My world is caving in.....

[BooGiMaN]

plenty o'poon in the sea...

 

[Mr N8]

Originally posted by: Nikamichi

Originally posted by: Eghck

Originally posted by: Mr N8
Did she ask you to move with her? It seems that it's not worth the bigger troubles that would be headed your way if you moved with her. She's sold out to the cause (not saying it's good or bad), and you are not the focus of her attention anymore. Sell your house, do what you want to do, and hopefully you will find someone better.

As much as it hurts to see her go, it will most likely be worse if you try to follow her.

I think this is good advice, cept for the selling the house part, that part you should figure out on your own.

:thumbsup:

Yeah, you're right about the house part. I would personally sell it as part of getting over her. However, if you can't afford it, maybe get a roommate to help with the payments. Rent the room, if possible, then you are the sole owner of the house and all the equity that you build.

 

[Ausm]

Try getting dumped after 15 years of marriage.




Ausm

 

[doze]

That sux man, sounds like she's trying to "figure herself out" or something. Maybe she will change her mind after spending a little time out there

 

[xSkyDrAx]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
Two words.

Be-er.

Fixed. :beer: Best of luck to you buddy.

 

[kumanchu]

iono man, the sudden change of heart by your SO seems to smell of other problems (on her side perhaps) in the relationship.

i would probably probe a bit more and find out what brought her to this point. finding her calling does not mean an end to a relationship, it sounds more like an excuse given the circumstances framing the dumping. i don't question that she's found her calling, but rather that she's using it to break up with you.

i'm going to guess buying the house could have made her feel like she was in over her head, and this is some sort of way to get out of the relationship before she feels it is too late. hopefully both of your names (since you bought it "together") are on the mortgage (if you mortgaged) so you won't be in financial straits for the time being.

hope things get better.

 

[Taggart]

Start drinking. Heavily.

:beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer:

 

[iroast]

Some sound advices in here.

She didn't ask you to move with her. If you do, you'll probably just be in her way. Keep the house, rent out rooms and find someone else. Oh, and don't forget to update your docs so that only you are the only owner of the house.

Good luck. You'll be fine.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot
Just venting here...
My girlfriend for 3 years and I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with is deciding to leave me for better cause. Shes been gone overseas for a month now to Sri Lanka. Shes really involved in this budist relief org (Tzu Chi) with her parents and wants to follow this path. She found her calling I would say.
I just got a email from her staying she decided to move to Taiwan with her parents and help with the relief.
We just bought a house together 4 months ago and planning on marrying. Before she left we were so good, so perfect and happy. I'm willing to sell the house and move with her. But I'm not sure how she feels about that. I feel my world is caving in and I can't live without her.

See how she feels about it. Call her. Talk to her about it. Good luck.

 

[jEnus]

Sadly, some things are never meant to be. But it sounds like her parents had something to do w/ it.

 

[MadPeriot]

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: Nikamichi

Originally posted by: Eghck

Originally posted by: Mr N8
Did she ask you to move with her? It seems that it's not worth the bigger troubles that would be headed your way if you moved with her. She's sold out to the cause (not saying it's good or bad), and you are not the focus of her attention anymore. Sell your house, do what you want to do, and hopefully you will find someone better.

As much as it hurts to see her go, it will most likely be worse if you try to follow her.

I think this is good advice, cept for the selling the house part, that part you should figure out on your own.

:thumbsup:

wait a second....how did she say she was breaking up with you? Did she actually say 'farewell i'm moving to taiwan' or 'i really am enthusiastic about this cause, so I'm going to move to taiwan'? It sounds like she may be expecting you to come with her

ORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR


she's making it up and trying to ditch you. I'd proceed with an open mind to either

No, she didn't say to break up. She just said she found her calling and wanted me to understand that this is something she wanted to do. She already enrolled for schooling in this type of work in Feb for 3 months. I am confused where we stand.

When I said we bought a house together it was all me and with my own money. She was with me and helped me alone the way. I decided to purchase a house was so that we can be stable and marry someday.

 

[MadPeriot]

Originally posted by: Lizardman

Originally posted by: MadPeriot
Just venting here...
My girlfriend for 3 years and I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with is deciding to leave me for better cause. Shes been gone overseas for a month now to Sri Lanka. Shes really involved in this budist relief org (Tzu Chi) with her parents and wants to follow this path. She found her calling I would say.
I just got a email from her staying she decided to move to Taiwan with her parents and help with the relief.
We just bought a house together 4 months ago and planning on marrying. Before she left we were so good, so perfect and happy. I'm willing to sell the house and move with her. But I'm not sure how she feels about that. I feel my world is caving in and I can't live without her.

Whoa... somebody got brainwashed. and fast!

Thats what I'm saying!!!!! We always made decisions together, but I know how she is, she follows her heart and a very good heart she has. I can truely say she made me a changed man. I used to be like YOU GUYS (j/k) selfish and think for myself. Money was my goal. But since I've met her she made me realized whats more important, to be humble and open mind.

 

[MadPeriot]

Originally posted by: Ausm
Try getting dumped after 15 years of marriage.




Ausm

I can't even imagine.

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot

Originally posted by: Lizardman

Originally posted by: MadPeriot
Just venting here...
My girlfriend for 3 years and I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with is deciding to leave me for better cause. Shes been gone overseas for a month now to Sri Lanka. Shes really involved in this budist relief org (Tzu Chi) with her parents and wants to follow this path. She found her calling I would say.
I just got a email from her staying she decided to move to Taiwan with her parents and help with the relief.
We just bought a house together 4 months ago and planning on marrying. Before she left we were so good, so perfect and happy. I'm willing to sell the house and move with her. But I'm not sure how she feels about that. I feel my world is caving in and I can't live without her.

Whoa... somebody got brainwashed. and fast!

Thats what I'm saying!!!!! We always made decisions together, but I know how she is, she follows her heart and a very good heart she has. I can truely say she made me a changed man. I used to be like YOU GUYS (j/k) selfish and think for myself. Money was my goal. But since I've met her she made me realized whats more important, to be humble and open mind.

You forgot "being a pussy" in your "revelation" statement.

 

It's very apparent that you want to spend the rest of your life with her in the proper situation.
Since it's not working that way, you should probably move on with your life.
Being single with money can be a very fun time. You only live once.

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I am so sorry.
That is so horrible for you. When you put your trust into another person and then something like this happens.
I hope this works out for you.

ROFL @ your sig.

 

[dirtboy]

You feel your world is caving in because you're dependant on her.

Get some friends.
Get some alcohol.
Get a Xbox 360.

Start having fun!

 

[jadinolf]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
Two words.

Strip club.

or.

Six Pack.

 

[Suspicious-Teach8788]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot
Just venting here...
My girlfriend for 3 years and I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with is deciding to leave me for better cause. Shes been gone overseas for a month now to Sri Lanka. Shes really involved in this budist relief org (Tzu Chi) with her parents and wants to follow this path. She found her calling I would say.
I just got a email from her staying she decided to move to Taiwan with her parents and help with the relief.
We just bought a house together 4 months ago and planning on marrying. Before she left we were so good, so perfect and happy. I'm willing to sell the house and move with her. But I'm not sure how she feels about that. I feel my world is caving in and I can't live without her.

I did Tzu Chi for 8 years in my life? Gotta say it was fun and enjoyable, but my life didn't change too much when I stopped. Somehow I find APhiO to be a better experience for volunteer work, but yea.. I guess if you're serious it really envelops you.. =(

Sorry.

 

[oboeguy]

Originally posted by: Phoenix86
Honestly, I think it's a bad idea to move to her.

She's already shown she doesn't care for you, and to top it off, she sent you a dear john via e-mail.

++

 

[Eli]

Join the club.

It's been about 2 months since something similar happened to me.

It gets better.

 

[Pepsei]

just looked up tzu chi, wow, that's a hard core group dedicated to helping people... good for her i guess....

 

[darkxshade]

bah... women... you can't live with em, you can't live without em.

 

[Sex Smurf]

Rent out the rooms to college girls who will strip in front of web cams. Then after you're making mucho $$ from this venture, send your EX-gf the url to your site to show her all the fun you're having.

 

[sandorski]

That sucks dude.