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Originally posted by: child of wonder
Hi, I'm the OP's wife
Ruh roh. :shocked:
So basically you have just confirmed that the OP is just a whiny baby. :thumbsup:
Originally posted by: child of wonder
Hi, I'm the OP's wife
Originally posted by: child of wonder
Hi, I'm the OP's wife
First off, the cold was the same cold that OP had last Sunday, that was SUPER bad for one day. That's what mine was Friday. His was Sunday, and if I do recall, he was treated as close to a king someone with 2 difficult children can come to... I wanted to do more yard work last Sunday, rock around the house, power wash the deck. But no, he had a cold, so I just said, next weekend, as it is going to start cooling down here soon. He also forgot to mention that Friday when I asked him to fill up the humidifier I had also done the family's weekly grocery/ necessities shopping. After I got home and put the groceries away, I sat down with him and our 6 year old and watched an episode of Star Trek TNG then our son went to bed. Feeling very worn down and with him just sitting there messing around on the computer/internet (not working on the laptops, which were in the office, and we were in the family room) I asked him to fill up the humidifier. In my mind I would have, and have done the same thing for him time and time again.
Now come to the yard, as I stated last weekend he came down with this same cold, and he didn't feel up to doing much of anything. I was completely willing to mow the yard even still not feeling 100%, all I requested was for him to hold the the hoses up so I could mow under them...as I have done the times that he has mowed the yard. We have actually since talked about this hose thing, and he thought what I wanted him to do was to pull them out and move the sprinklers and hoses out of the way instead of what I had in mind.
I don't ask him to do mundane things very often imo. The humidifier was something where I have done it for him, so I kind of wanted to have the same treatment...Is that selfish? Is that being bitchy?
Also, dh knows that most of the time what I get mad about is not the fact that he won't help me with something, it's when I ask for help and I need immediate help and he agrees, but helps only on his time. Selfish? Bitchy? The yard was something that he and I had discussed for at least 2-3 days prior...
Originally posted by: child of wonder
Hi, I'm the OP's wife
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Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
shenssssssssss
Originally posted by: Steve
Originally posted by: TallBill
Originally posted by: silverpig
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: kypron7
Since no one's suggested this:
Women know that men need to feel useful, so we ask them to do things. If we just do everything ourselves then they feel unneeded.
(I'm female-Kypron's fiancee)
Haha... :laugh:
2700 posts? WTF?
There was that post reset bug a while back. Maybe he got hit by it.
No, his old account exists under the name NikPreviousAcct or something like that. The account he's on now used to be called GuideBot.
Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
shenssssssssss
Originally posted by: child of wonder
But this one is only a 1983 model! Are those out of date already?
Originally posted by: PlasmaBomb
Originally posted by: child of wonder
But this one is only a 1983 model! Are those out of date already?
hmmmm... 25
Yup they have been superseded by the 1990 models, get with the times!
Originally posted by: child of wonder
Originally posted by: PlasmaBomb
Originally posted by: child of wonder
But this one is only a 1983 model! Are those out of date already?
hmmmm... 25
Yup they have been superseded by the 1990 models, get with the times!
She won't be 25 until the end of October.
There's still some tread left.
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wat? You have some of the worst typing/grammar I've seen on here.Originally posted by: waggy
hahah my wife is the same way. she will ask for help on crap that is easy for her to do. hell be faster her doing it then yelling at me and makeing me do it.
i don't get it. i never crosses me mind to ask her to some of the crap and i just do it.
but then i figure if i don't do it i will be stuck jerking off and i love her so much! best damn wife in the world!
./...yes she reads these threads..
Originally posted by: child of wonder
Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
shenssssssssss
Not shens.
I let her have the laptop knowing she would read this thread so it would open a dialogue. And it has! lol
We're having a discussion right now about roles and responsibilities.
Originally posted by: clamum
wat? You have some of the worst typing/grammar I've seen on here.Originally posted by: waggy
hahah my wife is the same way. she will ask for help on crap that is easy for her to do. hell be faster her doing it then yelling at me and makeing me do it.
i don't get it. i never crosses me mind to ask her to some of the crap and i just do it.
but then i figure if i don't do it i will be stuck jerking off and i love her so much! best damn wife in the world!
./...yes she reads these threads..
Originally posted by: chusteczka
She wants your time and attention. It seems that she feels she is not getting enough of your attention.
Originally posted by: alkemyst
In my current household, my wife and I don't have many 'shared' jobs outside making the bed (which I can do by myself, but she wants to be part of for whatever reason).
I am a good cook, but cooking is her thing. She likes her kitchen a certain way and things done a certain way. Personally I could care less so she can have it. She also has a certain way she likes to do the dishes. It's slow and painful for me to watch...but she never gets any water anywhere but the sink. Again this isn't something that even matters...it's a win for me. If she only runs the dishwasher 1-2 times a month, I am ok (due to the seals).
I still do the grilling and BBQ whether it's broiling inside or cooking outside. She loves this but the media has her worried that too much is cancerous.
I cut the lawn, do the shrubs and trees. She tends to our roses and weeds time to time.
I clean the cat's boxes during the week, she gets them on the weekend...this is a simple task though.
I take out the trash and recycling each morning.
She does the laundry from start to finish. I was my car / shop stuff myself...she hates these things in her machines even though I throw out any oily/greasy rags .
She dusts, vacuums the majority. I do the fans from time to time. I do the windows.
When I paint...I paint, I don't have her waiting around for the occasional helping hand. When I am doing car repairs the same.
I do the pressure cleaning and home maintenance.
Originally posted by: clamum
wat? You have some of the worst typing/grammar I've seen on here.Originally posted by: waggy
hahah my wife is the same way. she will ask for help on crap that is easy for her to do. hell be faster her doing it then yelling at me and makeing me do it.
i don't get it. i never crosses me mind to ask her to some of the crap and i just do it.
but then i figure if i don't do it i will be stuck jerking off and i love her so much! best damn wife in the world!
./...yes she reads these threads..
Originally posted by: mAdMaLuDaWg
Originally posted by: secretanchitman
Originally posted by: ConstipatedVigilante
My mom will actually refuse help when you ask for it and then get pissed off when you don't do anything. Girls don't make sense.
my mom does the exact same thing. that fucking pisses me off. i REALLY hate when she does that.
hahaha.. this is sigworthy material.
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: MisterJackson
She wasn't mad per se that she had to do these things herself, just that you didn't get the subtle hint that she'd love it if you did it for her. Women aren't direct creatures like us men.
Well she should get the subtle hint to do it her freakin self. Just get the damn job done, stop wasting time, stop whining and crying like a bitch and do it. That's what I do when I have something to do, I just DO IT. I don't whiiiiiiiiine and beeeeeeeeg her to do it for me or do it with me.
I'd rather just get the goddamn job done and out of the way without creating a potential point of contention by even talking about it.
If she wants to help, she will. If I want to help, I will.
I'm not talking about those "lets do something together" kind of bonding things.
You want a lightbulb changed? Well get up off your fat lazy ass and do it. You want the trash taken out? STFU and take it out. I don't ask you to change the oil on my car (or your car), I don't ask you to do laundry or take out the trash, I don't ask for anything to be done, I just do it.
I expect the same
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Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
I completely understand. My gf asks me all the time why I just "do stuff" all the time, and how she doesn't like that when I just do it. My response is "it needed to get done, so I just did it." She doesn't like that.
For example the other day she was in bed still laying down before she got up and out of bed. I got up and just started making breakfast and cleaning the dishes from dinner the night before. When she hears me starting that stuff (water running for dishes, and mixing pancake mix), she yells out "I would have done the dishes". I'm thinking "okay if you would have done the dishes, why didn't you?", but respond "well it just needed to get done".
I can't tell you how many times she asks me to help with something and I am in the middle of something at that second. When I go to help, she has already done it or doesn't want help anymore. Then she gets mad at me about it. I don't say anything because fighting about crap like that does nothing useful.
Teh womenz. Can't live with em, don't want to live without em (my hand just doesn't cut it all the time, and I'm not gay).
Originally posted by: Fritzo
That is my wife to a "T". She can't seem to do anything on her own. I bet my name is called 10 times a night.
Gets annoying as hell. I developed a "nag" filter though- if when calling my name it's descending in tone, it's non critical. If it is under three calls she'll do it herself. If it's three calls or over I'll show up to reward persistence.
If the call is ASCENDING in tone, get there stat- you're in big trouble