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Ok so here it is. Me and my gf have been seeing each other for a year. She recently moved out of the city into the suburbs, it's around a 25-26 km drive 1 way. She has no drivers license. Before she made the move, our concern was how we are going to see each other with the distance between us, so she made plans of getting rides once in a while from her mom/dad/brother#1/brother#2 which each btw have their own car (and yes her family has a lot of money, they have 4 cars and just dropped 700 k into a new house). She moves away, and what happens? She doesnt get any rides almost at all, her brothers always make up excuses or her parents are busy etc (I really doubt she even tries hard at all to get them to drive her). So every weekend and usually at least once during the week, we plan stuff out and spend time together. Spending time together consists of me driving to her house, picking her up, driving around the city etc, then driving her back and coming home.
I just recently bought my first car also, and have been introduced to the harsh reality world of paying a mini rent on my car every month. I suggested to her nicely a month or so back that it would help out of she pitched in a bit for gas here and there, since I am 95 % of her transportation source, and it's costing me a bit. She agreed when I told her and said she would, so time flies by and she is not giving me anything. I feel like a jackass breaking it out again and asking her about it, making me feel like a total asshole, but this chick is just not getting it into her head. She calls me a cheap and a jew (meanwhile every time we do go out I pay for her most of the time and cover all expenses, eg movies, eating out, blockbuster, buying random little things here and there, etc.
Am I doing something wrong here? This is also the type of chick that the moment she gets a drivers license her dad will buy her a car right away and let her drive, so why is she making such a big deal about gas?
A good friend of mine said I trained that dog bad and did not establish the ground rules 1-2 months into the relationship, and now she expects it and is used to it.
CLIFFS
-GF moved to suburbs 25-26 km drive 1 way
-GF says she will try to get rides from one of her 4 family members with cars
-GF doesnt live up to promise
-Asked GF to pitch in for gas since 95 % of the time we do see each other is thanks to me and I am her means of transportation
-GF qq's like an idiot and calls me cheap and makes me feel bad
UPDATE
She called me today on my break at work and we talked. She said she was pissed off yesterday during our arguement and said she is going to pitch in and wants to pitch in whenever she has the money. I told her that the last thing I expected to argue about in this relationship was money and told her my views on the matter (stuff I told her before but clarified it really well this time). I basically told her that I won't be asking or requesting ****** from her because it makes me feel like a asshole, and I hate doing it. I told her she can do things on her own accord and we will see what happens. Told her to try and get more rides from her lazy mom and brothers so we avoid problems and ease up lives for the both of us. She seemed to be happy and understanding, so we will see what happens. Also told her that if she was a good friend/gf she would see what my needs are and try and help me in whichever way she could and gave her a little speech about equality (and out of all people she should know something about this as she comes from a family/culture that makes her a minion to her family, never seen a mom and brothers command a sister/daughter as much or anyone in a family ever like they do her).
Man what a waste of time for this, but this thread made my whole day at work flyby thanks guys. Ill update of course if it happens again. And my sex drive is fine thank you very much.
Ok so here it is. Me and my gf have been seeing each other for a year. She recently moved out of the city into the suburbs, it's around a 25-26 km drive 1 way. She has no drivers license. Before she made the move, our concern was how we are going to see each other with the distance between us, so she made plans of getting rides once in a while from her mom/dad/brother#1/brother#2 which each btw have their own car (and yes her family has a lot of money, they have 4 cars and just dropped 700 k into a new house). She moves away, and what happens? She doesnt get any rides almost at all, her brothers always make up excuses or her parents are busy etc (I really doubt she even tries hard at all to get them to drive her). So every weekend and usually at least once during the week, we plan stuff out and spend time together. Spending time together consists of me driving to her house, picking her up, driving around the city etc, then driving her back and coming home.
I just recently bought my first car also, and have been introduced to the harsh reality world of paying a mini rent on my car every month. I suggested to her nicely a month or so back that it would help out of she pitched in a bit for gas here and there, since I am 95 % of her transportation source, and it's costing me a bit. She agreed when I told her and said she would, so time flies by and she is not giving me anything. I feel like a jackass breaking it out again and asking her about it, making me feel like a total asshole, but this chick is just not getting it into her head. She calls me a cheap and a jew (meanwhile every time we do go out I pay for her most of the time and cover all expenses, eg movies, eating out, blockbuster, buying random little things here and there, etc.
Am I doing something wrong here? This is also the type of chick that the moment she gets a drivers license her dad will buy her a car right away and let her drive, so why is she making such a big deal about gas?
A good friend of mine said I trained that dog bad and did not establish the ground rules 1-2 months into the relationship, and now she expects it and is used to it.
CLIFFS
-GF moved to suburbs 25-26 km drive 1 way
-GF says she will try to get rides from one of her 4 family members with cars
-GF doesnt live up to promise
-Asked GF to pitch in for gas since 95 % of the time we do see each other is thanks to me and I am her means of transportation
-GF qq's like an idiot and calls me cheap and makes me feel bad
UPDATE
She called me today on my break at work and we talked. She said she was pissed off yesterday during our arguement and said she is going to pitch in and wants to pitch in whenever she has the money. I told her that the last thing I expected to argue about in this relationship was money and told her my views on the matter (stuff I told her before but clarified it really well this time). I basically told her that I won't be asking or requesting ****** from her because it makes me feel like a asshole, and I hate doing it. I told her she can do things on her own accord and we will see what happens. Told her to try and get more rides from her lazy mom and brothers so we avoid problems and ease up lives for the both of us. She seemed to be happy and understanding, so we will see what happens. Also told her that if she was a good friend/gf she would see what my needs are and try and help me in whichever way she could and gave her a little speech about equality (and out of all people she should know something about this as she comes from a family/culture that makes her a minion to her family, never seen a mom and brothers command a sister/daughter as much or anyone in a family ever like they do her).
Man what a waste of time for this, but this thread made my whole day at work flyby thanks guys. Ill update of course if it happens again. And my sex drive is fine thank you very much.