My brother caught his wife! Update...

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: Isla
Storm, we are working on it. It's been a long hard road, but we've made progress.

Here's the thing:

Know yourself before you get married. This is easier said than done! And then, take a loooooong time to get to know your partner before making a committment.

I would say my relationship problems have a lot to do with how young I hitched up and how short my engagement was. I didn't know what I was getting into!

You Live, You Learn (Alanis Morrisette)

Isla, you missed your calling as a relationship counceler! You need your own radio call-in talk show!

Grasshopper

 

[StageLeft]

It's great they didn't have kids if they're gonna break up (it's an insurmountable obstacle for all intents and purposes).

--

In regards to your never getting married, all great things come with risks. You might have a crappy marriage, or you might have a great one, or you can have neither but never know the joys of the great one.

 

[spp]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
It's great they didn't have kids if they're gonna break up (it's an insurmountable obstacle for all intents and purposes).

--

In regards to your never getting married, all great things come with risks. You might have a crappy marriage, or you might have a great one, or you can have neither but never know the joys of the great one.

TRUE THAT!! words from the luckiest guy on earth

 

[DAPUNISHER]

After 14+ years of marriage I can tell you it's a wonderful institution, but do you really want to spend the rest of your life in a institution?

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: DAPUNISHER
After 14+ years of marriage I can tell you it's a wonderful institution, but do you really want to spend the rest of your life in a institution?

Hey, you ripped off a famous Mae West line!!!



Here's MichaelD's take on the whole thing (taking into account Kiyups' update about the letters and the impending breakup.)

1. They were married and they didn't have kids.
2. He gets this, she gets that and they never, ever, EVAR$RRRRRRRRRRr have to speak to each other again. CLEAN AND EASY.
3. See #1 and #2.

Any questions?

 

[Hammer]

lol sorry but that's pretty funny. ok, but on a serious note, yeah its cheating. not the worst kinda of cheating, but bad enough. cut off her internet access would be the first thing to do. Then have a long talk with her.

 

[ReiAyanami]

obviously she is no longer interested in your brother so he should hand over half his stuff and find a new wife...


NOT! it doesnt seem that serious to me, except the letters mean creepy 41 year old bald overweight men know where she lives. go see a marriage counselor, they're both adults right?

 

[Jfur]

Originally posted by: CPUtrader

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Maturbation is almost always a perfectly healthy form of sexual release. I've been married for 10 years now and NEVER would have made it w/o some personal lovin'.

Damn straight! Masturbation is nevery "unhealthy". You tell them!

CPUtrader

I am still SO PISSED about that Jocelyn Elders fiasco
:| That woman is awesome.

 

[rahvin]

Regardless of what she said tell him to get an STD test.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: GirlFriday

Originally posted by: Skyclad1uhm1

Originally posted by: Isla

That's ok. There isn't a thing that any of them can say that could hurt me.

If just one person gets what I am trying to say, it will be worth it.

I think I understand what you are trying to say, but I'd equal looking at porn to fantasizing in general, while baring it all for someone else to masturbate to is something quite different in my opinion.

Why? Both are being disloyal sexually, if you are wanking it to a strange woman instead of going to bed with your wife, its really the same thing to me. Don't get me wrong, I think that woman was totally wrong to do what she did. But I also think men who sit up and would rather look at porn instead of being with the women they love are not being loyal either. Looking at it together, or when your wife is out of town, or not around is one thing. But when she is there, and you could be with her but instead choose a magazine, then that is just as bad, whether its an image, or a movie, or a webcam, the disloyalty is there in their heart.

I disagree and go even further with the thought that if more women actually sat down and did a little movie viewing with their men there might be fewer guys sitting in their dens on their computers alone
while their wives sleep alone and overall a whole lot less "disloyalty" going on.
and overall less "disloyalty" going on.

 

[BoberFett]

Just to throw in my 2 cents...

To me, personally, I would consider this different than porn, or even stripclubs. I check out porn with my girlfriend, she checks out other guys, I check out other women, we're both OK with that. We've talked about going to a stripclub together. But...

You're not building an emotional relationship with porn or a stripper. Even though the stripper is live in front of you, you're not establishing a relationship.

You can't have that kind of intimate relationship with more than one person. Part of the point of that relationship is the feeling of being special. If your partner goes around setting up "special" relationships with a bunch of people, how special are you really? If it were just mutual masturbation, I could maybe understand, but the fact that they're writing each other hand written letters tells me that the cyber-lovers are more than physical, there's a relationship building there. I'd be extremely offended if my girlfriend had another relationship as intimate as the one we have.

 

[spanky]

that's rough dude.

 

[LuNoTiCK]

That sucks, he should get revenge, by recording it and putting it all over the internet.


But something is messed up. I don't think taking away her computer is going to do good. She might not stand for something like that.
Depends on how they feel about each other, if they want to work it out or not.

 

[OutHouse]

I dont consider it cheating at all. For me its no different than a live porno. But I do think she should have talked to him about it first, they have a communication problem. I believe your brother might feel slighted because she kept it from him. I bet if she was open and expressed her interest/fantasy he wouldnt be so upset. And Who knows they both could have found a new hobby....

 

[SCSIfreek]

I've heard this from other women, They don't just go around banging other men for sexual pleasure but rather they wanted the attention and the emotional support from other men. I'm sorry that this had happened and the wife should have said something before the marriage had gone heywired. With the update saying the husband found letters from other men and so fort.... I would say she IS cheating on him. camming or the real thing <----emotions and relationship were involved.

Although we aren't in their shoes, I believe it isn't all her fault. Marriage does not work without the communication and support from both parties. This calls for a time off period and rearrangement of the marriage if there's any emotions left.



--Scsi

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: Hammer
lol sorry but that's pretty funny. ok, but on a serious note, yeah its cheating. not the worst kinda of cheating, but bad enough. cut off her internet access would be the first thing to do. Then have a long talk with her.

You can't cut off her internet access, she's an adult, not a child. You have no authority to do that sort of thing.

The long talk never hurts however...

Grasshopper

 

[DAPUNISHER]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: DAPUNISHER
After 14+ years of marriage I can tell you it's a wonderful institution, but do you really want to spend the rest of your life in a institution?

Hey, you ripped off a famous Mae West line!!!



Here's MichaelD's take on the whole thing (taking into account Kiyups' update about the letters and the impending breakup.)

1. They were married and they didn't have kids.
2. He gets this, she gets that and they never, ever, EVAR$RRRRRRRRRRr have to speak to each other again. CLEAN AND EASY.
3. See #1 and #2.

Any questions?

I knew I heard it somewhere but couldn't remember where!

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I disagree and go even further with the thought that if more women actually sat down and did a little movie viewing with their men there might be fewer guys sitting in their dens on their computers alone
while their wives sleep alone and overall a whole lot less "disloyalty" going on.

I've said it before, I'll say it yet again... You and I would get along great in the real world...

Grasshopper

 

[hagbard]

What's her ICQ number?

 

[jyates]

Originally posted by: SCSIfreek
I've heard this from other women, They don't just go around banging other men for sexual pleasure but rather they wanted the attention and the emotional support from other men. I'm sorry that this had happened and the wife should have said something before the marriage had gone heywired. With the update saying the husband found letters from other men and so fort.... I would say she IS cheating on him. camming or the real thing <----emotions and relationship were involved.

Although we aren't in their shoes, I believe it isn't all her fault. Marriage does not work without the communication and support from both parties. This calls for a time off period and rearrangement of the marriage if there's any emotions left.

--Scsi

Forgiveness is always an option instead of divorce, but both parties involved have to commit themselves to working through
the problem. And if they both are willing to work through it there is no reason for this situation to be nothing but a bad
memory in time. I have had some first hand knowledge of this and my marriage is better than ever now. Sometimes you don't know
what you have until you almost lose it.

Jim

 

[ReiAyanami]

u dont wanna end up like J.Lo and have your own personal divorce attorney do you? u have to work hard at marriages, otherwise u should buy ur enagement rings from costco in bulk, for your next six wives and ex-wives

 

[Yeeny]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: GirlFriday

Originally posted by: Skyclad1uhm1

Originally posted by: Isla

That's ok. There isn't a thing that any of them can say that could hurt me.

If just one person gets what I am trying to say, it will be worth it.

I think I understand what you are trying to say, but I'd equal looking at porn to fantasizing in general, while baring it all for someone else to masturbate to is something quite different in my opinion.

Why? Both are being disloyal sexually, if you are wanking it to a strange woman instead of going to bed with your wife, its really the same thing to me. Don't get me wrong, I think that woman was totally wrong to do what she did. But I also think men who sit up and would rather look at porn instead of being with the women they love are not being loyal either. Looking at it together, or when your wife is out of town, or not around is one thing. But when she is there, and you could be with her but instead choose a magazine, then that is just as bad, whether its an image, or a movie, or a webcam, the disloyalty is there in their heart.

I disagree and go even further with the thought that if more women actually sat down and did a little movie viewing with their men there might be fewer guys sitting in their dens on their computers alone
while their wives sleep alone and overall a whole lot less "disloyalty" going on.
and overall less "disloyalty" going on.

I said that watching it together was not an issue, like i said, wanking it to a strange woman instead of choosing to go to bed with your wife is. I am talking about men that don't give their women that option, and instead just choose the porn over the wife/girlfriend.

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: Kiyup
I've said it before, I'm never getting married. :|

Being divorced, I can tell you life is more peaceful and simpler when you're single.

 

[SoylentGreen]

Now I wish I didn't tell you guys this. I could drive to the Boston meet, but now I messed that up. Maybe I'll delete this and make another account. Can I do that?

 

I would say try to work things out. But it seems like she's a slutty woman. It's best to end it now that there isn't any kids. Maybe it would have been better if he had found out as of the date it all began. Now she seems sucked in it, even if her original intent was different.

"Now I wish I didn't tell you guys this. I could drive to the Boston meet, but now I messed that up. Maybe I'll delete this and make another account. Can I do that?"

Don't be silly, Kiyup! What makes you want to do that? Am I missing something? Why can't you drive to the Boston meeting?