You do need help! However, you have a funny side to you. Your funny post has managed to make me laugh instead of acting all brutally honest, feisty or aggressive toward you. So maybe you could use this aspect of your humor to make up for your imperfection?/screwy side?Originally posted by: Sensor
I was dating my high school sweetheart for six years. Everything was great, we were really secure and comfortable around each other, which is to be expected after so much time together. The last year I had been pushing for more commitment, but every time I talked about moving in together or what color house she?d like to live in, her pupils dilated and she got really quiet. (She tells me now that she felt like she was unable to commit because she hasn?t experienced any other men, and her pride prevented explaining that she felt that way because I had encouraged her to see other people during the first few years of our relationship [and she didn?t then because she thought it was a silly idea and she was so emotionally attached to me (I didn?t realize it at the time, but doing that probably hurt her a little ? I mean, what girl wants her guy to say, ?Go ahead and see some other guys, I?m not jealous.?)].) So anyway, last summer I graduated and said (paraphrased), ?I?m going to California [from New Jersey]. See-ya.? At the time, I thought it?d be a nice way to settle someplace and ?prepare a room? while she finishes college and, potentially, gets her proverbial roll in the hay that she deserves.
So here I am in the Bay Area, my one-year anniversary being tomorrow! I talk to my Ex almost every day, maybe 29 days a month. Last night we got in a fight ? not a yelling fest, but a constructive debate ? where she told me that my feelings for her are inhibiting her ability to date other people and my desire to find someone else. Don?t get me wrong, I don?t whisper ?I love you? every night before going to sleep, but between my sending her gifts for no reason (It?s cute and has the last piece of her heart falling into place, I thought it was adorable. And the prior one was a book of Chinese proverbs. I?m not sending her plane tickets and diamonds or anything), my willingness to help her for hours with her 30-page research paper about watching Anime during class, and my going to the gym even though I?m lazier than a wilting cactus, my feelings for her are pretty clear. She hasn?t explicitly told me (and I can?t help but wonder why?), but it?s pretty clear that ?Seeing other people? means ?Not dating each other. Ever.? The obvious solution is to never talk to her again, but she seemed pretty adamant about keeping me as the ?best friend [she] can tell anything to, and can depend on when [her] other relationships go awry.? I?m against that solution too, because I honestly still have feelings for her (which, if you recall, was described as the problem in the first place).
So I?m looking for advice. How do I wait for the girl of my life patiently? Or do I stop waiting and go hunt down some girls on Craigslist, with the assumption that seeing other people would require my levying my feelings for her (which I don?t know how to do, anyway)? I?m also looking for questions, because answering questions is a great way to learn more about myself ? and I?m sure that my rose-tinted lenses have inhibited my ability to know everything about the situation I?m in. I don?t have much experience in ATOT barter, but from what I could gather, proper compensation for my request would be a link to her Match.com profile and a picture of a fairy?s panties.
Thanks in advance for simple advice, thought-provoking questions, and even for the comment questioning my masculinity. I?ll take it all to heart! ^3^
Edit: You get no muah from me. I'm masculine and not in denial.
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: xSauronx
move on, my wife pulled the "i didnt get to experience things" sh!t on me, youre fecked, completely. i know the feeling.
This is true. She is no longer your high school sweetheart, and is now in that phase where she wants to go out to clubs, party with her friends, and meet new guys. She has outgrown you, and there's not a damn thing you can do about it.
Originally posted by: Doboji
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: xSauronx
move on, my wife pulled the "i didnt get to experience things" sh!t on me, youre fecked, completely. i know the feeling.
This is true. She is no longer your high school sweetheart, and is now in that phase where she wants to go out to clubs, party with her friends, and meet new guys. She has outgrown you, and there's not a damn thing you can do about it.
QFS(Sad)T....
Move on... you have to dump her for your own sanity. Don't talk to her at all for at least 6 months.
But you won't listen to us... so it doesnt matter.
-Max
Originally posted by: Sensor
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
cut your losses now or you'll be in for a world of hurt my friend. the worst thing you can do at this point is to stick around. do you really wanna know if your gf is banging other dudes.
p.s. i don't mean to be a dick but is your gf the asian one with glasses in your pictures? if so, then i don't think you'll have much to worry about in terms of other guys banging her. oh god i'm going to hell for this one...
Yea. Yea you and, uh, the 50-or-so other people are right. I just now yelled at her for no good reason and hung up the phone. And it's not because I'm mad at her or I want to manipulate her. It's because she says she wants a 'best friend', but she's really not that good a friend to me.
Hahahah, she's not asian with glasses. But now I'm curious as to where there's a horrendous asian girl in my photo album! *ponder*
Edit: wait. I'm asian, and I have glasses. If you mean me, then, uh... I'm both insulted by your comment and relieved that there will be no other guys banging me.
Originally posted by: sonz70
Man....man oh man....oh boy.... I can't even think of a non-flaming comment. Give it up, move on.
/thread
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Oh yeah... Before you start dating again you might want to get this cleared up. :Q
Originally posted by: Sensor
I was dating my high school sweetheart for six years. Everything was great, we were really secure and comfortable around each other, which is to be expected after so much time together. The last year I had been pushing for more commitment, but every time I talked about moving in together or what color house she?d like to live in, her pupils dilated and she got really quiet. (She tells me now that she felt like she was unable to commit because she hasn?t experienced any other men, and her pride prevented explaining that she felt that way because I had encouraged her to see other people during the first few years of our relationship [and she didn?t then because she thought it was a silly idea and she was so emotionally attached to me (I didn?t realize it at the time, but doing that probably hurt her a little ? I mean, what girl wants her guy to say, ?Go ahead and see some other guys, I?m not jealous.?)].) So anyway, last summer I graduated and said (paraphrased), ?I?m going to California [from New Jersey]. See-ya.? At the time, I thought it?d be a nice way to settle someplace and ?prepare a room? while she finishes college and, potentially, gets her proverbial roll in the hay that she deserves.
So here I am in the Bay Area, my one-year anniversary being tomorrow! I talk to my Ex almost every day, maybe 29 days a month. Last night we got in a fight ? not a yelling fest, but a constructive debate ? where she told me that my feelings for her are inhibiting her ability to date other people and my desire to find someone else. Don?t get me wrong, I don?t whisper ?I love you? every night before going to sleep, but between my sending her gifts for no reason (It?s cute and has the last piece of her heart falling into place, I thought it was adorable. And the prior one was a book of Chinese proverbs. I?m not sending her plane tickets and diamonds or anything), my willingness to help her for hours with her 30-page research paper about watching Anime during class, and my going to the gym even though I?m lazier than a wilting cactus, my feelings for her are pretty clear. She hasn?t explicitly told me (and I can?t help but wonder why?), but it?s pretty clear that ?Seeing other people? means ?Not dating each other. Ever.? The obvious solution is to never talk to her again, but she seemed pretty adamant about keeping me as the ?best friend [she] can tell anything to, and can depend on when [her] other relationships go awry.? I?m against that solution too, because I honestly still have feelings for her (which, if you recall, was described as the problem in the first place).
So I?m looking for advice. How do I wait for the girl of my life patiently? Or do I stop waiting and go hunt down some girls on Craigslist, with the assumption that seeing other people would require my levying my feelings for her (which I don?t know how to do, anyway)? I?m also looking for questions, because answering questions is a great way to learn more about myself ? and I?m sure that my rose-tinted lenses have inhibited my ability to know everything about the situation I?m in. I don?t have much experience in ATOT barter, but from what I could gather, proper compensation for my request would be a link to her Match.com profile and a picture of a fairy?s panties.
Thanks in advance for simple advice, thought-provoking questions, and even for the comment questioning my masculinity. I?ll take it all to heart! ^3^
Edit: You get no muah from me. I'm masculine and not in denial.
Originally posted by: DainBramaged
Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
go see a shrink.
Originally posted by: Aharami
and let us know where we can find gas this cheap!!
Originally posted by: Crucial
I have lived in WI all my life and I've never been to Tommy Bartlets Robot World. What brought you to our fine state?
Originally posted by: Sensor
Originally posted by: Aharami
and let us know where we can find gas this cheap!!
Originally posted by: Crucial
I have lived in WI all my life and I've never been to Tommy Bartlets Robot World. What brought you to our fine state?
Actually, we were trying to take a picture of the silver statue. As I recall, we thought the gas was slightly overpriced but reasonable considering the location -- that picture is from outside Wisconsin Dells. Wisconsin Dells is a town in Wisconsin that's, well, a total tourist trap -- http://www.dells.com/ -- amphibious 'DUCK' vehicle tours, multi-story go-cart tracks, and an (the?) upside-down whitehouse, and random other amusing things. Half those pictures are from Wizard Quest (A+), a bunch are from Robot World (A), and there are some pictures of cheese (A-). We may have neglected pictures of Alien World (C-) and the upside-down White House (C+, at best).
The upside-down White House was overpriced for a dumb walk-around-and-look-at-our-dumb-stuff tour (although, as tourists, I guess we were the target market), and Alien World was like... if you had a well-off-but-not-filthy-rich friend who really liked Star Wars and decided to build a Star Wars wax museum in his basement, but then decided to replace all the Star Wars stuff with Aliens, then charge you 5 bucks to see it... that's Alien World. Oh, and your friend told you it was 3D as a marketing ploy (yea. most wax museums are, in fact, three-dimensional). Damn, what the hell was I talking about?
Tony Bartlett's Robot Museum was like a science museum for kids, plus some talking automated robots. It was cute and amusing, with that immersive gaming thing that was popular for like, 6 months, and the actual space station MIR. Well, it's the actual second MIR, but that's almost the same thing. We thought it was really cool until our next stop...
Wizard Quest was a fscking riot! These four wizards (four elements) got kidnapped and trapped, so this talking owl tells us (Tony and I) that we're the only ones who can save them, and we need to go on a journey through the different elemental planes, using knowledge and clues and our magical-barcoded-wristbands to unlock the secrets of.. uh... the place. Once we were ready, we teleported directly into the realm of water, where a friendly mermaid helped us with our first clue. Tony got his ass drenched by a trap. I meant to get pictures of his wet butt, but it had dried off too quickly from being in the plane of fire. Incidentally, because the lava was solidified (possibly because he was wet?), he was able to dig his way into a secret cave (claustrophobes please stay out)! I tried to get a prince to help us, but Tony says I got my fairy tales mixed up. I paid the price for my foolishness later. Thankfully, Tony found a dwarf to help us escape into the magical forest, where we learned about hats and pixies and homeless children. The castle in the forest was well guarded, but we found some nearby tourists to take the fall for us while we snuck inside. Unfortunately, I wasn't up-to-date with my Harry Potter, because once we got in we couldn't find the key to open all the doors. The only disappointment was the plane of air, where the earthly establishment had decided to set up nets instead of trying to teach everyone to fly. It was a total blast, and I really want to go back some day... but what're the odds that the four elements will be in danger again on the day I return?
When I moved to California, I drove across the Northern side of the country. It was definately the best vacation I've ever had, and I recommend the drive to anyone instead of taking a bus or plane. Of all the states we went through, I think Wisconsin was the most fun! Kudos to them, because we had originally only expected to find cows and cheese. From our trip, there are a whole mess of pictures online, labeled 'DestinationCA', but the Wisconsin Dells pictures are the most amusing ones.
Oh, and not to wander off-subject, but I'm almost 40 hours clean of not talking to my Ex for more than 5 minutes on the phone. My arms and heart haven't fallen out yet, so I guess I'm doing O.K.