Originally posted by: Skoorb
If it went down as you say you were wronged, and that's all there is too it.Originally posted by: BlamoHammer
I can speak from personal experience about this issue. When I was 18 I went to a party and met a girl. We got to talking and she had told me she was celebrating her 18th birthday that was last week and blah blah blah. She looked more than old enough and was obviously interested. Now everyone always says check ID, check ID!! Trust me, that was one of the last thigns I was thinking about at the time. I'm not saying that I made a correct decision, but it's very easy to look at the situation from the outside in and tell someone what they should have done.
Well things took a natural progression and by the end of the night, she and I found ourselves in an upstairs room fooling around. We didnt have actual sexual intercourse, but everything else up until that point was put in play. We exchanged numbers and proceeded to chat it up on the phone for the new few days off and on.
Two weeks later a detective shows up on my doorstep and starts questioning me about this girl. It turns out that she was in fact 7 days shy of her 16th birthday. In a note she wrote to one of her friends, she described what had happened at the party and that note was intercepted by her parents. Parents called the cops and here I am being questioned at 7am on a Saturday morning by a police detective on my doorstep.
After going through all the legal motions it's decided that I will plead no contest to the charges and accept a 150 day jail sentence. At first the prosecution wanted a 90 day sentence and for me to register as an offender. We told them no dice and they came back with the longer jail sentence in lieu of registration.
While I take full responsibility for my actions, and will never try to say that I didn't have some fault in the entire ordeal...I still feel that the only reason any of it happened was because her parents targeted me as a scapegoat. Regardless of what happened to me, I still think that if I were in the parents role, I would handle it differently.
Cases like mine and the ones mentioned in the article are not what the sexual registration laws were created for. Exercising poor judgment once in your life with a girl who is 2-3 years younger than you does not make one a predator. If she had been another year older, I dont think such a fuss would have been raised. Its a stupid law and if there is any common sense in the great state of Michigan, this bill will pass.
Originally posted by: BlamoHammer
I can speak from personal experience about this issue. When I was 18 I went to a party and met a girl. We got to talking and she had told me she was celebrating her 18th birthday that was last week and blah blah blah. She looked more than old enough and was obviously interested. Now everyone always says check ID, check ID!! Trust me, that was one of the last thigns I was thinking about at the time. I'm not saying that I made a correct decision, but it's very easy to look at the situation from the outside in and tell someone what they should have done.
Well things took a natural progression and by the end of the night, she and I found ourselves in an upstairs room fooling around. We didnt have actual sexual intercourse, but everything else up until that point was put in play. We exchanged numbers and proceeded to chat it up on the phone for the new few days off and on.
Two weeks later a detective shows up on my doorstep and starts questioning me about this girl. It turns out that she was in fact 7 days shy of her 16th birthday. In a note she wrote to one of her friends, she described what had happened at the party and that note was intercepted by her parents. Parents called the cops and here I am being questioned at 7am on a Saturday morning by a police detective on my doorstep.
After going through all the legal motions it's decided that I will plead no contest to the charges and accept a 150 day jail sentence. At first the prosecution wanted a 90 day sentence and for me to register as an offender. We told them no dice and they came back with the longer jail sentence in lieu of registration.
While I take full responsibility for my actions, and will never try to say that I didn't have some fault in the entire ordeal...I still feel that the only reason any of it happened was because her parents targeted me as a scapegoat. Regardless of what happened to me, I still think that if I were in the parents role, I would handle it differently.
Cases like mine and the ones mentioned in the article are not what the sexual registration laws were created for. Exercising poor judgment once in your life with a girl who is 2-3 years younger than you does not make one a predator. If she had been another year older, I dont think such a fuss would have been raised. Its a stupid law and if there is any common sense in the great state of Michigan, this bill will pass.
Originally posted by: NFS4
Originally posted by: BlamoHammer
I can speak from personal experience about this issue. When I was 18 I went to a party and met a girl. We got to talking and she had told me she was celebrating her 18th birthday that was last week and blah blah blah. She looked more than old enough and was obviously interested. Now everyone always says check ID, check ID!! Trust me, that was one of the last thigns I was thinking about at the time. I'm not saying that I made a correct decision, but it's very easy to look at the situation from the outside in and tell someone what they should have done.
Well things took a natural progression and by the end of the night, she and I found ourselves in an upstairs room fooling around. We didnt have actual sexual intercourse, but everything else up until that point was put in play. We exchanged numbers and proceeded to chat it up on the phone for the new few days off and on.
Two weeks later a detective shows up on my doorstep and starts questioning me about this girl. It turns out that she was in fact 7 days shy of her 16th birthday. In a note she wrote to one of her friends, she described what had happened at the party and that note was intercepted by her parents. Parents called the cops and here I am being questioned at 7am on a Saturday morning by a police detective on my doorstep.
After going through all the legal motions it's decided that I will plead no contest to the charges and accept a 150 day jail sentence. At first the prosecution wanted a 90 day sentence and for me to register as an offender. We told them no dice and they came back with the longer jail sentence in lieu of registration.
While I take full responsibility for my actions, and will never try to say that I didn't have some fault in the entire ordeal...I still feel that the only reason any of it happened was because her parents targeted me as a scapegoat. Regardless of what happened to me, I still think that if I were in the parents role, I would handle it differently.
Cases like mine and the ones mentioned in the article are not what the sexual registration laws were created for. Exercising poor judgment once in your life with a girl who is 2-3 years younger than you does not make one a predator. If she had been another year older, I dont think such a fuss would have been raised. Its a stupid law and if there is any common sense in the great state of Michigan, this bill will pass.
How long ago was this, and has the jail sentence affected you negatively in any way (in regards to getting jobs, etc.)
Originally posted by: guapo337
If both consenting partners are under 18, is there a problem?