MrCodeDude
Lifer
- Jun 23, 2001
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Originally posted by: hollowman
Originally posted by: Kiyup
Originally posted by: RishiS
She was camping?
WTH is camming?
Cybering with a webcam.
is that a big deal?
EDIT: well... if she was naked, then i guess it IS a big deal.
Originally posted by: luvly
Grasshopper, porn on a magazine isn't much of my issue as is strip clubbing. And I would assume that he would have no problem if I did either of these jobs; stripping especially. Intent is usually what comes to play. For instance, someone could read porn mags, watch strips and porn for informative reasons or with indifference. On the other hand, someone else could do the same thing but for his personal pleasure and excluding his significant other.
Originally posted by: Gr1mL0cK
Originally posted by: sandorski
Originally posted by: Electric Amish
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
her computer has to go ! maybe a few sessions with a counselor would be in order?
How is this any different from a man whacking it to a skin mag or a porno??
amish
Yup, pretty much the same.
Exactly how? Do you masturbate in front of people? You must be the roomate that got caught.
Originally posted by: wje
Has anyone contacted Jerry Springer? I don't mean to sound insensitive, but your brother has two choices:
1) Dump her because if his trust was broken, it will be hard to regain.
2) Accept what he witnessed. See if his wife will agree to some joint counseling. Obviously something was missing from their relationship which prompted her to hit the 'Net with the Web cam.
Originally posted by: Tripleshot
This was wrong, plain and simple. it was a morally repugnant gesture on her part and any statement like "we aren't having body contact so it's not a problem" just is so outrageously ignorant,I can't see any hope for trust in this relationship ever again. A marriage without trust is just shacking up. That act she performed in front of a webcam------do you think it would be acceptable in heaven? If it isn't, I would submit this marriage should end, because it is no longer bound by heavenly law. Does anyone ever remember "Love, Honor, and Obey--until death do you part" in their marriage vows?How could this escape this women? It doesn't matter what her motives are, what drove her to do it,or anything. It is obvious the husband is upset and this behavior was not mutually acceptable in the marriage. It was done in secret. When men and women keep secrets of this magnitude, then the marriage is in deep, deep trouble. What tells me this? I have been around a long time, and grew up in the "free love" generation. That was a freaking myth, folks. A price will always be paid for deviant behaviour in a marrage. The price for this should be D-I-V-O-R-C-E. Sad. I feel sorry for both of them, and worse for his brother and best friend. Now they are burdoned with this knowledge and must act accordingly. The rest of us here won't have to deal with it at all. It will be a post in a thread and forgoten in a few hours or days. Sure does make you re-assess your values though, huh? Unless you are satisfied with your values already. Amish is his and so is Isla. That is fine. As long as there is no mystery with the spouses and there is mutual trust and honor and love, IMHO.
Originally posted by: Tripleshot
Uh, why save it? What's to save? Is this the kind of woman you would want to be the mother of your children?
Not my rules, Gods' rules.
Originally posted by: slycat
looking at porn is one thing...camming with another dude is a WHOLE different issue
and i'm sorry but its time for some fisting...
Originally posted by: Hayabusarider
Originally posted by: Tripleshot
This was wrong, plain and simple. it was a morally repugnant gesture on her part and any statement like "we aren't having body contact so it's not a problem" just is so outrageously ignorant,I can't see any hope for trust in this relationship ever again. A marriage without trust is just shacking up. That act she performed in front of a webcam------do you think it would be acceptable in heaven? If it isn't, I would submit this marriage should end, because it is no longer bound by heavenly law. Does anyone ever remember "Love, Honor, and Obey--until death do you part" in their marriage vows?How could this escape this women? It doesn't matter what her motives are, what drove her to do it,or anything. It is obvious the husband is upset and this behavior was not mutually acceptable in the marriage. It was done in secret. When men and women keep secrets of this magnitude, then the marriage is in deep, deep trouble. What tells me this? I have been around a long time, and grew up in the "free love" generation. That was a freaking myth, folks. A price will always be paid for deviant behaviour in a marrage. The price for this should be D-I-V-O-R-C-E. Sad. I feel sorry for both of them, and worse for his brother and best friend. Now they are burdoned with this knowledge and must act accordingly. The rest of us here won't have to deal with it at all. It will be a post in a thread and forgoten in a few hours or days. Sure does make you re-assess your values though, huh? Unless you are satisfied with your values already. Amish is his and so is Isla. That is fine. As long as there is no mystery with the spouses and there is mutual trust and honor and love, IMHO.
I agree that this was wrong, but I could not say there SHOULD be a divorce How can someone mandate an end to a relationship who is not in it? Also, you refer to a heavenly relationship. There is also the concept of repentence and forgiveness. If they should opt for reconciliation and make a genuine effort, who are we to say they cannot or should not try? God forbid that I should ever get what I deserve. I have screwed up many things over my lifetime, but when I was given a chance to make amends, I was glad for the opportunity, and the people who gave me a second chance were not disappointed.
Originally posted by: Tripleshot
Repentance and forgiveness is in order, but that is not what a marriage is based on. Marriage is based on trust and honor. It appears to me that is sullied forever.
That is sad. Yes, she can absolutely be forgiven this if she sincerely prays for forgiveness, and repentance means never ever doing anything remotely like this again, not even in her imagination.
Originally posted by: luvly
"The 'bad' part comes with the fact that she was doing it and trying to hide it. She isn't trustworthy."
But, but . . . couldn't one argue that ultimately it isn't trust issue, at least not on her part, for it was fear of the significant other being closed to the idea in the first place? Had he been willing to hear such, she would have nothing to hide. And hiding something really isn't synonymous with lying, as she may not have been asked before she was caught. Maybe if she was asked before she was caught, she would be truthful.
"As usual, GeekBabe hit the nail right on the head...
Skin mags personally are boring to me, I need more of a story to get involved. That is why most p0rn is such comedy, the plots are absurd. That being said, if you want the good p0rn, you need to find the stuff made for couples/women, it tends to have far better production values and storylines than the generic stuff."
Grasshopper, porn on a magazine isn't much of my issue as is strip clubbing. And I would assume that he would have no problem if I did either of these jobs; stripping especially. Intent is usually what comes to play. For instance, someone could read porn mags, watch strips and porn for informative reasons or with indifference. On the other hand, someone else could do the same thing but for his personal pleasure and excluding his significant other.
Originally posted by: grasshopper26
I imagine all sorts of things, many of which I should NEVER ever do. I'm not going to hold Thumper's imagination to any higher standard than my own. What she thinks in her own head is her business. I just hope she thinks about me.
Grasshopper