marriage?

[johnjbruin]

Originally posted by: biostud666

Originally posted by: johnjbruin

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: johnjbruin

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Tinkerhell

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Tinkerhell

Originally posted by: moshquerade
single is the only way 2 B. just ask anyone who is married.

Not everyone feels that way.

are you married?

Practically. Are you? The only people who are unhappy are people who are with the wrong person. Believe it or not, it is possible to be happy with one person.

nope, so tell me you are happy after you are
"officially" married and you can be my first one.

seriously - i have yet to see a truly happy marriage.

edit: all married people do most of the time is fight with each other or piss each other off or restrict one from doing something they want to do. its like being tied down. nobody likes that.

Then you're looking in the wrong places. I see them all the time.

Just wait till you get married nik - its all downhill after that.

All my closest friends' parents are divorced, mine are on thier 33rd year of happy marriage. And I know because I'm my parents lovechild

well - that is what i am saying - majority - and that is a big majority - are not happy campers.

 

[Trygve]

Originally posted by: johnjbruin

seriously - i have yet to see a truly happy marriage.

edit: all married people do most of the time is fight with each other or piss each other off or restrict one from doing something they want to do.

I know several happily married couples. I even know some who are still unbearably cute together even after several years and a few kids--like the head-over-heels/courtship phase never ended.

its like being tied down. nobody likes that.

Oh, I know more than a few people who like that quite a bit....

 

[Tinkerhell]

Originally posted by: johnjbruin

Originally posted by: biostud666

Originally posted by: johnjbruin

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: johnjbruin

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Tinkerhell

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Tinkerhell

Originally posted by: moshquerade
single is the only way 2 B. just ask anyone who is married.

Not everyone feels that way.

are you married?

Practically. Are you? The only people who are unhappy are people who are with the wrong person. Believe it or not, it is possible to be happy with one person.

nope, so tell me you are happy after you are
"officially" married and you can be my first one.

seriously - i have yet to see a truly happy marriage.

edit: all married people do most of the time is fight with each other or piss each other off or restrict one from doing something they want to do. its like being tied down. nobody likes that.

Then you're looking in the wrong places. I see them all the time.

Just wait till you get married nik - its all downhill after that.

All my closest friends' parents are divorced, mine are on thier 33rd year of happy marriage. And I know because I'm my parents lovechild

well - that is what i am saying - majority - and that is a big majority - are not happy campers.

Thats ridiculous. Did you do a survey or something? :roll:

 

[johnjbruin]

Originally posted by: Tinkerhell

...

Thats ridiculous. Did you do a survey or something? :roll:

the same survey you did for assuming that they are happy.
look around you - how many married people do you see are seriously happy. the ones i come across usually have a lot of problems wth each other.


edit: remove all the quotes in the middle

 

[palle33]

I love you ..but this query is still to be answered..seems like a majority thinks marrige is a bad thing...in the long terme.....

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: Tinkerhell
Everybody is generalizing here. They see a few bad marriages, and they declare marriage is horrible, "there's no such thing as a haapy marriage." I know plenty of bad marriages, but I know just as many good ones. Things won't change for me once I get married. The only thing that will be different is that I'll have a ring on my finger, and a peice of paper that says I'm legally married. You can't think marriage is bad, because if you go into one thinking that of course it will turn out bad. I think its wrong to tell someone they're going to be unhappy once they're married. Everyone is different, and every couple is different. People need to be a little more open-minded, and not generalize.

<applause>

Originally posted by: johnjbruin
well - that is what i am saying - majority - and that is a big majority - are not happy campers.

funny, of the married couples I know, the majority - and that is a big majority - are as happy as can be. Obviously every marriage has its hiccups, but I know way too many people who have been happily married for decades and decades to throw it out the window.

My grandparents were married for 72 years when my grandma died...

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: palle33
I love you ..but this query is still to be answered..seems like a majority thinks marrige is a bad thing...in the long terme.....

I'd trust AT to give me computer advice, but I don't think a bunch of 20's age, single, male computer geeks are really the best source of marriage advice

 

[johnjbruin]

some fun facts for you all:
# n 1998 2.2 million couples married and 1.1 million couples divorced.

# In 2000 58 million couples were married, yet separated.

# In 2000 there were over 21 million divorces.

# People between the ages of 25 to 39 make up 60% of all divorces.

# Over one million children are affected by divorce each year.

# Approximately 1/3 of divorced parents remain bitter and hostile several years after the divorce.

# In 1990 the average female age for re-marriage after divorce was 30.6 years; for males, 33.7 years of age.

# In 1990 the average female age for a second divorce was 37.3 years; for males, 40.4 years of age.

# More people are part of second marriages today than first marriages.

http://www.divorcenter.org/faqs/stats.htm

 

[palle33]

Originally posted by: jagec

Originally posted by: palle33
I love you ..but this query is still to be answered..seems like a majority thinks marrige is a bad thing...in the long terme.....

I'd trust AT to give me computer advice, but I don't think a bunch of 20's age, single, male computer geeks are really the best source of marriage advice

LOL LOL

 

[LeadMagnet]

happily married.

you need a poll

 

[palle33]

the respons i got to this query was awesome thanks to all.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: johnjbruin
some fun facts for you all:
# n 1998 2.2 million couples married and 1.1 million couples divorced.

# In 2000 58 million couples were married, yet separated.

# In 2000 there were over 21 million divorces.

# People between the ages of 25 to 39 make up 60% of all divorces.

# Over one million children are affected by divorce each year.

# Approximately 1/3 of divorced parents remain bitter and hostile several years after the divorce.

# In 1990 the average female age for re-marriage after divorce was 30.6 years; for males, 33.7 years of age.

# In 1990 the average female age for a second divorce was 37.3 years; for males, 40.4 years of age.

# More people are part of second marriages today than first marriages.

http://www.divorcenter.org/faqs/stats.htm

 

[prvteye2003]

I've been happily married now for 12 years (be 13 years in August). Every marriage will have its hiccups and problems, doesn't mean it's a bad marriage or end up in divorce or that the couples are unhappy.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Happily married for 12 years this September.

 

[dirtboy]

I'm happily divorced.

 

[jjones]

9 years married now. The last 5 years have been happily; the first 4 years had their ups and downs, along with two separations.

 

[Coquito]

Must... break... free... aaaaah!

**wakes up from nightmare**

Ahh, just a dream.

 

[Squisher]

20 years

 

[Choralone]

4 years, 5 in October if we're still together. My wife and I have been separated (not legally) for the past 6 months. She has bi-polar disorder &amp; sleep apnea and decided she needs her "space". Too bad our son is stuck in the middle of all of it.

But I'm still hopeful for our future together..