So grandma just kicked off this mortal coil. Don't worry she was old as hell and had dementia/lots of stuff wrong so her dying is fine.
Back to the bitch of an aunt. Grandma was living in one place and it was OK not great but OK. She fell and my aunt decided she "dying" and moved her to an assisted living facility and convinced a doctor she needed to be on hospice mainly to get medicaid to pay. So they put her on bed rest and pumped her full of liquid morphine.
Once again I'm not sad she died it would have been cruel to force her to stay alive but moving her sure did speed things along and there wasn't any need for it.
I feel like more back story is needed so this is clear.
My grandmother entrusted power of attorney and her medical directives to her eldest son who she trusted. She did not ever like or trust my aunt. Especially after the whole forcing my grandfather out of the closet (that's a whole or mess of shit). My aunt being married to the eldest son and a nurse takes it upon her self to micro manage the situation from a far and let others do the grunt work.
So grandma is fine she has dementia but she's not ill she can feed and clean herself she'll just ask you every ten minutes if you've eaten. She's in an assisted living facility close to my parents and they check on her 3 or 4 times a week all is good. She's in a place she knows and is familiar with.
Rewind to a few months ago and there's a minor fall and grandma hurts her leg not serious but it needs monitoring because she's old (96) and she doesn't heal as fast. The aunt decides that a leg injury means she's dying and petitions her primary care for hospice. It gets denied. We watch the wound on her leg it heals all good.
forward to about 3 weeks ago. With no discussion with the rest of the family my aunt decides to move grandma out of the place she had been in for the last ten years mainly because it was inconvenient to drive an hour to look in on her even though people had that covered. She gets moved to a different assisted care center. This one doesn't provide any better care than the place she was at. Grandma is visibly distraught and confused and people have to spend a lot of time reading bible verses and singing to her to get her to calm down. She's not given any anti anxiety meds because my aunt won't allow it. Grandma is withdrawn and quiet and won't eat and is soiling her self now.
Move to a week ago and my aunt gets a hospital bed in her room and gets her doctors to put her on bed rest and start giving her morphine. It doesn't take long after that for her to decline to death.
What I'm not upset with is her dying I'm upset that to make things easier on my aunt she moves her out of a place she was happy in. I can't say for sure the move sped of her death but grandma sure did decide she was done living.
Back to the bitch of an aunt. Grandma was living in one place and it was OK not great but OK. She fell and my aunt decided she "dying" and moved her to an assisted living facility and convinced a doctor she needed to be on hospice mainly to get medicaid to pay. So they put her on bed rest and pumped her full of liquid morphine.
Once again I'm not sad she died it would have been cruel to force her to stay alive but moving her sure did speed things along and there wasn't any need for it.
I feel like more back story is needed so this is clear.
My grandmother entrusted power of attorney and her medical directives to her eldest son who she trusted. She did not ever like or trust my aunt. Especially after the whole forcing my grandfather out of the closet (that's a whole or mess of shit). My aunt being married to the eldest son and a nurse takes it upon her self to micro manage the situation from a far and let others do the grunt work.
So grandma is fine she has dementia but she's not ill she can feed and clean herself she'll just ask you every ten minutes if you've eaten. She's in an assisted living facility close to my parents and they check on her 3 or 4 times a week all is good. She's in a place she knows and is familiar with.
Rewind to a few months ago and there's a minor fall and grandma hurts her leg not serious but it needs monitoring because she's old (96) and she doesn't heal as fast. The aunt decides that a leg injury means she's dying and petitions her primary care for hospice. It gets denied. We watch the wound on her leg it heals all good.
forward to about 3 weeks ago. With no discussion with the rest of the family my aunt decides to move grandma out of the place she had been in for the last ten years mainly because it was inconvenient to drive an hour to look in on her even though people had that covered. She gets moved to a different assisted care center. This one doesn't provide any better care than the place she was at. Grandma is visibly distraught and confused and people have to spend a lot of time reading bible verses and singing to her to get her to calm down. She's not given any anti anxiety meds because my aunt won't allow it. Grandma is withdrawn and quiet and won't eat and is soiling her self now.
Move to a week ago and my aunt gets a hospital bed in her room and gets her doctors to put her on bed rest and start giving her morphine. It doesn't take long after that for her to decline to death.
What I'm not upset with is her dying I'm upset that to make things easier on my aunt she moves her out of a place she was happy in. I can't say for sure the move sped of her death but grandma sure did decide she was done living.
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