Originally posted by: Hayabusarider
Originally posted by: Tripleshot
This was wrong, plain and simple. it was a morally repugnant gesture on her part and any statement like "we aren't having body contact so it's not a problem" just is so outrageously ignorant,I can't see any hope for trust in this relationship ever again. A marriage without trust is just shacking up. That act she performed in front of a webcam------do you think it would be acceptable in heaven? If it isn't, I would submit this marriage should end, because it is no longer bound by heavenly law. Does anyone ever remember "Love, Honor, and Obey--until death do you part" in their marriage vows?How could this escape this women? It doesn't matter what her motives are, what drove her to do it,or anything. It is obvious the husband is upset and this behavior was not mutually acceptable in the marriage. It was done in secret. When men and women keep secrets of this magnitude, then the marriage is in deep, deep trouble. What tells me this? I have been around a long time, and grew up in the "free love" generation. That was a freaking myth, folks. A price will always be paid for deviant behaviour in a marrage. The price for this should be D-I-V-O-R-C-E. Sad. I feel sorry for both of them, and worse for his brother and best friend. Now they are burdoned with this knowledge and must act accordingly. The rest of us here won't have to deal with it at all. It will be a post in a thread and forgoten in a few hours or days. Sure does make you re-assess your values though, huh? Unless you are satisfied with your values already. Amish is his and so is Isla. That is fine. As long as there is no mystery with the spouses and there is mutual trust and honor and love, IMHO.
I agree that this was wrong, but I could not say there SHOULD be a divorce How can someone mandate an end to a relationship who is not in it? Also, you refer to a heavenly relationship. There is also the concept of repentence and forgiveness. If they should opt for reconciliation and make a genuine effort, who are we to say they cannot or should not try? God forbid that I should ever get what I deserve. I have screwed up many things over my lifetime, but when I was given a chance to make amends, I was glad for the opportunity, and the people who gave me a second chance were not disappointed.
Amen, Hayabusarider.
I've never said what she did was OK... I just remember a little verse about 'he who is without sin shall cast the first stone' and that is why I think the view that compassion rather than judgement is in order. I was alluding to what many guys do (porn, strip clubs) as being the same thing (cheating) to many people, and that unless you are totally pure of heart (who here is?) it's better not to get on any high horses. We all make mistakes and we all need to be forgiven.