Married Men: What is the most important attribute when looking for a wife?

[PlatinumGold]

Compatibility

 

[ScottyB]

Sense of Humour

 

[NogginBoink]

Your poll makes this easy. "Attractiveness" is obviously all that matters.

However, "attractiveness," to me, is a combination of many many things, only one of which is looks. (I expect that you intended "attractiveness" to be interpreted as "good looks.")

 

[Amused]

Honesty. Above all else... Honesty.

 

[djheater]

Emotional stability, a general "even-keeled'ness" My wife is wonderful in this regard. She doesn't freak out. I guess you could see that as "Sense of humor" she doesn't take things to seriously.

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: Regs
With the divorce rate above 50%, who cares? Marriage is a joke to many anyway. Except for those guys who have to give away half their earnings each month while the wife goes out and finds another branch to swing off from.

Argh* Grabs his gun.

The divorce rate at 50% is a statistic and a skewed one at that. I personally don't treat marriage lightly, and I'm sure many other people don't either. My wife works and we share our money equally.

 

[SuepaFly]

Originally posted by: tagej
Regs, it's precisely because so many treat marriage as a joke that the divorce rate is so high. People don't take it for the serious lifetime commitment it should be, and they simply don't put in the time and effort to make it work......

When you think of getting married, ask yourself: do you make eachother happy? Do you share common goals in life? Do you want to share all the ups and the downs, or are you just happy to be with that person given your current situation/environment? Things will change down the road, that's a given.

You don't have to be the same, have the same personalities or traits, but you do have to have things in common and share the same bottom line goals. Without a solid foundation to build on, a marriage is bound to crumble......

I agree. I've seen too many of my friend's parents get divorced because marriage was convenient. Then one day they wake up and say to themselves that they aren't happy and need to go find happiness elsewhere. It wrecks lives. My mom always tells me that there are some things that she hates about my dad, but when it comes down to it, those things can be overlooked because they believe in the same things and want the best for their family and agree on how to do that.

As for me, as a female, I'd hope that if a guy asked me to marry him, I would KNOW that he loved me because who I am now and can trust that the changes to who I am in the future will always include him. Also, its so important to be able to laugh with someone. Even if I'm 80 years old and have to carry an oxygen tank around, my life would be great so long as my husband and I could joke around together.

 

[ROTC1983]

I like an even mix of everything.

 

[Daxxax]

A mix of everything, But a wife who really loves for who you are is pretty important. Someone who makes you a better person in one way or another.

Also watch how she act's around her friends, relatives and young children. How she relates to them will be a strong indicator on how she acts towards you once you've been together for a long while.

 

[Jzero]

Overlooks my faults. Not married yet, but I'm close.
The biggest difference between her and my past gfs is that she doesn't try to change who I am. I'm disorganized, dramatic, prone to diatribes. I like to drink, kayak, act. I'm a geek, I like to play board games, smoke pipes and cigars and hang out with my brother. I'm very close to my family. Going to the beach is a top priority for me.

She's the first to not to attempt to change any of the above qualities. Looks, money, etc, I can overlook. Although it helps that I think my current gf is quite attractive.

 

[bleeb]

Small to medium sized breasts. (As we get older, the bigger breasted women will start to sag... :frown
Nice firm azz.

on a more serious note:
religious
a caring personality
intelligence
not TOO strong willed
sense of humor
comfortable
engaging
mindful/respectful and deserves respect
physical chemistry (I gotta at least be attracted to her)
charisma/charming personality
nice teeth/smile
*loyality*
**horny** but only for me

... there are probably more qualities, but I'm still young...

 

[TheLidlessEye]

All of the above (except for money, if you got the rest, you can get money). I was fortunate enough to get all of that.

Oh, and big tits.

 

[Kaieye]

The person you marry should be your "best" friend. Simple, isn't it???

 

[Eli]

Originally posted by: Kaieye
The person you marry should be your "best" friend. Simple, isn't it???

I agree.

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: Eli

Originally posted by: Kaieye
The person you marry should be your "best" friend. Simple, isn't it???

I agree.

for me, my wife IS my best friend, in someways my only friend. i have never been so cognizant of that fact as i am right now because she is soo far away.

i knew i would miss her but not like this.

 

[iwearnosox]

Originally posted by: Fatdog
Big breasts, trust funds.

 

[iwearnosox]

One that doesn't mind sharing you with other women, preferrably at the same time.

:beer:

 

[quackagator]

Be able to suck a golf ball thu a garden hose

 

[yllus]

A young man had seriously dated three girls and was finally faced with the dilemma of which to marry.

As a test he gave each of them one thousand dollars. The first girl went for a complete hair and face makeover, new clothes, and new shoes. She returned to show off her new look saying, "I want to be at my most beautiful for you. Why? Because I love you, dear."

The second girl returned with new hockey and golf equipment, a new stereo, VCR, and month's supply of beer saying, "I bought all these things for you. They're my gifts to you, because I love you so."

The third girl invested the $1,000 wisely and very quickly doubled her original amount. She reinvested the profits, which continued to multiply, and returned the first thousand to the young man saying, "I have taken your money and made it grow as an investment in our future together. That's how much I love you, my dear."

The young man was very impressed by all of their responses. He then gave long and careful consideration and finally married the one with the biggest boobs.

 

[waggy]

oohhh thats easy. she HAS to have the ability to put up with me.

but i got lucky. my wife is smart, sexy (redhead hmm), and fun to be with.

the only bad thing is she is a even bigger tightwad than me. heh

 

[KidTao]

Excellent question! In fact, the only sensible question that I?ve read on nerdy board so far.

The answer is comparable values, my young friend.

 

[odz]

Great, thanks for all the responses. Not as many "Shes got to be hot!" responses as I thought I would get.

 

[Woodie]

Slightly off the other poster...

Compatible values, and from those, compatible life goals.

BTW, values are developed very early, usually before adolescence. The trick is to figure out what your own values are, and figuring out which woman has the right sets to match yours.

 

[FeathersMcGraw]

Compatibility.

 

[Flash1969]

IMO marriage just isn't worth it. Especially if you are a male. The man has too much to lose. In MOST cases the man is deemed responsible for the divorce and will pay. From a womans point of view I guess it can be looked at as sort of an investment, if it doesn't work out she usually gets a pretty good parting gift.....


This is my opinion and only an opinion, but I have observed quite a few friends of mine get totally screwed and It has made me avoid marriage like the plague

As far as the thread topic goes....

Fidelity would be one of the most important things too me. People in general these days don't seem to mind cheating on their spouses. There was a survey that I read about on CNN.com that said that 60% of married women will cheat sometime in the marriage and that 90% of those women will not have any remorse....

here is the story on nypost.com HERE