More men taking wives' last names

[seemingly random]

Originally posted by: ironwing
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Upon marriage, children of same sex couples can all take the last name Ironwing so they don't have to choose ...

inconceivable

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: WildHorse

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

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No, its tradition. Its not two faced or "caveman".

I'm sure the average woman would be a-ok if we broke other marriage traditions too, like the man wasting a small fortune on an engagement ring, right?

I'm wearing a $100 gold band so I'm the wrong girl to ask. However, there's a pretty big difference between a tradition involving a gift and a tradition involving identity. Also, the guys complaining loudest here seem to be doing it from a fear of "pussification", not a deep-rooted love for tradition. If it were tradition, I'd get it. It's the master-of-the-house thing that surprises me.

Softened reply for a bit of p-correctness: follow your husband's lead, even when a super-smartie, like you obviously are (I'm a fan), really truly believes you know better. I hope your husband treasures your advice, which, whenever your advice involves ANALYSIS, is almost certainly superior to maybe just about everybody's, me included. I sincerely wish I had daily advice like yours in my ear (alas I don't), from some similar analytic genius like you, as I agonize daily over decisions that affect well-being of many families. Honestly! I truly mean that.

Or, frank straightforward version for reals: Obey your husband!!

edited to fix whatever went wrong with attempt at quoting.

Wow, I think I'm flattered. I think...

Again, I did take my husband's (modified) last name, but more because I felt like it than because he felt like it.

 

[WildHorse]

mm

 

[zerocool84]

Originally posted by: KeithTalent

Originally posted by: surfsatwerk

Because when you get married you stop being two separate individuals and you become one "family". Or at least that's what the pastor said before he married me to the devil whore ex-wife of mine.

Yeah, when I got married I was all about having my wife change her name, which she did, but now that I am older and wiser, I think it's just a stupid, outdated custom.

KT

Exactly what marriage is, a stupid outdated custom.

 

[Acanthus]

Eh, if he was averse to his last name for some reason I can see why one would do that.

I have no connection to my family on my fathers side at all. I would probably consider this.

 

[WildHorse]

nm

 

[Jeff7]

Originally posted by: WildHorse

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

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Wow, I think I'm flattered. I think...

Again, I did take my husband's (modified) last name, but more because I felt like it than because he felt like it.

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It must be a good man who you married, since you chose him, so probably a happier life for both will result from you collaborating with him and following his lead (which probably you, obviously, will pretty much steer from the back).

So now you owe me $0.02

Yeah woman, get back in your place!...which evidently is sometime in the early 1300's.
:roll:

 

[TruePaige]

Originally posted by: WildHorse

Sounds like the question of whether or not you would take your husband's name hinged on your whim.

You probably didn't mean it that way, but in this isolated instance, your post sounds, unfortunately, like that; i;e;, disdainful, haughty against your husband.

You make it sound like a bad thing that a woman thinks for herself when making decisions.

 

[SunSamurai]

What a pussy.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: Jeff7

Originally posted by: WildHorse

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

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Wow, I think I'm flattered. I think...

Again, I did take my husband's (modified) last name, but more because I felt like it than because he felt like it.

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It must be a good man who you married, since you chose him, so probably a happier life for both will result from you collaborating with him and following his lead (which probably you, obviously, will pretty much steer from the back).

So now you owe me $0.02

Yeah woman, get back in your place!...which evidently is sometime in the early 1300's.
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LOL, I can boss my meek little husband around? That'll be the day!!! And I'll rue it if it ever happens. I'm outspoken and forceful, admittedly, but I married up - smarter, sweeter and absolute steel in a velvet glove (of Cheers ! ). Go look up linuxboy's posts if you think I'm exaggerating.

 

[Bu B3ar]

Originally posted by: TruePaige
Why should anyone have to change their names?

Agreed. Neither side should change name, cuz neither side owns the other...supposedly.

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: wiredspider
I could see this happening if the guy had a bad last name to begin with or if the wife's last name gave him an awesome new name.

i think that is why they did it, Donna Davis, I bet she didn't like the sound of it and he was all like, "hey baby, that is ok, i'll take your last name, no worries"

 

[hanoverphist]

my daughters both told me (at different times) they werent going to marry unless their husbands took our family name. we shall see in a decade or so what actually happens.

i also have a friend from HS that got remarried recently, both of them decided the whole "wife changing names" thing was bull and decided to make up a new name. they changed it to a name they came up with, nothing related to either of their names. not a bad solution for the whole deal IMO.

 

[nerp]

Originally posted by: Bu B3ar

Originally posted by: TruePaige
Why should anyone have to change their names?

Agreed. Neither side should change name, cuz neither side owns the other...supposedly.

My fiancee is taking my name because we've agreed to start a family. It's not about us as individuals anymore. It's about the family unit with shared purpose. She chose to take my name as a symbolic gesture to express her committment.

 

[Miramonti]

Originally posted by: nerp

Originally posted by: Bu B3ar

Originally posted by: TruePaige
Why should anyone have to change their names?

Agreed. Neither side should change name, cuz neither side owns the other...supposedly.

My fiancee is taking my name because we've agreed to start a family. It's not about us as individuals anymore. It's about the family unit with shared purpose. She chose to take my name as a symbolic gesture to express her committment.

That's what the bling is for. (not to mention the actual decision to marry.)

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: Quasmo

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: Quasmo
The sad thing is, this really isn't a joke.

The sad thing is, some of you actually care about this...as if it affects anyone other than the man and the woman who exchanged vows with each other.

Changing my last name killed my father.

Really? Do tell.

 

[SphinxnihpS]

Originally posted by: mugs
As much as I like my last name, it has always been frustrating because no one ever spells it or pronounces it correctly. It's also a Spanish name, which is not an asset in this country. It'd probably be easier for me if I took my wife's name... but I don't want to.

I could never understand how people so often mis-pronounce Spanish names, or any Spanish words for that matter. With very little exception, every letter has one way and one way only of being pronounced.

 

[Saint Nick]

If I ever get married, I would prefer we keep our own names. I'm not sure if I feel comfortable with marriage.

It is a lot different times we live in compared to even 10 years ago. Especially considering our political and social ideals and values.

 

[0roo0roo]

Originally posted by: Bu B3ar

Originally posted by: TruePaige
Why should anyone have to change their names?

Agreed. Neither side should change name, cuz neither side owns the other...supposedly.

which is fine as long as she no longer expects an engagement ring. and agrees to a prenup. only then is then fair is fair.

 

[PingSpike]

My wife took my last name, but I brought this thread up to her last week. I, of course stated that I wouldn't have had a problem with her keeping her last name I sure as fuck would never have changed mine to hers.

She then said that if she didn't have brothers she would have kept the family name and our kids would have it. I said its a good thing you have brothers because like hell you would! Then she got mad at me but its a hypothetical situation so I think everyone sort of forgot about it. I may have been drinking a little that night. I can't remember now.

I don't have a problem with her keeping her name as said, changing your name is a PITA and it doesn't serve to huge a purpose really. Which is the same reason I'm not changing mine really. But kids? Sorry, no. Call it tradition or whatever but lets face it, kids with their mothers last name are born out of wedlock. I don't want to deal with everyone asking if they're actually my kids. When they're branded, there's no question!

And that hypenating bullshit is just crazy. What happens when they get married? Do the kids hypenate it and have 4 names? Which name comes first? Oh why does that family's name come first? Do you like them better? What do you mean you dropped your mother's maiden name because there aren't enough spots on your SAT form? Are you ashamed of your mother's family?