My world is caving in.....

[MadPeriot]

Just venting here...
My girlfriend for 3 years and I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with is deciding to leave me for better cause. Shes been gone overseas for a month now to Sri Lanka. Shes really involved in this budist relief org (Tzu Chi) with her parents and wants to follow this path. She found her calling I would say.
I just got a email from her staying she decided to move to Taiwan with her parents and help with the relief.
We just bought a house together 4 months ago and planning on marrying. Before she left we were so good, so perfect and happy. I'm willing to sell the house and move with her. But I'm not sure how she feels about that. I feel my world is caving in and I can't live without her.

** UPDATE **
I finally called her in Taiwan and surprisingly she picked up. I started telling her that I'm happy for her that she is following her heart and I wouldn't want it any other way. She thanked me for my support. Then I started to question where do we stand..and she said she needed my blessing to let her be and follow this path. I tried pleading with her that if she was to live a filfilling and rewarding life, please take me with you and end my unsatificatory peon lifestyle.
She then went on stating she needs to do this alone, she had devoted herself to learn and be humbled to this society. Having a relationship only gives her pressure and distraction. I then understood that this is the very reason I loved her...and I gave her my blessing and let her go.
I'm not sad that we're not together, but I'm sad that I will miss her deeply.

Christine

 

[Ryan]

Why did you buy a house without being married? Why commit to a woman who is more comitted to her parents than you?

 

[GT1999]

Two words.

Strip club.

 

[Genx87]

Sometimes you have to lookout for #1. If you think becoming a relief worker is something you can do for the rest of your life then go for it. If that lifestyle turns you off, let her go because if you follow you will not be happy and the relationship will fall apart anyways with you being 5000 miles from home with almost no money.

 

[imported_ALien]

:frown:




:beer:

 

[loup garou]

You got dumped by email by a 3-year girlfriend? That's ****** low.

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot
Just venting here...
My girlfriend for 3 years and I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with is deciding to leave me for better cause. Shes been gone overseas for a month now to Sri Lanka. Shes really involved in this budist relief org (Tzu Chi) with her parents and wants to follow this path. She found her calling I would say.
I just got a email from her staying she decided to move to Taiwan with her parents and help with the relief.
We just bought a house together 4 months ago and planning on marrying. Before she left we were so good, so perfect and happy. I'm willing to sell the house and move with her. But I'm not sure how she feels about that. I feel my world is caving in and I can't live without her.

Either move with her or break up. You were the one who purchased a house with her without being married first. That was YOUR BAD!

If I were you I'd be happy that she "found her calling" hell, if you truly love her you'd want her to be at her happiest. If that means not being with you then so be it. Any other way would just be selfish.

If you "can't live with her" then I think it's time for you to go in for some treatment; really, that's sad.

 

[Lola]

I am so sorry.
That is so horrible for you. When you put your trust into another person and then something like this happens.
I hope this works out for you.

 

[Remy XO]

That sucks, now your house is left for many other girls.

 

[Skunkwourk]

Originally posted by: Ryan
Why did you buy a house without being married? Why commit to a woman who is more comitted to her parents than you?

wondering about the first statement also. Sorry to hear about that, but you should probably figure out your finances asap. Did you tell her you would move to be with her?

 

[Remy XO]

oh and by the way, although she has a huge interest in doing this relief work, she will later relize that she won't be wanting to do that all her life and probably try to find you again.

 

[notfred]

It's not worth moving around the world for a woman. Unless you actually think you'd like Taiwan, don't do it. Besides, she's already shown that you're not her first priority - she cares more about working with this releif organization.

I know that what you're going through sucks. I've done it before, as have a lot of us (look around OT lately, there are a ton of breakup threads in the last few days). But if you give it a few months, you'll be feeling a lot better, and there really are plenty of other women out there. How many people do you know that end up single, really? Almost everyone gets married, and most of them went through crappy breakups at some point in thier lives. You can find someone else.

 

[Phoenix86]

Honestly, I think it's a bad idea to move to her.

She's already shown she doesn't care for you, and to top it off, she sent you a dear john via e-mail.

 

[Mrfrog840]

Originally posted by: AaronLien
:frown:




:beer:

true

 

[Nikamichi]

Originally posted by: Remy XO
oh and by the way, although she has a huge interest in doing this relief work, she will later relize that she won't be wanting to do that all her life and probably try to find you again.

That is a very good possibility. But right now, he has to worry about finding stability.

 

[Lizardman]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot
Just venting here...
My girlfriend for 3 years and I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with is deciding to leave me for better cause. Shes been gone overseas for a month now to Sri Lanka. Shes really involved in this budist relief org (Tzu Chi) with her parents and wants to follow this path. She found her calling I would say.
I just got a email from her staying she decided to move to Taiwan with her parents and help with the relief.
We just bought a house together 4 months ago and planning on marrying. Before she left we were so good, so perfect and happy. I'm willing to sell the house and move with her. But I'm not sure how she feels about that. I feel my world is caving in and I can't live without her.

Whoa... somebody got brainwashed. and fast!

 

[Mr N8]

Did she ask you to move with her? It seems that it's not worth the bigger troubles that would be headed your way if you moved with her. She's sold out to the cause (not saying it's good or bad), and you are not the focus of her attention anymore. Sell your house, do what you want to do, and hopefully you will find someone better.

As much as it hurts to see her go, it will most likely be worse if you try to follow her.

 

[Bumrush99]

Patience is what you need right now. Let her experience what she needs to experience. If you are meant to be with each other things will work out. If she doesn't care about you or refuses to see your side, then move on. She obviously is going through something profound that you have no say in. Let it rest for now, do not move there for her, heck she wasn't thinking about you when she decided to stay and leave you with your new house alone.

 

[Skunkwourk]

Originally posted by: Mr N8
Did she ask you to move with her? It seems that it's not worth the bigger troubles that would be headed your way if you moved with her. She's sold out to the cause (not saying it's good or bad), and you are not the focus of her attention anymore. Sell your house, do what you want to do, and hopefully you will find someone better.

As much as it hurts to see her go, it will most likely be worse if you try to follow her.

I think this is good advice, cept for the selling the house part, that part you should figure out on your own.

 

[Nikamichi]

Originally posted by: Eghck

Originally posted by: Mr N8
Did she ask you to move with her? It seems that it's not worth the bigger troubles that would be headed your way if you moved with her. She's sold out to the cause (not saying it's good or bad), and you are not the focus of her attention anymore. Sell your house, do what you want to do, and hopefully you will find someone better.

As much as it hurts to see her go, it will most likely be worse if you try to follow her.

I think this is good advice, cept for the selling the house part, that part you should figure out on your own.

:thumbsup:

 

[Pepsei]

ok, Taiwan isn't that bad of a country to move to compare to say.. sri lanka... but then again, i think arthur c clark lives in sri lanka eh?

who knows, maybe you can hook up with some good looking chicks.

if you need a job, think about teaching english, you only need a BS in college or pay about $249 to pass a teaching certification test. you don't make much if you go thru an agency, but it is a start.

 

[bigrash]

sorry to hear that man. I've been there many times. Just hang in there!

 

[Juno]

keep the house and throw in some keg parties.

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: Nikamichi

Originally posted by: Eghck

Originally posted by: Mr N8
Did she ask you to move with her? It seems that it's not worth the bigger troubles that would be headed your way if you moved with her. She's sold out to the cause (not saying it's good or bad), and you are not the focus of her attention anymore. Sell your house, do what you want to do, and hopefully you will find someone better.

As much as it hurts to see her go, it will most likely be worse if you try to follow her.

I think this is good advice, cept for the selling the house part, that part you should figure out on your own.

:thumbsup:

wait a second....how did she say she was breaking up with you? Did she actually say 'farewell i'm moving to taiwan' or 'i really am enthusiastic about this cause, so I'm going to move to taiwan'? It sounds like she may be expecting you to come with her

ORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR


she's making it up and trying to ditch you. I'd proceed with an open mind to either

 

[EPCrew]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
Two words.

Strip club.

haahahahaa...