I don't think this is about the food or the anything else as much as it is about respect. If you live together, some roommates have no problem with any stuff being messed with, others want "what's mine is mine and what's yours is yours", and a lot are anywhere in between. If one roommate is really bothered by stuff, he needs to talk to the other and let him know. The second roommate should realize that it's bother his roommate and make an effort to stop doing whatever was annoying. He should respect his roommate enough to say "it's bothering you, and even though i don't think it's a big deal, I'll try to not to do it to be a friend and roommate.
As far as people being selffish, mean, possessive, obessive compulsive...who doesn't have weird hang ups. If your friend is possessive about his stuff, then you respect that and make sure you get permission before touching it. Unless there was some deal (I will buy the food and you buy drinks), you have no right to his stuff.
And as far as food not being a big thing, equate it to money: $50 a week on groceries. Now if your roommate eats $10 of it, you have to buy $20 of fast food to replace it
If you get fast food, you're losing $30 a week b/c of your roommate.
($10 of groceries) + ($20 on fast food that you wouldn't have bought otherwise)
What if you just make the second trip? Well i'm sure everyone would rather be at the grocery store intead of spending quality time doing homework, neffing, spending time with their girlfriend, spending time with Mr. Hand, or all of the above at once.
If your roomie is doing something you don't like, first thing you should do is talk to him about it, and be direct: "Hey man, you use my silverware and lose it. It's really bugging me, so would you try to return it to the kitchen after you use it." The roommate should then make a REAL effort to be considerate and return the silverware after he's done with it.
It seems to me that the friendly talking part has already been attempted to no avail. I would suggest one last ultimatum talk with your roommate and lay it all out, and be very clear about everything that's bothering you: "Dude, you're still using my stuff and losing it, and in addition, you're letting random people into my room and i'm find my stuff mysteriously dissappearing and.... This crap is bugging me enough that if it keeps on happening, i'm going to have to ask you not to touch any of my stuff again, so you better stop taking/losing my stuff right now..."
If he's a real friend he will get the idea that what he is doing is serously bothering you.
If he screws up againput a lock on the door and move all your stuff into your room. This way your roommate will know exactly why you banned him from your stuff and you can say that you let him know that it was bugging you that much and he was still inconsiderate and deserved what he got.
As far as people being selffish, mean, possessive, obessive compulsive...who doesn't have weird hang ups. If your friend is possessive about his stuff, then you respect that and make sure you get permission before touching it. Unless there was some deal (I will buy the food and you buy drinks), you have no right to his stuff.
And as far as food not being a big thing, equate it to money: $50 a week on groceries. Now if your roommate eats $10 of it, you have to buy $20 of fast food to replace it
If you get fast food, you're losing $30 a week b/c of your roommate.
($10 of groceries) + ($20 on fast food that you wouldn't have bought otherwise)
What if you just make the second trip? Well i'm sure everyone would rather be at the grocery store intead of spending quality time doing homework, neffing, spending time with their girlfriend, spending time with Mr. Hand, or all of the above at once.
If your roomie is doing something you don't like, first thing you should do is talk to him about it, and be direct: "Hey man, you use my silverware and lose it. It's really bugging me, so would you try to return it to the kitchen after you use it." The roommate should then make a REAL effort to be considerate and return the silverware after he's done with it.
It seems to me that the friendly talking part has already been attempted to no avail. I would suggest one last ultimatum talk with your roommate and lay it all out, and be very clear about everything that's bothering you: "Dude, you're still using my stuff and losing it, and in addition, you're letting random people into my room and i'm find my stuff mysteriously dissappearing and.... This crap is bugging me enough that if it keeps on happening, i'm going to have to ask you not to touch any of my stuff again, so you better stop taking/losing my stuff right now..."
If he's a real friend he will get the idea that what he is doing is serously bothering you.
If he screws up againput a lock on the door and move all your stuff into your room. This way your roommate will know exactly why you banned him from your stuff and you can say that you let him know that it was bugging you that much and he was still inconsiderate and deserved what he got.