My daughter was hurt in preschool

[Delta6Echo]

Originally posted by: gorcorps

Originally posted by: Delta6Echo

Originally posted by: paulney
...OP...|

Gee, I don't know. What does Mr. Common Sense say? :roll:

He says you're a prick and you touch yourself at night.

Maybe OP should be discussing this with his wife, mother, father or possibly the owner of the day care, the pre-school or even the school district. Just a thought.

 

[alkemyst]

I think he was hoping we'd rally for his lawsuit.

 

[TallBill]

Zomg, think of the children.

 

[XxPrOdiGyxX]

How long till we see a parody thread?

Btw, OP and the other helicopter parents...get over it. Life doesn't go the way you want it to all the time. There is always a fair share of dickheads and people that F with you. They are learning about it at an early age and will learn to deal with it. Have you even tried talking to the school and/or parents of the problem kid? Or are you being passive aggressive and using a potential lawsuit as a way to deal with the problem without actually confronting them?

 

[Capt Caveman]

OP - If you're not happy how the preschool handled the situation, file complaints to the owner, BBB and local oversight authorities. Then take your child somewhere else.

 

[brxndxn]

OMG.. I do my best to side with the OP.. but this is fucking ridiculous. Your precious little snowflake needs to learn to live life so when she finally grows up she is ready for the horrible dog-eat-dog world that we have.

She got a cut or two.. It happens!! It's part of growing up. Be glad the daycare actually lets your kid be active enough to get a cut. WTF are you gonna do the day your kid comes home with a broken arm?! It happens.

Raise your kid to be tough - guy or girl - so she doesn't end up being as wussy as you.

 

[Capt Caveman]

Originally posted by: brxndxn
OMG.. I do my best to side with the OP.. but this is fucking ridiculous. Your precious little snowflake needs to learn to live life so when she finally grows up she is ready for the horrible dog-eat-dog world that we have.

She got a cut or two.. It happens!! It's part of growing up. Be glad the daycare actually lets your kid be active enough to get a cut. WTF are you gonna do the day your kid comes home with a broken arm?! It happens.

Raise your kid to be tough - guy or girl - so she doesn't end up being as wussy as you.

The kid is three years old. He should have taught her already to fight back? I can't believe the morons in this thread.

 

[XxPrOdiGyxX]

Originally posted by: Capt Caveman

Originally posted by: brxndxn
OMG.. I do my best to side with the OP.. but this is fucking ridiculous. Your precious little snowflake needs to learn to live life so when she finally grows up she is ready for the horrible dog-eat-dog world that we have.

She got a cut or two.. It happens!! It's part of growing up. Be glad the daycare actually lets your kid be active enough to get a cut. WTF are you gonna do the day your kid comes home with a broken arm?! It happens.

Raise your kid to be tough - guy or girl - so she doesn't end up being as wussy as you.

The kid is three years old. He should have taught her already to fight back? I can't believe the morons in this thread.

I didn't see anything about teaching her to fight back. Quoting the wrong post perhaps?

 

[Xylitol]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Riase your kids instead of having someone else do it?

that's stupid.
Preschool is good for any kids since it helps them socialize with others

 

[Xylitol]

and the other thing I want to say is: Everyone gets hurt even if it is your princess daughter
Let it go

 

[Christobevii3]

Trade in your kid for a new model

 

[moshquerade]

I can see why this is upsetting, but not that it was the school's fault. I would confront the parent(s) of the little boy so that they can talk to him about the incident, get him to apologize (maybe), and explain to him what he did was very wrong.

Kids slap, kids bite, kids hit, kids are selfish little turds when it comes to wanting toys/books/anything. They are just kids.

disclaimer: I haven't read the whole thread.

 

[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: paulney

Originally posted by: nakedfrog
New daycare?

Yes, if stuff like this happens again - definitely. But I don't want to just let it go - their attitude pisses me the hell off.

Understandably. This is partly why we have avoided daycare despite it costing us vast amounts of money. I simply don't want my kids around other kids who would do things like scratch them until they bleed and be in an environment that doesn't care. A new daycare may be better. I do think that poor/white trash kids, which are more likely to be in cheap daycares have behavioral issues more prevalent than middle or upper class kids. I've no interest in defending that statement because it's not PC, but it is what I have observed. You may already be in a good daycare, though.

In terms of them accepting responsibility, not sure how that would look or even what you could possibly get out of it; I don't see in what way they could "make it right". The accident could indeed happen anyway, but the indignation I completely empathize with. It must be infuriating.

Beevs idea about threatening the boy's parents is effective but probably not legal.

Nope. There's not a daycare anywhere that has enough people on staff to prevent stuff like this. Only thing they might get in hot water for is if they have another incident involving the same kid.

I've seen daycares ranging from $450/month to $1000+/month per child. The expensive ones have a better teacher/kid ratio but also the kids are more likely to be from middle/upper classes than lower, and like I said, I think lower class have a greater propensity to behavioral problems such as poor discipline. They are their parents' kids afterall and everything flows down. It's not a constant stereotype but there is validity to it. Richer parents may have more spoiled kids but they also expect more from their children and seem to tolerate less anti-social behavior. They are more successful in life, which tends to make them more successful parents, and in turn those kids are more successful adults, which is why we see such a reliable trend of children raising to, give or take, the station in life their parents had.

Yes, I've become more of a snob since I had kids. The luxury of relativism has taken a back seat since my view on things actually matters now to my kiddies

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: brxndxn


Raise your kid to be tough - guy or girl - so she doesn't end up being as wussy as you.

she is 3 years old. you really can't teach them to be tough or not. really its impossible.

Originally posted by: moshquerade
I can see why this is upsetting, but not that it was the school's fault. I would confront the parent(s) of the little boy so that they can talk to him about the incident, get him to apologize (maybe), and explain to him what he did was very wrong.

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well i do think the school is kinda wrong. the primary care giver should not leave the room unless a emergancy happens.

 

[Raduque]

You have only one option here in America - Sue everybody in sight!

ps: Needs moar poal

 

[RadiclDreamer]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Riase your kids instead of having someone else do it?

Sometimes isnt possible smart ass, my wife and I both work so its impossible for us to watch our son during the day. Im sure if you have kids they were never left with a sitter

 

[Fritzo]

As a parent of two that has gone through this: IT DOES HAPPEN. It's impossible to focus on every single kid every single second. If it was a serious injury, then that would mean there was something in the environment that is unsafe and that would be a cause of concern.

Scratches? Big deal. Your kid is going to get a lot worse as she grows up. Just drop it and make your life easier.

 

[Xavier434]

Guys, this whole issue is so simple. This is exactly how it works:

1. Accident like this happens.
2. School writes up an incident report and makes a copy for the parents of child that got injured as well as the parents of the child that caused the incident assuming it was able to be determined which child was at fault.
3. If the injured child is hurt badly enough, the parents of the child are called on the spot and informed of the issue.
4. If the responsible child is determined, they get disciplined at school and are also told to apologize to the injured child.
5. If it was determined that the accident was at the fault of teacher in charge of the class due to him/her not being attentive enough then that person will most likely be given a talk from the director of the daycare.
6. If this teacher gets too many "talks" then odds are he/she will be fired.


What you as the parent can do:

1. Talk to the teacher and talk to the director in order to find out everything they know concerning the incident.
2. Depending on the severity of situation, if it was a one time incident and the school has been good to your child in the past then the best decision to make is to just let it go.
3. If these kinds of incidents happen often or the incident was quite severe then request a meeting with the director to discuss the situation and find out exactly what is going to be done in order to prevent these issues from repeating themselves so very often. IMO, this case was not severe enough to require this sort of response if it only happened once considering that this stuff is common despite whether you would like to believe that or not.
4. If the director doesn't do enough or if these one time incidents start to build up too much then your only other option is to move your child to a new daycare. You need to act in the best interest of your child, but do keep in mind that transferring daycares is not painless for a child that young either. Changes to routines like that can be very stressful on them so just make sure you are not jumping the gun when considering this option.


Lastly, while arbitration is something a lot of people think about when it comes to this stuff, I can tell you from experience that threatening to do so or actually doing it gets you absolutely no where. Most lawyers won't accept the case and the paperwork you sign at the beginning of registration protects the schools from this sort of stuff. In addition, if you do threaten arbitration, your child will be immediately expelled from the school. It's better just to save your time and money by just pulling them out and moving them if you really feel arbitration is deserved and necessary.

 

[MetalMat]

Blame the kid and the parents.

 

[GiggleGirl]

Originally posted by: Beev
Have her point the kid out. Go up to him and squat down like you're trying to "teach him the right thing to do" and then in a very casual tone tell him that if he ever does anything like that again you will kill both of his parents. That will scare the little bastard so bad he'll be shitting bricks for years.

ROFL LMAO HAHAHAHAHA

that was the best answer ever. lmaoooooo

i have a 3 yr old who was recently bit in the face by another child. the skin was not broken or anything but they said that the kid just fuckin turned to her and bit her damn face! thats cRAzAY

 

[GiggleGirl]

Originally posted by: paulney

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21

What's a little 3 year old, who probably doesn't have the mental capacity to form complete sentences yet, saying "I'm sorry" going to do for you?

For your information: unless they are full retards or have parents who have no conversations with their children, 3-year olds have full capacity to form complete complex sentences, remember things that happened weeks and months ago, and they can perfectly understand what 'I am sorry' means.

hey fuck you man, my daughter has a speech delay, sentences are hard to come by! i resent that!!!

in any case, no they cant really remember things that happened that long ago unless coaxed or put in a similar situation. did you read NO child develpment books? lol
but they most CERTAINLY understand what I"m sorry means and i make sure Riley tells me shes sorry for any infraction i believe deems an apologize. it takes some repetition but they can grasp these things

 

[GiggleGirl]

Originally posted by: gorcorps

Originally posted by: Delta6Echo

Originally posted by: paulney
...OP...|

Gee, I don't know. What does Mr. Common Sense say? :roll:

He says you're a prick and you touch yourself at night.

hah! who doesnt? lol

 

[Leros]

I was playing at recess in the 1st grade. Someone threw a rock and hit me close to my eye. I couldn't see for a few hours and I had a giant welt on my head for a few days. The kid got punished and his parents got called. We were just being kids and screwing around. Its what happens. Get over it.

 

[cherrytwist]

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor

Originally posted by: OUCaptain
Children get hurt and bleed. Get over it. Seriously Get over it

You don't see something wrong with his daughter being assaulted by another kid? Then you're an idiot.

And, ya, for the record I'd sue the parents to pay for a doctor visit and for my and my wife's missed work in having to deal with it x 2 for pain and suffering. That ought to have an impact on parents who, obviously, give a rat's ass about how their kid behaves.

lol @ assaulted (by a 3 year old)

OP is responsible for leaving the child in the hands of school he clearly was uncomfortable with prior to the incident.

Yank the kid out and put her in a school you feel comfortable with.

 

[aesthetics]

Originally posted by: venkman
1)Find out who boy was
2)Scratch his parents until they bleed.

:laugh: