Maybe my wife is the only one...

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: child of wonder
Hi, I'm the OP's wife

Ruh roh. :shocked:


So basically you have just confirmed that the OP is just a whiny baby. :thumbsup:

 

[RESmonkey]

Originally posted by: child of wonder
Hi, I'm the OP's wife

First off, the cold was the same cold that OP had last Sunday, that was SUPER bad for one day. That's what mine was Friday. His was Sunday, and if I do recall, he was treated as close to a king someone with 2 difficult children can come to... I wanted to do more yard work last Sunday, rock around the house, power wash the deck. But no, he had a cold, so I just said, next weekend, as it is going to start cooling down here soon. He also forgot to mention that Friday when I asked him to fill up the humidifier I had also done the family's weekly grocery/ necessities shopping. After I got home and put the groceries away, I sat down with him and our 6 year old and watched an episode of Star Trek TNG then our son went to bed. Feeling very worn down and with him just sitting there messing around on the computer/internet (not working on the laptops, which were in the office, and we were in the family room) I asked him to fill up the humidifier. In my mind I would have, and have done the same thing for him time and time again.

Now come to the yard, as I stated last weekend he came down with this same cold, and he didn't feel up to doing much of anything. I was completely willing to mow the yard even still not feeling 100%, all I requested was for him to hold the the hoses up so I could mow under them...as I have done the times that he has mowed the yard. We have actually since talked about this hose thing, and he thought what I wanted him to do was to pull them out and move the sprinklers and hoses out of the way instead of what I had in mind.
I don't ask him to do mundane things very often imo. The humidifier was something where I have done it for him, so I kind of wanted to have the same treatment...Is that selfish? Is that being bitchy?
Also, dh knows that most of the time what I get mad about is not the fact that he won't help me with something, it's when I ask for help and I need immediate help and he agrees, but helps only on his time. Selfish? Bitchy? The yard was something that he and I had discussed for at least 2-3 days prior...

[atot]stop lying, there are no womenz on the internetz[/atot]

Oh hai.

 

[RKS]

Originally posted by: child of wonder
Hi, I'm the OP's wife

...

owned :laugh:

In all seriousness, couldn't you guys have this type of conversation at home and figure out your problems?

BTW OP I'm an attorney and have never won an argument against my wife (I am right at least 90% of the time but she'll never admit defeat).

 

[GiggleGirl]

shenssssssssss

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
shenssssssssss

I doubt it shens, I bet he either stays logged in and she followed a link in his email, or he left it on his screen and walked away.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: Steve

Originally posted by: TallBill

Originally posted by: silverpig

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: kypron7
Since no one's suggested this:
Women know that men need to feel useful, so we ask them to do things. If we just do everything ourselves then they feel unneeded.
(I'm female-Kypron's fiancee)

Haha... :laugh:

2700 posts? WTF?

There was that post reset bug a while back. Maybe he got hit by it.

No, his old account exists under the name NikPreviousAcct or something like that. The account he's on now used to be called GuideBot.

:shocked:

stalker!

 

[Nik]

I'm not sure how the double post happened

 

[Aquila76]

Yeah, I think this is a female thing. My wife announces to everybody (her niece & nephew are here this weekend) this afternoon that she is going to do the dishes at 4:00PM. 4:00PM rolls around and she gets pissed at me that I'm not helping her with the dishes. It got worse when I called her out on the fact that she never asked for me to help her: she simply said SHE was going to clean the dishes, not WE. Eventually, I say that we will help her after we're done with our Mario Kart tournament (4 races). Of course, she manages to get a kitchen full of dishes done in 10 minutes and is now ragingly hella berzerker angry at me. If there's any saving grace to this debacle, I don't think either her niece or nephew want to get married now.

 

[child of wonder]

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
shenssssssssss

Not shens.

I let her have the laptop knowing she would read this thread so it would open a dialogue. And it has! lol

We're having a discussion right now about roles and responsibilities.

 

[PlasmaBomb]

Originally posted by: child of wonder

But this one is only a 1983 model! Are those out of date already?

hmmmm... 25

Yup they have been superseded by the 1990 models, get with the times!

 

[child of wonder]

Originally posted by: PlasmaBomb

Originally posted by: child of wonder

But this one is only a 1983 model! Are those out of date already?

hmmmm... 25

Yup they have been superseded by the 1990 models, get with the times!

She won't be 25 until the end of October.

There's still some tread left.

:laugh:

 

[ConstipatedVigilante]

Originally posted by: child of wonder

Originally posted by: PlasmaBomb

Originally posted by: child of wonder

But this one is only a 1983 model! Are those out of date already?

hmmmm... 25

Yup they have been superseded by the 1990 models, get with the times!

She won't be 25 until the end of October.

There's still some tread left.

:laugh:

You totally just went there...

 

[clamum]

Originally posted by: waggy
hahah my wife is the same way. she will ask for help on crap that is easy for her to do. hell be faster her doing it then yelling at me and makeing me do it.

i don't get it. i never crosses me mind to ask her to some of the crap and i just do it.


but then i figure if i don't do it i will be stuck jerking off and i love her so much! best damn wife in the world!


./...yes she reads these threads..

wat? You have some of the worst typing/grammar I've seen on here.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: child of wonder

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
shenssssssssss

Not shens.

I let her have the laptop knowing she would read this thread so it would open a dialogue. And it has! lol

We're having a discussion right now about roles and responsibilities.

Without pics of her with ATOT across her chest or ass, it's definitely shens.

If she had enough gumption to post in the first place this shouldn't be hard for her to provide.

We will wait.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: clamum

Originally posted by: waggy
hahah my wife is the same way. she will ask for help on crap that is easy for her to do. hell be faster her doing it then yelling at me and makeing me do it.

i don't get it. i never crosses me mind to ask her to some of the crap and i just do it.


but then i figure if i don't do it i will be stuck jerking off and i love her so much! best damn wife in the world!


./...yes she reads these threads..

wat? You have some of the worst typing/grammar I've seen on here.

drugs son.

 

[alkemyst]

In my current household, my wife and I don't have many 'shared' jobs outside making the bed (which I can do by myself, but she wants to be part of for whatever reason).

I am a good cook, but cooking is her thing. She likes her kitchen a certain way and things done a certain way. Personally I could care less so she can have it. She also has a certain way she likes to do the dishes. It's slow and painful for me to watch...but she never gets any water anywhere but the sink. Again this isn't something that even matters...it's a win for me. If she only runs the dishwasher 1-2 times a month, I am ok (due to the seals).

I still do the grilling and BBQ whether it's broiling inside or cooking outside. She loves this but the media has her worried that too much is cancerous.

I cut the lawn, do the shrubs and trees. She tends to our roses and weeds time to time.

I clean the cat's boxes during the week, she gets them on the weekend...this is a simple task though.

I take out the trash and recycling each morning.

She does the laundry from start to finish. I was my car / shop stuff myself...she hates these things in her machines even though I throw out any oily/greasy rags .

She dusts, vacuums the majority. I do the fans from time to time. I do the windows.

When I paint...I paint, I don't have her waiting around for the occasional helping hand. When I am doing car repairs the same.

I do the pressure cleaning and home maintenance.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: chusteczka
She wants your time and attention. It seems that she feels she is not getting enough of your attention.

Well, he'll be very available when he gets fired from his job.

I get this same thing. If I'm not suppose to be reading a mind (a talent I have yet to develop, she knew I was slow when she married me!) I'm suppose to drop whatever it is I'm doing to do some laundry. Which is understandable, I am a robot that sits around all day awaiting the next command input and the house does burn down if the laundry is put in 5 minutes from now.

 

[EricMartello]

Originally posted by: alkemyst
In my current household, my wife and I don't have many 'shared' jobs outside making the bed (which I can do by myself, but she wants to be part of for whatever reason).

I am a good cook, but cooking is her thing. She likes her kitchen a certain way and things done a certain way. Personally I could care less so she can have it. She also has a certain way she likes to do the dishes. It's slow and painful for me to watch...but she never gets any water anywhere but the sink. Again this isn't something that even matters...it's a win for me. If she only runs the dishwasher 1-2 times a month, I am ok (due to the seals).

I still do the grilling and BBQ whether it's broiling inside or cooking outside. She loves this but the media has her worried that too much is cancerous.

I cut the lawn, do the shrubs and trees. She tends to our roses and weeds time to time.

I clean the cat's boxes during the week, she gets them on the weekend...this is a simple task though.

I take out the trash and recycling each morning.

She does the laundry from start to finish. I was my car / shop stuff myself...she hates these things in her machines even though I throw out any oily/greasy rags .

She dusts, vacuums the majority. I do the fans from time to time. I do the windows.

When I paint...I paint, I don't have her waiting around for the occasional helping hand. When I am doing car repairs the same.

I do the pressure cleaning and home maintenance.

+10 for sticking to gender roles, the key to a happy marriage.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: clamum

Originally posted by: waggy
hahah my wife is the same way. she will ask for help on crap that is easy for her to do. hell be faster her doing it then yelling at me and makeing me do it.

i don't get it. i never crosses me mind to ask her to some of the crap and i just do it.


but then i figure if i don't do it i will be stuck jerking off and i love her so much! best damn wife in the world!


./...yes she reads these threads..

wat? You have some of the worst typing/grammar I've seen on here.

great. now ask if i give a shit? :beer:

 

[meltdown75]

there is no one key to a happy marriage.

surrender your balls or die.

the choice is yours.

 

[BurnItDwn]

My ex gf was like that all the time (and we only were together for a little over a year.) I don't know why I put up with her crap for so long. We get along OK now that we live a few miles apart.

"Brian can you do blablabla", "sure, no problem" .... 15 minutes later she's pissed because I didn't do "blablabla" so she does it herself .... (note: She never ever specified any time frame, so I assume that it was not an emergency, meaning I could do it the next day or the day after, or whatever, when I had time and when it was convenient for me...)

Women are so aggravating. And why can't they take a joke? Why do they need constant reassurance? Why do they not like it if I hang out in the basement and listen to my music and play video games online with my friends. Why must they always disturb me at the worst times! I always hated it when she would ask me to do shit AFTER I sat down and finally got to wind down and relax .... Ahh well, no more! I'm FREE!!!!!!!!!!

 

[geno]

Originally posted by: mAdMaLuDaWg

Originally posted by: secretanchitman

Originally posted by: ConstipatedVigilante
My mom will actually refuse help when you ask for it and then get pissed off when you don't do anything. Girls don't make sense.

my mom does the exact same thing. that fucking pisses me off. i REALLY hate when she does that.

hahaha.. this is sigworthy material.

I know, it's pretty funny the thread started off with "my wife / gf" and guys started chiming in with "my mom"

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
She wasn't mad per se that she had to do these things herself, just that you didn't get the subtle hint that she'd love it if you did it for her. Women aren't direct creatures like us men.

Well she should get the subtle hint to do it her freakin self. Just get the damn job done, stop wasting time, stop whining and crying like a bitch and do it. That's what I do when I have something to do, I just DO IT. I don't whiiiiiiiiine and beeeeeeeeg her to do it for me or do it with me.

I'd rather just get the goddamn job done and out of the way without creating a potential point of contention by even talking about it.

If she wants to help, she will. If I want to help, I will.

I'm not talking about those "lets do something together" kind of bonding things.

You want a lightbulb changed? Well get up off your fat lazy ass and do it. You want the trash taken out? STFU and take it out. I don't ask you to change the oil on my car (or your car), I don't ask you to do laundry or take out the trash, I don't ask for anything to be done, I just do it.

I expect the same

</rant>

I completely understand. My gf asks me all the time why I just "do stuff" all the time, and how she doesn't like that when I just do it. My response is "it needed to get done, so I just did it." She doesn't like that.

For example the other day she was in bed still laying down before she got up and out of bed. I got up and just started making breakfast and cleaning the dishes from dinner the night before. When she hears me starting that stuff (water running for dishes, and mixing pancake mix), she yells out "I would have done the dishes". I'm thinking "okay if you would have done the dishes, why didn't you?", but respond "well it just needed to get done".

I can't tell you how many times she asks me to help with something and I am in the middle of something at that second. When I go to help, she has already done it or doesn't want help anymore. Then she gets mad at me about it. I don't say anything because fighting about crap like that does nothing useful.

Teh womenz. Can't live with em, don't want to live without em (my hand just doesn't cut it all the time, and I'm not gay).

 

[child of wonder]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus

I completely understand. My gf asks me all the time why I just "do stuff" all the time, and how she doesn't like that when I just do it. My response is "it needed to get done, so I just did it." She doesn't like that.

For example the other day she was in bed still laying down before she got up and out of bed. I got up and just started making breakfast and cleaning the dishes from dinner the night before. When she hears me starting that stuff (water running for dishes, and mixing pancake mix), she yells out "I would have done the dishes". I'm thinking "okay if you would have done the dishes, why didn't you?", but respond "well it just needed to get done".

I can't tell you how many times she asks me to help with something and I am in the middle of something at that second. When I go to help, she has already done it or doesn't want help anymore. Then she gets mad at me about it. I don't say anything because fighting about crap like that does nothing useful.

Teh womenz. Can't live with em, don't want to live without em (my hand just doesn't cut it all the time, and I'm not gay).

This is common with my wife as well.

I'll be surfing the net, playing Xbox, reading a book, etc. and suddenly "come here!"

"What is it?" I'll ask.

"Just come here."

"Why? What do you want?"

Or she'll want me to do something while I'm doing something else. Sure, Xbox, reading, etc. are not things I can't stop, the interruption is still unwelcome.

When she asks me to do something I'll respond with "sure, give me a few minutes." Those few minutes (or 10-15 minutes) go by and I arrive to perform said task and she has already done it. Then she's mad at me.

Now, if there was some kind of time frame involved, it should have been conveyed. Second, if something was not important enough to have a time frame then why get upset if I wait to do it? If it is minor and needs no time frame, why are you asking me to do it in the first place?

 

[Aharami]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
That is my wife to a "T". She can't seem to do anything on her own. I bet my name is called 10 times a night.

Gets annoying as hell. I developed a "nag" filter though- if when calling my name it's descending in tone, it's non critical. If it is under three calls she'll do it herself. If it's three calls or over I'll show up to reward persistence.

If the call is ASCENDING in tone, get there stat- you're in big trouble