no reason you can't make it happen with kids unless you're just not making an effort. I understand how it could happen with kids because they do take some of our time, but it's a bullshit excuse to say you just can't find the time.
Does your wife work? And does she ever initiate any of this sex or is it you that "makes it happen"?
If she is really into it, that's cool man, good for you. But the reality is a lot of women aren't ready to go 4 times a week, especially when they are tired.
Rough week for you Alke? That was a terribly incoherent response.
Does your wife work? And does she ever initiate any of this sex or is it you that "makes it happen"?
If she is really into it, that's cool man, good for you. But the reality is a lot of women aren't ready to go 4 times a week, especially when they are tired.
Wyndru you just sound like you're making excuses about your failure of a sexual relationship, claiming that men should stop wanting it from their wives, and asking to have sex is "pestering" her.
Just because you're a pussy whipped loser doesn't mean all men are.
Does your wife work? And does she ever initiate any of this sex or is it you that "makes it happen"?
If she is really into it, that's cool man, good for you. But the reality is a lot of women aren't ready to go 4 times a week, especially when they are tired.
Wyndru you just sound like you're making excuses about your failure of a sexual relationship, claiming that men should stop wanting it from their wives, and asking to have sex is "pestering" her.
Just because you're a pussy whipped loser doesn't mean all men are.
That being said, all of our friends our age are 2 person income, maybe it's just the stress of the jobs and lack of time. I don't know.
It would be interesting to see a woman's forum discussion on this, I'm thinking most guys stating they are having frequent sex are either full of shit, or the woman is just putting up with it and isn't really enjoying it. It's sad either way.
Does your wife work? And does she ever initiate any of this sex or is it you that "makes it happen"?
If she is really into it, that's cool man, good for you. But the reality is a lot of women aren't ready to go 4 times a week, especially when they are tired.
Yeah, one of your cousins showed up as my excort.
It's an excort, because she had balls.
Constantly... We are very intimate outside of the bedroom. We play a lot but we don't have the need to run into the bedroom every time we look at each other. Maybe we just don't have a strong drive. When we do have sex it's pretty crazy though, we do some fun shit, and we have hosted sex toy parties for the ladies at our house, so we have accessories and enjoy it a lot, we just don't need it that often.How much intimate contact do you have with her *outside* the bedroom? I'm not talking a peck on a the cheek on the way out to work. I'm saying if the kids are asleep and she's watching tv do you ever come up to her from behind and start kissing her up and down her neck giving her goosebumps from her head to her toes? How often have you given her a foot massage or massaged her scalp? When was the last time you told her she looked beautiful?
Honestly, I'm just blown away that some men think like this. There are some comments here that make me feel bad for your wives. I love the attitude that if you aren't getting sex at least 4 times a week then your wife got lazy. It sounds primitive, like you should go beat her over the head with a club and take it caveman style.
I'm just amazed is all. And I honestly don't know anyone with young kids that have sex this regularly. But at the same time I don't know anyone who gives a shit about it, even the guys. That being said, all of our friends our age are 2 person income, maybe it's just the stress of the jobs and lack of time. I don't know.
It would be interesting to see a woman's forum discussion on this, I'm thinking most guys stating they are having frequent sex are either full of shit, or the woman is just putting up with it and isn't really enjoying it. It's sad either way.
Most women don't initiate because they don't have to. Men by nature are more of an on/off switch when it comes to sex drive and the woman will leave it up the man to start the process. It's also a game women play. Women want to be wanted. They *want* you to initiate. But they want it done on their terms. That varies wildly from woman to woman.
How much intimate contact do you have with her *outside* the bedroom? I'm not talking a peck on a the cheek on the way out to work. I'm saying if the kids are asleep and she's watching tv do you ever come up to her from behind and start kissing her up and down her neck giving her goosebumps from her head to her toes? How often have you given her a foot massage or massaged her scalp? When was the last time you told her she looked beautiful? I'd throw these same questions out to the guy that made the spreadsheet.
In many situations the lack of sex is because the guy just got lazy and doesn't want to put effort into it. If you guys just sit down and watch TV for and hour and veg out after the kids go to bed there's no spark there. She's done and just going to pack it in and head to bed.
With that said, I have no problem objectively showing my wife her behavior with a spreadsheet. I've done it many times in the past when she didn't realize how her time was being spent on the phone or how small purchases added up to be a lot. My wife isn't an irrational idiot, though, so maybe I'm just biased. I showed her this article and she had no problem with it in concept. The last time I used a spreadsheet on her was when she complained about not having enough time to go do stuff with her friends, so I downloaded and graphed her cell phone minute usage to show her how she could be better prioritizing her time. People in this thread are making WAY too big of a deal out of a spreadsheet. It's a convenient way to write something down and then use as a basis for discussion with another person. Writing things down is often the best way to get feelings across to another person and this is a logical extension of that.
Would you be cool with her showing you a spreadsheet of how you could better manage your time or spend money? It comes off a little obnoxious to me to point things out in that manner, which is why I could never do that. You mention that she isn't an irrational idiot, yet you feel that you need to visually show her how to manage her time and spend money. The way you say "the last time I used a spreadsheet on her"....it just sounds odd to me.
Wonder if he got rich in the next year or two from a lucky investment, business or the lottery would they do it more. That's pie in the sky I know, they sound like regular working people from that article.
True but as Playboy magazine put it many years ago money may not be able to buy love (or intimacy) but it can get you a "reasonable facsimile" as they put it.Not sure what that would solve. Money doesn't fix communication and intimacy issues.