Me and my girlfriend are going to college next year..

[Dumac]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 4 years, and we plan on attending the same college. However, while researching housing at potential colleges, we noticed that a lot, if not most, colleges require you to live on campus as a freshman. Also, many of the housing options, such as single rooms or apartments, seem to be not allowed for freshman.

The problem is that my girlfriend and I really wanted to live together, whether it be on or off campus. Even if we couldn't live together, we would prefer some kind of private residence as we are both very...picky i guess.. about roommates/living conditions.

Is our dream of leaving together a hopeless cause? Answers seem to be hard to find as only vague statements appear to be shown on many college websites. So I turn to you ATOT. Enlighten me!

Are there no co-ed housing utilities? I know there are co-ed halls with same sex rooming, but that doesn't qualify . Are we both doomed to room with some random person we don't know for at least the first year of college?

I know living in a dorm with strangers is supposed to be a good, eye-opening experience that grants new friendships, but screw new friends.

Any feedback for this lame rant?

 

[UpgradeFailure]

Get Married.
A lot of colleges have rooms and apartments for married couples now.

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: Dumac
Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 4 years, and we plan on attending the same college. However, while researching housing at potential colleges, we noticed that a lot, if not most, colleges require you to live on campus as a freshman. Also, many of the housing options, such as single rooms or apartments, seem to be not allowed for freshman.

The problem is that my girlfriend and I really wanted to live together, whether it be on or off campus. Even if we couldn't live together, we would prefer some kind of private residence as we are both very...picky i guess.. about roommates/living conditions.

Is our dream of leaving together a hopeless cause? Answers seem to be hard to find as only vague statements appear to be shown on many college websites. So I turn to you ATOT. Enlighten me!

Are there no co-ed housing utilities? I know there are co-ed halls with same sex rooming, but that doesn't qualify . Are we both doomed to room with some random person we don't know for at least the first year of college?

I know living in a dorm with strangers is supposed to be a good, eye-opening experience that grants new friendships, but screw new friends.

Any feedback for this lame rant?

:laugh: You're going to be so fucked when she gets to her "I need to be free!" phase. Mark my words, people change more than you could possibly imagine when they get to college, and she will too. Eggs....one basket...you get the idea.

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Originally posted by: UpgradeFailure
Get Married.
A lot of colleges have rooms and apartments for married couples now.

My first thought.

Getting married is probably the best way to get to live together on campus... but at your age... Uggh. Going throuh a divorce while you cram for finals doesnt sound like much fun to me.

 

[Dumac]

Originally posted by: apac
:laugh: You're going to be so fucked when she gets to her "I need to be free!" phase. Mark my words, people change more than you could possibly imagine when they get to college, and she will too. Eggs....one basket...you get the idea.

We changed enough over the past four years. I'm willing to bet we'll survive over the beginning of college.

We're not you're average couple

If we do break up, however, I'll mail you a cookie.

 

[arrfep]

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: Dumac
I know living in a dorm with strangers is supposed to be a good, eye-opening experience that grants new friendships, but screw new friends.

Any feedback for this lame rant?

:laugh: You're going to be so fucked when she gets to her "I need to be free!" phase. Mark my words, people change more than you could possibly imagine when they get to college, and she will too. Eggs....one basket...you get the idea.

I agree. And even if you do stay blissfully happy together, that's still not the attitude you want to have going into college. Making friends is one of the cornerstones of the college experience. In some ways I might say it's paramount. Five years after college you might not be doing anything related to your education, but the friends you make in college are likely to be the ones you have for life...it gets hard to do that when you enter the real world.

Don't go into college with such a closed mind...I guarantee you will regret it.

 

[Dumac]

Eh, I was afraid marriage would be the most fitting option.

I don't know if marriage would be a great choice at that age, and I'm sure she would agree.

 

[Suspicious-Teach8788]

Originally posted by: Dumac

Originally posted by: apac
:laugh: You're going to be so fucked when she gets to her "I need to be free!" phase. Mark my words, people change more than you could possibly imagine when they get to college, and she will too. Eggs....one basket...you get the idea.

We changed enough over the past four years. I'm willing to bet we'll survive over the beginning of college.

We're not you're average couple

If we do break up, however, I'll mail you a cookie.

At 18 you have a long way to go.

I always think it's funny when HS students speak this way about their relationships. That's when I feel like people my age should be speaking that way. Wait, I'm not even that old. Give me 5 more years and I'll look back at all the things I said about relationships and laugh it all up.

HS changes you a great deal, but college changes you even more.

 

[ObscureCaucasian]

It's really impossible to say what the best option is, because that depends on which school you're going to.

 

[Dumac]

Originally posted by: arrfep

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: Dumac
I know living in a dorm with strangers is supposed to be a good, eye-opening experience that grants new friendships, but screw new friends.

Any feedback for this lame rant?

:laugh: You're going to be so fucked when she gets to her "I need to be free!" phase. Mark my words, people change more than you could possibly imagine when they get to college, and she will too. Eggs....one basket...you get the idea.

I agree. And even if you do stay blissfully happy together, that's still not the attitude you want to have going into college. Making friends is one of the cornerstones of the college experience. In some ways I might say it's paramount. Five years after college you might not be doing anything related to your education, but the friends you make in college are likely to be the ones you have for life...it gets hard to do that when you enter the real world.

Don't go into college with such a closed mind...I guarantee you will regret it.

Sorry if it seemed like I was going to completely close myself to new friendships; that's not the case at all. However, I figure I could still make friends without living with them. In no way am I closing myself off to new friendship. Sorry for the confusion ><;;

Also, I know this sounds geeky, but I would say about half of my communication or interaction with my current friends is through the internet. Hopefully I could still keep my friends from now as well.

 

[Dumac]

Originally posted by: DLeRium
At 18 you have a long way to go.

I always think it's funny when HS students speak this way about their relationships. That's when I feel like people my age should be speaking that way. Wait, I'm not even that old. Give me 5 more years and I'll look back at all the things I said about relationships and laugh it all up.

HS changes you a great deal, but college changes you even more.

What you say is completely true, however I know a good bit of highschool sweethearts, so the option isn't impossible. Who knows if we'll make it; only time will tell. If not, you learn and live on.

 

[mugs]

It's bad enough that you and your girlfriend are choosing a college together - are you seriously going to make this a factor in the decision?

Pick a college first. Then look into their housing options for freshmen. If you can't live with your girlfriend freshman year, get over it.

There's a high probability that you're going to break up before you graduate anyway.

 

[2Xtreme21]

Did you decide to go where you're going just because your girlfriend is going there or vice versa?

 

[Dumac]

Originally posted by: mugs
It's bad enough that you and your girlfriend are choosing a college together - are you seriously going to make this a factor in the decision?

Pick a college first. Then look into their housing options for freshmen. If you can't live with your girlfriend freshman year, get over it.

There's a high probability that you're going to break up before you graduate anyway.

I knew there were going to be dissident replies, and that's fine.

Living together freshman year isn't necessary, and we probably will just "get over it", as I doubt either of us would want to get married so early.

Yes, choosing a college we can both go to is an important factor. Going to different colleges is almost a definite death wish on any relationship. Our college resumes are similar, so hopefully we can both get into the same one.

Rooming isn't that great of a factor, as it will only be a small portion of our life. However, I still take it into consideration, even if the consideration is minor.

Also I agree that the probability of high school couples staying together through college is low, but I'm willing to bet on it. The stakes, as I said earlier, are a cookie, but I get to choose the type if I lose.

 

[Dumac]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
Did you decide to go where you're going just because your girlfriend is going there or vice versa?

We haven't decided yet; we are still searching. Housing, of course, is much further along the line of considerations compared to more important factors.

EDIT: When we come to a conclusion, it will most likely be agreeable on both sides of the relationship.

 

[isekii]

Just go in the dorms. It'll be a lot more fun.
Meet new people, have a blast.

 

[arrfep]

Originally posted by: Dumac

Originally posted by: arrfep

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: Dumac
I know living in a dorm with strangers is supposed to be a good, eye-opening experience that grants new friendships, but screw new friends.

Any feedback for this lame rant?

:laugh: You're going to be so fucked when she gets to her "I need to be free!" phase. Mark my words, people change more than you could possibly imagine when they get to college, and she will too. Eggs....one basket...you get the idea.

I agree. And even if you do stay blissfully happy together, that's still not the attitude you want to have going into college. Making friends is one of the cornerstones of the college experience. In some ways I might say it's paramount. Five years after college you might not be doing anything related to your education, but the friends you make in college are likely to be the ones you have for life...it gets hard to do that when you enter the real world.

Don't go into college with such a closed mind...I guarantee you will regret it.

Sorry if it seemed like I was going to completely close myself to new friendships; that's not the case at all. However, I figure I could still make friends without living with them. In no way am I closing myself off to new friendship. Sorry for the confusion ><;;

Also, I know this sounds geeky, but I would say about half of my communication or interaction with my current friends is through the internet. Hopefully I could still keep my friends from now as well.

Okay, that's good. I made all the wrong mistakes in college because I went in thinking I had it all figured out. The people, the classes, the culture. I never let anyone get the chance to prove me wrong, and my assumptions were all way off. It ruined college for me, more or less.

Those 4 or 5 or 7 years are like an infinite well of experience and possibility. You have to try not to short yourself though.

 

[2Xtreme21]

People grow a lot more when they get to college and (un)fortunately it actually takes being in college to realize this. That's why most high school couples going in end up disappointed because they thought they were in love or didn't actually want to go to the school that the SO wanted to go to but just chose it because they were "willing to bet on it."

 

[crumpet19]

Originally posted by: Dumac

Originally posted by: apac
:laugh: You're going to be so fucked when she gets to her "I need to be free!" phase. Mark my words, people change more than you could possibly imagine when they get to college, and she will too. Eggs....one basket...you get the idea.

We changed enough over the past four years. I'm willing to bet we'll survive over the beginning of college.

We're not you're average couple

If we do break up, however, I'll mail you a cookie.

B.S. Every couple is the average couple.

As far as living on or off campus... I know that at most of the universities in Oklahoma, if you just approach the housing department and inform them that you've already made living arrangements for off campus (and then politely tell them to shove it), there isn't anything that they're going to do about it.

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: Dumac

Originally posted by: mugs
It's bad enough that you and your girlfriend are choosing a college together - are you seriously going to make this a factor in the decision?

Pick a college first. Then look into their housing options for freshmen. If you can't live with your girlfriend freshman year, get over it.

There's a high probability that you're going to break up before you graduate anyway.

I knew there were going to be dissident replies, and that's fine.

Living together freshman year isn't necessary, and we probably will just "get over it", as I doubt either of us would want to get married so early.

Yes, choosing a college we can both go to is an important factor. Going to different colleges is almost a definite death wish on any relationship. Our college resumes are similar, so hopefully we can both get into the same one.

Rooming isn't that great of a factor, as it will only be a small portion of our life. However, I still take it into consideration, even if the consideration is minor.

Also I agree that the probability of high school couples staying together through college is low, but I'm willing to bet on it. The stakes, as I said earlier, are a cookie, but I get to choose the type if I lose.

Good lord for your sake I hope you've played your cards right. If you didn't, and those odds sure are stacked against you, you're going to be in for a whole world of hurt, followed by a surprisingly eye opening reality.

 

[Dumac]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
People grow a lot more when they get to college and (un)fortunately it actually takes being in college to realize this. That's why most high school couples going in end up disappointed because they thought they were in love or didn't actually want to go to the school that the SO wanted to go to but just chose it because they were "willing to bet on it."

Haha, good point, but there is no way I'm putting money into a school that I didn't really want to go to. I'll absolutely choose a college that I believe I'll be happy attending.

 

[Dumac]

Originally posted by: apac

Good lord for your sake I hope you've played your cards right. If you didn't, and those odds sure are stacked against you, you're going to be in for a whole world of hurt, followed by a surprisingly eye opening reality.

True.

 

[George P Burdell]

Reading this thread is like watching a train wreck about to happen.

Get a fake ID. At the very least, you won't have trouble buying all the alcohol you'll be needing.

 

[2Xtreme21]

Originally posted by: Dumac

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
People grow a lot more when they get to college and (un)fortunately it actually takes being in college to realize this. That's why most high school couples going in end up disappointed because they thought they were in love or didn't actually want to go to the school that the SO wanted to go to but just chose it because they were "willing to bet on it."

Haha, good point, but there is no way I'm putting money into a school that I didn't really want to go to. I'll absolutely choose a college that I believe I'll be happy attending.

That only tells me that now your girlfriend is going to be the one "forced" to go to your favorite pick, even if it's not what she really wants.

 

[Dumac]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21

Originally posted by: Dumac

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
People grow a lot more when they get to college and (un)fortunately it actually takes being in college to realize this. That's why most high school couples going in end up disappointed because they thought they were in love or didn't actually want to go to the school that the SO wanted to go to but just chose it because they were "willing to bet on it."

Haha, good point, but there is no way I'm putting money into a school that I didn't really want to go to. I'll absolutely choose a college that I believe I'll be happy attending.

That only tells me that now your girlfriend is going to be the one "forced" to go to your favorite pick, even if it's not what she really wants.

OR we'll find a college that we both like. It's not impossible or unlikely.