My girl friends cheating on me with another woman...

[Aenslead]

My girlfriend says you're right and that you did right.

I say the opposite: you missed a *great* chance

 

[OutHouse]

put your updates in your OP so we wont have to go fishing through 200 post for your update.

 

[mi xiao]

Originally posted by: Aenslead
My girlfriend says you're right and that you did right.

I say the opposite: you missed a *great* chance

i hope you told her otherwise.

 

[EmperorIQ]

don't go back to her. What if next time the girls at the salon said that having sex with a particular guy is great? Will she try it before you guys get married? I mean, her current logic is "we're getting too serious, so I decided to do this one last thing." So before you get married what will be her logic then? "We're getting married, I want to have sex with this one guy before I'm fully commited?"

 

[MrCodeDude]

You left the room. Idiot. She may be cheating, but when she's cheating with a hot chick, it's an exception to the rule!

 

[Muadib]

Originally posted by: MrCodeDude
You left the room. Idiot. She may be cheating, but when she's cheating with a hot chick, it's an exception to the rule!

BULLSH$%, here's a newsflash for you. Most of the women who do this sort of thing aren't looking for male involvement. They want your girl just as much, if not more than you do. What do you do then huh?

 

[SMOGZINN]

Let me preface this by saying that I am a bitter old man, so take my advise as what it is, overly cynical.

Personally I don't think she can be trusted. Call me a product of the AIDS scare generation, but this is the type of thing that a couple should fist talk about. It invites risk into your life so she can satisfy a curiosity.

Have you asked yourself what would have happened if she did like it? Would you have simply been dumped? Are you sure that she isn't just leading you on?

From your post it sounds like the two of you do not have a sexual relationship yet. If that is so, then she just gave it up to a one night stand, and left you hanging. I understand the value of taking it slow and building a relationship first, but for that to work both parties have to at least pretend that sex is a special event.

hmm... I have way more that I could say on this topic, but I think I have to many personal issues with this specific issue to give any good advise.

So let me just tell you my experiance.
I had something similar happen. I choose to forgive her, and after a lot of talk we decided that I would open our relationship up to same-sex encounters (not that I would ever do that, but it had to be at least theoreticly equal relationship)
After a few months she settled into a relationship with a girl. There was many hurt feeling between all of us, as we struggled to find some kind of working relationship between 3 people with my (our) girlfriend between. Truthfully, we never did. In the end my GF was forced to choose between me and her. I ended up staying with her for another 10 years or so, until she left me. But it changed our relationship forever, much of the trust was lost, and I belive that most of our problems at the end of our relationship can be traced back to that time.

Here is to hopeing yours comes out better.

 

[imported_Kensai]

:camera:

 

[Geekbabe]

What happened after you woke up ?

lol !!

 

[petejk]

honesly...just drop her ass and move on...

why would you want to continue a relationship with this woman.


if you want to ruin your life...get back with her.



Life goes on. You need your heart broken so the next few relationships don't hurt.

 

[jinduy]

Originally posted by: rpbri2886
True love is hard to find, sometimes you think you have true love and then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blindfolded like a goddamn magic show ready to double team your girlfriend...

lmao.. ouch.

 

[Queasy]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
What happened after you woke up ?

lol !!

He had to wash the sheets.

 

[tooltime]

that would freak me out...at first...will you get over it? it may take a little longer but i think you may

 

[Chode Messiah]

pics?

 

[jammur21]

Originally posted by: m2kewl
opportunity for a threesome and your complaining???!!! omg omg!

QFT

 

[Lorn]

Originally posted by: Son of a N00b
I have been dating my girl friend for about eight months now and we have been getting really serious. She is the first woman that I have really felt this way about, not just puppy love type of thing. One time we were on a date and we had one of those moments where you just talk and connect with eachother and it just feels amazing. That was a month ago, and after that i felt like she was the one for me, without even having to think about it. We know eachother so well, or so I thought i guess.

So she gave me the key to her apartment a while ago, and it was fun to go over and just hang out with her. I gave her mine also and she would surprise me and come over and cook dinner ect....thats when we were not fooling around. I even started day dreaming about how i would ask her to marry me after we lived together longer...

So i went on business last thursday to PA, and was staying in a hotel there, and I called her a lot, but still missed her. So instead of staying there one last night (all the business stuff was taken care of) to play golf with my boss and some co workers the next morning I drove back at about 8PM. So i go straight to her place, expecting to surprise her with this CD that she was eyeing that i bought for her in a music store near the hotel there, so its about 10:30 when I get to her place and I walk about to the door quietly and slip the key in the door as smoothly as i could, it was dark so i figured she might already be asleep. I walked in and saw the light was on in the bedroom. I go in and saw her with another woman under the sheets...i just sort of reacted wtihout thinking, and today it still feels like a dream, I backed out and i cant remember if i closed the door or not and back to my car, from there I called her with my cell phone...i told her and she said she saw me, and just repeated she was sorry. I told her I couldnt talk now and hung up. She left a message on my phone that she feels horrible and that I should call her today when I get to it.

I feel like crap, almost in a shell shock and like my whole world is messed up now, like ive based my life (at least my love life) on something non exsistant...I went straight to sleep yesterday and slept to noon today becuase that was the only thing i wanted to do, and they only way i wouldnt have to face it. so right now i am sitting here typing this because I do not feel like doing anything else andits helping em sort stuff out rehashing it. But i feel so weird. I guess i should call her today and see what she says but i am really dreading it...i think id rather just go back to work forever and not have a love life now.

I fell pretty tired so i might just go back to sleep now and see how i feel afterwards, i do nto know what to do now...


EDIT: i just called her...she said that she was going to tell me that she slept with another woman after she got back....she is not a lesbian (or for at least what i know)
anyway she says she was curious becuase she had friends at work always talking about getting it on with another women(she works at a hair salon), and since she thought we were getting really serious it might be her last chance. She said she did not know how to tell me so she just tried it, she said she did not do much, and the woman was one of her firends that i might have seen before at a new years party that i guess is a lesbian...

anyways she said she did not like it, and that i mean a lot to her and she wished she was not so stupid to do it in the frist place...there is more but i do not feel like typing (cant beleiev i posted this in the first place, but i dont wanna be called syringer)

so anyways im feeling a bit better, but i still cannot believe she would do something like this. I mean i would have never imagined this happening, so i am still a bit hesitant, and I sill love her, but I really do not know if i want to proceede. So i am having dinner with her tonight at this diner we like to go to to talk face to face as she put it...so we shall see, in the mean time I am going to keep myself busy with work...

BTW lol for all those who say i shoulda jumped in with them, that is just not me, i think atrue relationship can only be shared between 2 people...but hey, i already turned in my mancard when i admitted i sort of liked the english patient...

also to the confusion about living together, yes we have our seperate places now, but in the future i would like to live with her a bit before asking her to marry me...I mean its only been 8 months or so, id at least wait a year and a half before rushing into something like that....

but i still cannot see how she can sleep with another woman once, i mean i though she was not that type, ive seen woman that have been. I wouldnt try it with a man because I was serious??

You need to move on, guy. She slept with another woman but shes not a lesbian and she didn't like it? At what point did she decide she didn't like it... before or after she got naked under the sheets with her?

 

[lavagirl669]

that seriously sucks...and there should definitely be some trust issues
with her from now on....I would probably move on if I were you.

Tough when you're in love though....*sigh*

 

[Diasper]

Her reasons sound BS. She sounds like she's just lying to you and has probably been cheating all through your relationship.

Where did this girl come from? ..undoubtedly she knew her before etc so when can you say the relationship started.

Don't be a shmuck and let her play you - walk away. Don't even bother talking it out with her unless you need to - let her stew in her own unresolved guilt.

Don't trust a cheater.

 

[Doboji]

This thread is SHENS.... now with 100% more proof

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[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: Doboji
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I bet he has neither a GF or a Wife. This loser is just looking for attention and acceptence among his jack sock hoarding peers and what better way to gain it than by fueling their sexual fanatasies enabling them to spend more hours alone in the bathroom.

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Doboji
This thread is SHENS.... now with 100% more proof

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I bet he has neither a GF or a Wife. This loser is just looking for attention and acceptence among his jack sock hoarding peers and what better way to gain it than by fueling their sexual fanatasies enabling them to spend more hours alone in the bathroom.

Attention whores galore around here lately.... not sure why the sudden explosion of such elaborate attention whoring BS, I guess nowheremom really is missed.

-Max

 

[VoteQuimby]

Originally posted by: SMOGZINN

Have you asked yourself what would have happened if she did like it? Would you have simply been dumped? Are you sure that she isn't just leading you on?

That rite there is a very important question you need to ask her. Personally I would treat this the same as if she cheated on you with another guy. She just through away most if not all of your trust in her. I've never been in a situation like this before but I would come up with a number of questions to ask her, and based on those answers you should have a clear indication of what you need to do.

Good luck at dinner

 

[RagingBITCH]

BTW lol for all those who say i shoulda jumped in with them, that is just not me, i think atrue relationship can only be shared between 2 people...but hey, i already turned in my mancard when i admitted i sort of liked the english patient...

That's bullsh!t. You wouldn't give her a chance if a true relationship is shared only between two people. Either you believe in that and she's a goner, or you accept cheating as part of a relationship

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: jinduy

Originally posted by: rpbri2886
True love is hard to find, sometimes you think you have true love and then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blindfolded like a goddamn magic show ready to double team your girlfriend...

lmao.. ouch.

bwahahhaah!

 

[SVT Cobra]

Originally posted by: Doboji

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Doboji
This thread is SHENS.... now with 100% more proof

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I bet he has neither a GF or a Wife. This loser is just looking for attention and acceptence among his jack sock hoarding peers and what better way to gain it than by fueling their sexual fanatasies enabling them to spend more hours alone in the bathroom.

Attention whores galore around here lately.... not sure why the sudden explosion of such elaborate attention whoring BS, I guess nowheremom really is missed.

-Max

i used to call her my wife asshole...we had a sexual relationship and i would spend the weekends...i felt that close to her, so online, she was my wife

if you wanna call shens i could understand why though, not like it matters...