My daughter was hurt in preschool

[Xavier434]

Honestly, there is nothing you can do unless they were foolish about the paperwork you signed when you registered her for the daycare. I have been down this road before. If you threaten any kind of legal action, they will immediately expel her from the daycare and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Also, this sort of thing happening in a pre-school is not as uncommon as you may think. That doesn't mean I wouldn't pull my kid out if it happened too often though. It also doesn't mean that I wouldn't ask to meet with the director to make him/her aware of what happened.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: ch33zw1z

Originally posted by: Renob
Dude little kids get injured, NOT a big deal.

Bleeding is part of being a little kid.

lol I laugh at the

I already took photos of the bruises on her face.

Get over it and move on.

He pays for her to be in a safe environment. If they cannot provide this then something needs to be done. Yea, kids get hurt all the time...but that doesn't mean it can't be avoided at times. The day care needs to have enough people on hand to keep an eye on the kids.

Nope. There's not a daycare anywhere that has enough people on staff to prevent stuff like this. Only thing they might get in hot water for is if they have another incident involving the same kid.

Kids get hurt. This is just as likely to happen at home. No parent follows their kid around 24/7 to make sure they don't get hurt.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: paulney

Originally posted by: Pacfanweb
Unfortunately, this happens. I have kids that young, too. Fortunately, my preschool teachers are better than yours.

But here's your problem:

Evidently you KNEW that this happens:

teacher left for break
- substitute is a blind bat
- kids are unsupervised

Yet you let your kids go there anyway.

There was never an issue of fighting before: the majority of kids there aren't troublemakers, and they all get along nicely.

That's the case with most kids....however, things like this DO happen. We as parents hate it, but there's nothing you can do about it.

If this happened on a public playground while you were watching, all you could do is bitch at the other kid's parent and take you kid home. I seriously doubt any law officer would or could do anything for you.

 

[OUCaptain]

Children get hurt and bleed. Get over it. Seriously Get over it

 

[RKS]

Is the kid an illegal immigrant? They don't understand/respect our social structure.

 

[Homerboy]

I say sue. SUE EM ALL!!! right?
that's what you want to hear. SHIT HAPPENS.
(also I agree with Oldsmoboat)

 

[Xavier434]

It's also worth noting that a single instance of a child doing this to your daughter does not make him a troublemaker. Even the most well behaved children screw up big time like that occasionally. The same can be said about adults for that matter. There may not be a problem to solve as far as the child's behavior is concerned.

 

[m1ldslide1]

My gf is working at a daycare while she is going to school, and they have a problem kid who is a biter. He's like 2 or 2.5, just old enough to walk over to the other toddlers and grab hold. The staff is aware of it, the parents get irate about it and they try to prevent it as much as possible, but it still happens sometimes.

I'm incredulous when I hear the stories - I demand to know why they aren't confronting the biter's parents and telling them that he'll be expelled if it continues to happen, but apparently that's just not how its done. They inform the parents, who don't seem to care, and life goes on. It's insanity to me.

 

[paulney]

Originally posted by: Pacfanweb
If this happened on a public playground while you were watching, all you could do is bitch at the other kid's parent and take you kid home. I seriously doubt any law officer would or could do anything for you.

I'd liek to reiterate again:

I'm not calling attorney general and filing a battery suit! (I don't know how calling police entered this thread at all). I'm not angered by the bruises she gets while playing with other kids (she had quite a few, she's an active kid). I wouldn't be angered as much if they saw what happened, but weren't quick enough to react.

But they don't even know how it happened or who did it! Because one left for break, and another didn't care to see what's going on beyond her nose... That's what angers me.

 

[blackdogdeek]

what is the teacher/student ratio there?

this sort of thing happened where my daughter goes to preschool. however, the school acted much more responsibly. they informed both sets of parents of the incident and sat down with all of them to explain what had happened and discuss what to do from then on.

i'd say find a better day care.

 

[RightIsWrong]

Is this a home day care or a formal day care?

I would ensure that they teachers are licensed (especially the sub) and that they are following procedures (proper ratio kids/teachers, safety regulations, etc). After that, I would try to find the kid's parents and let them know so that they can attempt to teach him that his greed will only get him into politics where he will ruin the country for the rest of us by selling out to lobbyists.

 

[Xavier434]

Originally posted by: m1ldslide1
My gf is working at a daycare while she is going to school, and they have a problem kid who is a biter. He's like 2 or 2.5, just old enough to walk over to the other toddlers and grab hold. The staff is aware of it, the parents get irate about it and they try to prevent it as much as possible, but it still happens sometimes.

I'm incredulous when I hear the stories - I demand to know why they aren't confronting the biter's parents and telling them that he'll be expelled if it continues to happen, but apparently that's just not how its done. They inform the parents, who don't seem to care, and life goes on. It's insanity to me.

There is a "biter" in every single daycare I have ever had my child in and I have been through a lot of them. The vast majority of them have a policy where they write up some paperwork on the incident and inform the parents about the problem. If the problem is determined to be uncontrollable and it happens too often then the child does get expelled. If this sort of procedure is not happening in your GF's school then she is working at a bad daycare.

 

[MiniDoom]

Originally posted by: RKS
Is the kid an illegal immigrant? They don't understand/respect our social structure.

wow, generalize much?

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: m1ldslide1
My gf is working at a daycare while she is going to school, and they have a problem kid who is a biter. He's like 2 or 2.5, just old enough to walk over to the other toddlers and grab hold. The staff is aware of it, the parents get irate about it and they try to prevent it as much as possible, but it still happens sometimes.

I'm incredulous when I hear the stories - I demand to know why they aren't confronting the biter's parents and telling them that he'll be expelled if it continues to happen, but apparently that's just not how its done. They inform the parents, who don't seem to care, and life goes on. It's insanity to me.

the preschool my daughter went to refused to take one kid that was bitting. they warned the parents who did/could do nothing about it. so they said don't bring him back.

 

[Joemonkey]

Originally posted by: rdubbz420

Originally posted by: RKS
Is the kid an illegal immigrant? They don't understand/respect our social structure.

wow, generalize much?

is he wrong?

 

[Xavier434]

Originally posted by: Joemonkey

Originally posted by: rdubbz420

Originally posted by: RKS
Is the kid an illegal immigrant? They don't understand/respect our social structure.

wow, generalize much?

is he wrong?

Yes, he is wrong. There are taxes involved when registering children for day care. Obviously, that repels illegals from registering...

 

[paulney]

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
what is the teacher/student ratio there?

this sort of thing happened where my daughter goes to preschool. however, the school acted much more responsibly. they informed both sets of parents of the incident and sat down with all of them to explain what had happened and discuss what to do from then on.

i'd say find a better day care.

Supposed to be 1 teacher per 11 kids.
They told us they informed the other girl's parents (much to their surprise, I bet - since she didn't do it). We'll see what happens next.

 

[paulney]

Originally posted by: RKS
Is the kid an illegal immigrant? They don't understand/respect our social structure.

No, he's not latino. He is black.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: Xavier434

Originally posted by: Joemonkey

Originally posted by: rdubbz420

Originally posted by: RKS
Is the kid an illegal immigrant? They don't understand/respect our social structure.

wow, generalize much?

is he wrong?

Yes, he is wrong. There are taxes involved when registering children for day care. Obviously, that repels illegals from registering...

not true.

there are many daycares out there that don't care.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: paulney

Originally posted by: waggy
well you could call the cops.
call whoever is in charge of the school
find out the boys name and sue the parents

etc.

They are not releasing the name of the boy (they still think it's a girl who did it!), and they are not releasing the name of the substitute either (although we know who the substitute was - it's always the same woman).

This could have happened at a playgroup with your wife and other mothers standing there. Kids get into tussles sometimes, they fight over toys.

 

[MiniDoom]

Originally posted by: Joemonkey

Originally posted by: rdubbz420

Originally posted by: RKS
Is the kid an illegal immigrant? They don't understand/respect our social structure.

wow, generalize much?

is he wrong?

yes, my mother in law came here illegally to flee a civil war in el Salvador. since after she's been here I don't believe she's broken a single law. refuses to drive more than the speed limit, etc. If I can show you one example of this, it shoots your theory to shit.

 

[jpeyton]

Sue the school out of existence, than use that money to send her to a better one.

It's the American way.

 

[l0cke]

Concealed carry

However, maybe stick to smaller calibers. A .45 would probably go through several kids if the time was wrong.

 

[digiram]

Send her to school with a switch blade?

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

Originally posted by: OUCaptain
Children get hurt and bleed. Get over it. Seriously Get over it

You don't see something wrong with his daughter being assaulted by another kid? Then you're an idiot.

And, ya, for the record I'd sue the parents to pay for a doctor visit and for my and my wife's missed work in having to deal with it x 2 for pain and suffering. That ought to have an impact on parents who, obviously, give a rat's ass about how their kid behaves.