When I first built my i7 860 system on Win 7 in Dec 2009, I bought 4 x 2GB of ram and tried running it with both 4GB & 8GB.
As a new fresh build, I was surprised and somewhat disappointed that there appeared to be literally no difference in performance at the time.
However after about a years worth of usage and filling up my two hard disks a reasonable amount, I sort of got the impression my system had slowed down a bit and when I ran benchmarks, that confirmed that it had.
When I then popped the other 4GB in(yes, I had 4GB just sitting out of my system for close to a year), I was pleasantly surprised by how much faster my system seemed and this was indeed reflected in the benchmarks.
So now that we are in 2013, I would be amazed if there wasn't good gains to be had by having 16GB of ram, instead of 8GB, especially after your system has had heaps of games and applications installed on it.