Originally posted by: steveeast112
Yes, but you did have a mental problem at the time, and I presume either therapy or medication. You proved my point. Thanks.
Have you been married? Giving advice about one without ever being in one is like thinking you know what living with a chick or a roommate is like because you have a sister/brother at home. Your mommy and daddy staying together until you leave home is not a good statistic. The older crowd was not so accepting of divorce as the younger generation is. They want quick and easy. The older crowd will just put up with a lifetime of misery if it comes down to it and cheat on the side. It makes no sense to say "well, yeah they are screwing everyone but each other, but hey they are still married!"
My wife went nuts after she broke her neck....I tried to help her, but unfortunately like many parents do....her's interfered and told her lies that by getting her into counseling (I was going to go also and looking back I should have just done it alone), I was trying to get her Baker acted. They have no time to raise their kids, but all the time in the world once they are adults to pester and snoop, and just irreconcilably destroy a relationship.
I divorced, that was that. I was engaged another time, her parents talked her into funneling money out of our joint account to buy a townhouse and new mustang GT....both were bitter divorcees and would bring up the fact that marriage was a waste, even though they got married. My current wife has family only in Japan , not that all families are terrible.
Most people, and ATOT is a prime example, don't care what's really wrong or right as long as they are right. You can't do that in a marriage....or any relationship, if you don't follow rational thought it makes no point to attempt to communicate.
Sure there will be fights, sex drives that are not the same, different preferences in decor, clothing, food, hell even if you think it's ok to leave the bathmat down or if you have to hang it.....however no one wants to live with a clone.
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