Maybe my wife is the only one...

[Baked]

How did you get her to marry you when you're so totally clueless on what she's thinking. Did you whipped out your horse cock and knocked her out?

 

[Molondo]

My long time Girlfriend is from the farmland, i sometimes think shes tougher than me.

 

[ConstipatedVigilante]

My mom will actually refuse help when you ask for it and then get pissed off when you don't do anything. Girls don't make sense.

 

[jbkane26]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: nick1985

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: child of wonder
My wife has a cold. Last night we watched some TV downstairs together. After a bit she decided to call it a night early. I had some work to do from home for my job so I told her I'd be up in a couple hours.

As she got up to leave she asks me if I can come upstairs and help her set up the humidifier in our room to help clear her sinuses.

"Help?" I asked. "What do you want help with? It just needs to be filled with water."

"Then can you just do it for me? I'm going to go to the bathroom."

"OK," I say. "I'll be up in a few minutes."

5 minutes go by and I head upstairs to find her filling it up herself. I take it away from her and say I was going to do it. Now she's mad.

Fast forward to this morning. I still have a lot of work to do and have to go into work this afternoon to move some servers. We also need to mow the lawn. Earlier in the week she volunteered to do it herself which is a big help so I can get my work done.

"Will you help me move the sprinklers?" she asks.

We have a temporary irrigation system set up since we had the lawn seeded. It's just a network of rainbird sprinklers connected with garden hoses. To move one, they simply need to be lifted up and carried somewhere else.

"When I mowed the yard last time I didn't need any help moving them," I said.

"Whatever. Fine. I'll just move them."

"I don't understand why you need help to move them. It's really simple. As you mow and come up to one, just pick it up and move it."

Again, she is peeved.

Why do women ask for help for the smallest little things? My wife does this frequently.

Are they really that incapable or do they just like seeing us jump through hoops?

Last night my wife comes home from the grocery store, she comes in the house and I say to my son, "Mom's home." She walks in with a few bags of groceries and a toner cartridge for our printer and immediately gives shit about not helping her and that her arms are full. I said, well how would I know that you needed help? You didn't ask for help, I'm not a mind reader...hell, I didn't even know you were home until I heard the door to the garage shut. :roll:

Then you power-bombed her into a cactus....right?

:laugh: Now how would that look in front of our son?

like you are practicing your wrestling moves? just tell him that you want to be a wwe super star someday

 

[jbkane26]

Originally posted by: chusteczka
She wants your time and attention. It seems that she feels she is not getting enough of your attention.

I agree... thats one reason why we ask for help to begin w/... but when we ask it we want you to get to it right away... none of this 5 minutes stuff... NOW!

 

[Chunkee]

it is very simple really/ YOU HAVE NO MAN CARD..... dont be pussy whipped..whip that pussy...LOL... I'll trade you for week that way you can see how well you got it...however, i handle mine differently...just tell her she is acting like a childish bitch and ignore her...the more you play into the bullshit...the more your gonna get...

 

[secretanchitman]

Originally posted by: ConstipatedVigilante
My mom will actually refuse help when you ask for it and then get pissed off when you don't do anything. Girls don't make sense.

my mom does the exact same thing. that fucking pisses me off. i REALLY hate when she does that.

 

[mundane]

Originally posted by: secretanchitman

Originally posted by: ConstipatedVigilante
My mom will actually refuse help when you ask for it and then get pissed off when you don't do anything. Girls don't make sense.

my mom does the exact same thing. that fucking pisses me off. i REALLY hate when she does that.

Yeah and then they make you drive them to church the next morning, like gas ain?t free.

 

[TallBill]

All women are insane. I tell every woman that I know, including my wife, and eventually they just accept it as fact as well. Whenever a woman does something insane I point it out and build my case.

Works better then bitching about my wife online

 

[Dulanic]

All the freaking time! Can you help me unload the dishwasher? Sure Ill be right there give me 3 minutes to finish what I'm doing..... Fast foward 3 minutes here I come to empty the dishwahser...it's now mostly done and she pissed giving me shit about not helping her.

 

[MisterJackson]

Originally posted by: HaiBiss

Originally posted by: Captante

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Dude, reading your post the answer's pretty obvious.....I kinda sorta can't believe you don't get it......

Man, was I this thick with all of my ex's??

Anyway, she just wanted you to take care of her, pamper her, make her feel better, or feel like you'd do whatever to get her through it.

She wasn't mad per se that she had to do these things herself, just that you didn't get the subtle hint that she'd love it if you did it for her. Women aren't direct creatures like us men.

Now, a cold is no big deal to you or I, but to most (most, not all) women it's an excuse to age back a notch or two emotionally and have someone tend to them like their mommy or daddy did. Do I think it's a good idea, no. But if it makes her happy, which in turn keeps life kosher for you, then is moving sprinklers and filling humidifiers such a big thing to ask?

Ask her if I'm wrong, I'll bet I'm not.

And we have a winner!

um no we have a beat down man that keeps his in a jar above the fridge

lol...okay son...you keep telling yourself that while you rub one out to the 30 second porn clips on the internet, because you surely aren't getting any....from women anyway.

 

[geno]

Originally posted by: nick1985

Then you power-bombed her into a cactus....right?

LOL

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
She wasn't mad per se that she had to do these things herself, just that you didn't get the subtle hint that she'd love it if you did it for her. Women aren't direct creatures like us men.

Well she should get the subtle hint to do it her freakin self. Just get the damn job done, stop wasting time, stop whining and crying like a bitch and do it. That's what I do when I have something to do, I just DO IT. I don't whiiiiiiiiine and beeeeeeeeg her to do it for me or do it with me.

I'd rather just get the goddamn job done and out of the way without creating a potential point of contention by even talking about it.

If she wants to help, she will. If I want to help, I will.

I'm not talking about those "lets do something together" kind of bonding things.

You want a lightbulb changed? Well get up off your fat lazy ass and do it. You want the trash taken out? STFU and take it out. I don't ask you to change the oil on my car (or your car), I don't ask you to do laundry or take out the trash, I don't ask for anything to be done, I just do it.

I expect the same

</rant>

 

[fallenangel99]

makes me not want to get married...

 

[SagaLore]

She doesn't want help, she wants unconditional attention. Its their way of feeling like you still care for them. Remember, its the little things that matter, not the big things.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: SagaLore
She doesn't want help, she wants unconditional attention. Its their way of feeling like you still care for them. Remember, its the little things that matter, not the big things.

As someone stated earlier in this thread, try believing that when you've lost your job and losing your house, etc. Women will drop you like a hot coal and go looking for the next pathetic sap to manipulate and control.

 

[antyler]

I think she just wants your attention. Even tho she can do it herself. Or, she knows you wont help right away and she is setting you up, looking for reasons to get peeved at you.

 

[kypron7]

Since no one's suggested this:
Women know that men need to feel useful, so we ask them to do things. If we just do everything ourselves then they feel unneeded.
(I'm female-Kypron's fiancee)

 

[Turkish]

Even though I am not married, a few of my friends are and no, your wife is not the only one. And this is not just wifes, once you get in a serious relationship, g/fs also do this.

When I shared an apartment with an ex, I got home from work at least 2 hours after her and she would ask me to pamper her like she is the only one who is tired: "Can you please massage my feet? I am so tireeedddddd." :roll:

 

[TecHNooB]

Originally posted by: kypron7
Since no one's suggested this:
Women know that men need to feel useful, so we ask them to do things. If we just do everything ourselves then they feel unneeded.
(I'm female-Kypron's fiancee)

This is where your logic is flawed

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: kypron7
Since no one's suggested this:
Women know that men need to feel useful, so we ask them to do things. If we just do everything ourselves then they feel unneeded.
(I'm female-Kypron's fiancee)

Haha... :laugh:

 

[silverpig]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: kypron7
Since no one's suggested this:
Women know that men need to feel useful, so we ask them to do things. If we just do everything ourselves then they feel unneeded.
(I'm female-Kypron's fiancee)

Haha... :laugh:

2700 posts? WTF?

 

[paulxcook]

This kind of issue, indicative of the larger issue of her "talking like a woman" and you "listening like a man" (as someone already said) is something my wife and I struggled with early in our marriage. We actually made progress in it though, which has been great. Now when she says things she tries hard to be clear and straightforward and cuts down on the stupid female BS (which she admits is stupid female BS). This makes it easier for me to be more attentive rather than just ignoring her because she's complaining about something yet again when I'm busy. It was a compromise for both of us, but we're both happier this way.

OP maybe you could try talking to her about this. My wife and I both really did have a eureka moment when we realized how men and women communicate differently. If you can realize it and BOTH compromise (rather than one trying to accommodate the other, which is not progress) on it, you'll probably both be happier.

 

[Fritzo]

That is my wife to a "T". She can't seem to do anything on her own. I bet my name is called 10 times a night.

Gets annoying as hell. I developed a "nag" filter though- if when calling my name it's descending in tone, it's non critical. If it is under three calls she'll do it herself. If it's three calls or over I'll show up to reward persistence.

If the call is ASCENDING in tone, get there stat- you're in big trouble

 

[Jeff7]

Wow, I wonder who I'm going to wind up with? My sister, mom, and grandmother - all quite independent people. Offering help would even sometimes garner a response hinting that you thought they were incapable of doing a simple task. My sister often commented that my dad always went to me for help with anything remotely involving physical labor, though for the most part, she was in better shape than me. I think she was in Track during high school, and now has some decent ranking in Tae Kwon Do.
But all of them were always big on the do-it-yourself thing, whenever they could. My grandmother travels, she goes on long bike trips (trips that go on for several days, and cover hundreds of miles), and still jogs every morning. I think she's going to be 80 next year.

I figure that's the sort of personality I'm going to be looking for - someone who knows how to take care of herself. If I want to coddle something, and tend to its every need constantly, every day, I'll get a dog with a severe learning disability.