Married People: Do you like your in-laws?

[Sentrosi2121]

Here is the thing with my in-laws.

My mother-in-law lives right next door to us. She has been great with the kids. Often times taking the kids to go run errands so that my wife can get things done around the house on the weekends (I work weekend nights so I usually fall asleep when I get home). But she's also the one who will throw that in our face if she is upset about something. The key here is that SHE takes the kids, doesn't ask, just takes them. Says to the wife, "Ok, I'm taking your kids with me so you can get things done" and then out the door they go.

Brother-in-law I've been asking for help with my outside faucet as it didn't close properly last fall and froze up on me. Everytime I ask him he says he'll be over the next day, and never shows up. And it's not just the faucet, it's other things that I have zero clue on how to fix, but want to learn. But if he has a computer/technical problem I usually drop everything to go help him out. Not going to do that anymore. So I'm lible to be the asshole now.

Sister-in-law lives in Italy and she can be a pain when she comes to visit. It's all about her world and we all have to mold ourselves around it when she's here. Not something anyone likes to do, especially me. I have my own things I need to get done during the weekdays and I don't need her plans spoiling into mine. Something I've told her repeatedly, but to no avail.

So I would LIKE to like my in-laws, but it seems like they do everything to push me away from them. There comes a point when you just shrug your shoulders and give up trying. If there is a rung underneath Tolerate, then that's where I'm at with my in-laws.

 

[meltdown75]

i had awesome inlaws.

 

[Kanalua]

Drive me nuts...most inconsiderate, mean, hypocritical people I've ever know...Moved to Hawaii to go to law school and live, rather than any other place on the Mainland (grew up and most of my immediate family lives in Hawaii). I would not wish my in-laws on my worst enemy (well, maybe I would)...

 

[AndrewR]

In small doses, they are fine. After a week in Residence Inn with them recently, my wife and I were both ready to kill them. Would have been the same with my parents, too, though.

 

[Alienwho]

My in laws live 5 minutes north. My mother in law really does mean well, but I find her as very irritating and obnoxious and unpleasant to be around. It's not that she's a bad person or anything, she's great, it's just a personality clash. The main thing is that she's always calling my wife and I to do things with them. I do all I can to limit these little family gatherings to once a week. I guess my in laws are much more of a tight knit family than what I am used to. I guess what really helps me tolerate it is that the rest of the family is excellent. My father in law is a great man and I really look up to him. All the brothers/siblings and their spouses are great as well.

 

[BlahBlahYouToo]

no option for me so i voted randomly.

 

[lokiju]

Very much so.

I've known them longer than my wife actually and have always gotten along with them very well.

A added plus is they get along great with my parents and my brother and his wife are like family to them also.

 

[RKS]

My in-laws are great. They watch our kids at least a couple times a week and would do anything to help us without asking for anything in return. My parents are the same way but my mom and my wife don't always see eye-to-eye. I used to get stuck mediating but now I tell them to deal with their issues with each other.

 

[miniMUNCH]

My in laws are pretty damn cool... actually, my parents and my in-laws are good friends now.

 

[Ruptga]

Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo
no option for me so i voted randomly.

Are you a tranny?

 

[rh71]

my MIL watches my twins while I work at home. It can't be done without her and I certainly don't want random babysitters doing it when I don't have to. Yes we pay her but she is basically a full-time nanny except on weekends. Works out great. I don't dislike her or anything but I just hate that my freedom is gone... which was sort of the kids' fault... to say the least.

 

[Godsend1]

Originally posted by: Common Courtesy
Additonal option needed - TOLERATED

This, and they are ok in small doses. My wife likes my parents more than her parents.

 

[guyver01]

My ex... couldn't stand my inlaws... worthless redneck hicks...

My current gf, hopefully soon to be inlaws.. totally awesome... they have a 5th wheel mobile home...and a boat...and all this cool shit..

 

[BoomerD]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
They are dead so they don't cause too many problems.

Mine as well, but when my FiL was alive, we all got along very well. After he died, my MiL kind of went off the deep end and became impossible to get along with. It finally caused my wife to quit speaking to her mom...and when the MiL died, they hadn't spoken in about 4 years. This caused my wife a lot of guilt...even though the old lady was the cause of most of the conflict.

 

[Electric Amish]

I'm a man and I like my in-laws better than my parents.

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: joshsquall
Do you like them or do they drive you nuts?

of course they drive me nuts. but i still like them. my wife left 3 years ago this july, i spend at least one day a weekend over at the in laws (her mom and stepdads house) visiting the nephews and such still. i think i visit her sister more than she does, as we are really good friends still. her dad has always pissed me off, and still does to this day but he has never been a part of our lives anyway.

 

[Gooberlx2]

How about:

"I'm a man. I like my father-in-law. My mother-in-law is crazy."

Edit:
...well, even if she's crazy, I do generally like my in-laws.

 

[vi edit]

Originally posted by: AndrewR
In small doses, they are fine. After a week in Residence Inn with them recently, my wife and I were both ready to kill them. Would have been the same with my parents, too, though.

That's much the same for me. Small doses and they are fine. Much more than that and you can set a countdown timer before my wife ultimately has a meltdown with them over some argument or another. They are nice, just really quirky and live their lives completely opposite of how my wife does. When visiting them, hotels are a must. Staying in that same small house just doesn't cut it.

My wife gets along with my parents very well. So well that it was part of the reason that we are going to be building a home about 5 minutes from them.

 

[dirtboy]

Not married, but I plan to marry my gf. I enjoy my in-laws.

 

[Patt]

My in-laws are great. They were just here for a week ... they pitch in for groceries, pay for my golfing with the father-in-law, and love to entertain our two daughters. They're good people.

 

[Patt]

My in-laws are great. They were just here for a week ... they pitch in for groceries, pay for my golfing with the father-in-law, and love to entertain our two daughters. They're good people.

 

[queenrobot]

I like my in-laws. My MIL can be a little crazy at times, and she tries to control what me and my husband do sometimes, but overall she is good lady. I love my FIL more than my bio dad.

 

[SirChadwick]

Father-in-law = down to earth guy, but intimidating.... we really have nothing in common though except rock music
Mother-in-law = self-centered, always has to have the best, always 'needs' something, hypochondriac

I can tolerate the dad for about 3 days and tolerate the mom for about 3 hours.

 

[numark]

My in-laws are, no kidding, some of the worst people I have ever met in my life. My father-in-law literally does nothing but sit around watching Fox News when he's not at work, pausing only to make snide remarks about my Democrat-oriented beliefs. If Bill O'Reilly says something is true, it's like gospel from the mouth of God himself. I've learned just not to even be in the same room as him when he's around.

My mother-in-law is even worse. She sees everything as her business, and has some totally worthless comment on it. She'll eavesdrop on anyone within 2 miles, and then bring it up in front of everyone. I've had private phone calls behind a closed door, and she's still found a way to listen in. Not to mention that if you ever borrow money from her, you'd better be ready to pay up almost immediately. I've had her buy groceries that I needed when she was already going there. When she came back with a bill for something like $21.16, I offered to just give her $22.00, but she refused, saying that I literally had to count out 16 cents from my pocket.

Can you tell what I think of my in-laws?

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[nakedfrog]

I like some, others not so much.