Originally posted by: TitanDiddly
Update Req'd
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
OH and BD, the date was supposed to be over dinner , 8 PM isn't too late.
It's actually the time we agreed on before.
Originally posted by: BD2003
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
OH and BD, the date was supposed to be over dinner , 8 PM isn't too late.
It's actually the time we agreed on before.
That doesnt mean you should call her a half hour before that. You should have called her early afternoon around lunchtime.
Seriously dude, I give up. You don't want it bad enough. All youve got is excuses. Right now youre sitting here convincing yourself that she is the one missing out and that she is making a big mistake, when I really dont think she is. Youre sitting here telling yourself that she is the bad one here, that she isnt doing her part, that she should be doing so and so, when in the end, it all boils down to the plain and simple fact that if *YOU* want her, *YOU* have to go get her.
Ive come out of job interviews telling myself the same things. "If only they gave me a chance, they would see how great a worker I am. Oh well their loss, besides I didnt REALLY want the job anyway." Now when I go for job interviews, I have my mind set on it, and I do every possible thing I can to make it happen, because I am not going to sit and just wait for it to come to me.
God forbid she actually found this thread, I think she would run away so fast and so far that she would end up hitting you in the back and knocking you over.
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: BD2003
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
OH and BD, the date was supposed to be over dinner , 8 PM isn't too late.
It's actually the time we agreed on before.
That doesnt mean you should call her a half hour before that. You should have called her early afternoon around lunchtime.
Seriously dude, I give up. You don't want it bad enough. All youve got is excuses. Right now youre sitting here convincing yourself that she is the one missing out and that she is making a big mistake, when I really dont think she is. Youre sitting here telling yourself that she is the bad one here, that she isnt doing her part, that she should be doing so and so, when in the end, it all boils down to the plain and simple fact that if *YOU* want her, *YOU* have to go get her.
Ive come out of job interviews telling myself the same things. "If only they gave me a chance, they would see how great a worker I am. Oh well their loss, besides I didnt REALLY want the job anyway." Now when I go for job interviews, I have my mind set on it, and I do every possible thing I can to make it happen, because I am not going to sit and just wait for it to come to me.
God forbid she actually found this thread, I think she would run away so fast and so far that she would end up hitting you in the back and knocking you over.
:laugh:
I hope she does find this thread when she is doing a random search on google for PURSES , at least she would know that I busted my ass becasue of how much I cared for her, and how close she got to meet a guy that would have appreciated her, for me if she doesn't do her part then it's all done. If she really cares she would at least have some decensy to call me back after I have tried to reach her, seriously what does that mean to you ? I don't care how much experience you have, but if a girl doesn't give you a call back after you have tried to reach her then she isn't worth it.
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: BD2003
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
OH and BD, the date was supposed to be over dinner , 8 PM isn't too late.
It's actually the time we agreed on before.
That doesnt mean you should call her a half hour before that. You should have called her early afternoon around lunchtime.
Seriously dude, I give up. You don't want it bad enough. All youve got is excuses. Right now youre sitting here convincing yourself that she is the one missing out and that she is making a big mistake, when I really dont think she is. Youre sitting here telling yourself that she is the bad one here, that she isnt doing her part, that she should be doing so and so, when in the end, it all boils down to the plain and simple fact that if *YOU* want her, *YOU* have to go get her.
Ive come out of job interviews telling myself the same things. "If only they gave me a chance, they would see how great a worker I am. Oh well their loss, besides I didnt REALLY want the job anyway." Now when I go for job interviews, I have my mind set on it, and I do every possible thing I can to make it happen, because I am not going to sit and just wait for it to come to me.
God forbid she actually found this thread, I think she would run away so fast and so far that she would end up hitting you in the back and knocking you over.
:laugh:
I hope she does find this thread when she is doing a random search on google for PURSES , at least she would know that I busted my ass becasue of how much I cared for her, and how close she got to meet a guy that would have appreciated her, for me if she doesn't do her part then it's all done. If she really cares she would at least have some decensy to call me back after I have tried to reach her, seriously what does that mean to you ? I don't care how much experience you have, but if a girl doesn't give you a call back after you have tried to reach her then she isn't worth it.
Originally posted by: BD2003
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: BD2003
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
OH and BD, the date was supposed to be over dinner , 8 PM isn't too late.
It's actually the time we agreed on before.
That doesnt mean you should call her a half hour before that. You should have called her early afternoon around lunchtime.
Seriously dude, I give up. You don't want it bad enough. All youve got is excuses. Right now youre sitting here convincing yourself that she is the one missing out and that she is making a big mistake, when I really dont think she is. Youre sitting here telling yourself that she is the bad one here, that she isnt doing her part, that she should be doing so and so, when in the end, it all boils down to the plain and simple fact that if *YOU* want her, *YOU* have to go get her.
Ive come out of job interviews telling myself the same things. "If only they gave me a chance, they would see how great a worker I am. Oh well their loss, besides I didnt REALLY want the job anyway." Now when I go for job interviews, I have my mind set on it, and I do every possible thing I can to make it happen, because I am not going to sit and just wait for it to come to me.
God forbid she actually found this thread, I think she would run away so fast and so far that she would end up hitting you in the back and knocking you over.
:laugh:
I hope she does find this thread when she is doing a random search on google for PURSES , at least she would know that I busted my ass becasue of how much I cared for her, and how close she got to meet a guy that would have appreciated her, for me if she doesn't do her part then it's all done. If she really cares she would at least have some decensy to call me back after I have tried to reach her, seriously what does that mean to you ? I don't care how much experience you have, but if a girl doesn't give you a call back after you have tried to reach her then she isn't worth it.
And this is precisely why I, and everyone else, should give up on you.
Originally posted by: joshsquall
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: BD2003
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
OH and BD, the date was supposed to be over dinner , 8 PM isn't too late.
It's actually the time we agreed on before.
That doesnt mean you should call her a half hour before that. You should have called her early afternoon around lunchtime.
Seriously dude, I give up. You don't want it bad enough. All youve got is excuses. Right now youre sitting here convincing yourself that she is the one missing out and that she is making a big mistake, when I really dont think she is. Youre sitting here telling yourself that she is the bad one here, that she isnt doing her part, that she should be doing so and so, when in the end, it all boils down to the plain and simple fact that if *YOU* want her, *YOU* have to go get her.
Ive come out of job interviews telling myself the same things. "If only they gave me a chance, they would see how great a worker I am. Oh well their loss, besides I didnt REALLY want the job anyway." Now when I go for job interviews, I have my mind set on it, and I do every possible thing I can to make it happen, because I am not going to sit and just wait for it to come to me.
God forbid she actually found this thread, I think she would run away so fast and so far that she would end up hitting you in the back and knocking you over.
:laugh:
I hope she does find this thread when she is doing a random search on google for PURSES , at least she would know that I busted my ass becasue of how much I cared for her, and how close she got to meet a guy that would have appreciated her, for me if she doesn't do her part then it's all done. If she really cares she would at least have some decensy to call me back after I have tried to reach her, seriously what does that mean to you ? I don't care how much experience you have, but if a girl doesn't give you a call back after you have tried to reach her then she isn't worth it.
So what happened? She just never called?
Originally posted by: Schfifty Five
My God you have some serious problems with yourself. You should really see a shrink. Not joking.
What I don't understand w/ the whole applebee's dinner date thing is, why would you call her again and ASK if she was coming out that night? Didn't you already set a time/date etc and confirmed it? I mean you did say "hey, would you like to go out to dinner on this day at that restaruant, I will pick you up at this time" etc etc? It sounds like you keep beating around the bush when trying to ask her out.
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: Schfifty Five
My God you have some serious problems with yourself. You should really see a shrink. Not joking.
What I don't understand w/ the whole applebee's dinner date thing is, why would you call her again and ASK if she was coming out that night? Didn't you already set a time/date etc and confirmed it? I mean you did say "hey, would you like to go out to dinner on this day at that restaruant, I will pick you up at this time" etc etc? It sounds like you keep beating around the bush when trying to ask her out.
Let me explain :
- There are tons of applebee's around I didn't specify one and that's what I was intending by calling her.
- We agreed on a time but not on the place.
- She was to call me back so we can discuss that day's plan further.
- I even took the initative again to call her again and see why she didn't call yet.
- she didn't call back .
- I left her a missed call and she didn't even bother picking up the phone next day to see what's up ? Did she expect me to call her again when she didn't answer ?
January 03
Well, I called her Monday around 7:45 PM, she didn't answer , today had passed she didn't give me a call back.
I am supposed to go to work today, I really don't know what she is going to say or do.
I am expecting some half-assed execuse from her, if she appologizes for not calling back and sets some date when she is not busy, we'll go out, if she just doesn't bring it up, I am afraid tough sht, I don't care anymore.
Today I decided I want my normal ME again, I went out and played soccer with some friends, and ATM I am hangning out at my favorite coffee shop enjoying my time (which includes but not exclusive too listening to / mixing some kick ass Trance records , sipping coffee and bothering the hell out of my buddies that work there ).
I already feel I am over her, but I have a bad feeling that I might be dragged all over again into all of this once she talks to me again today, only time will tell, if she acts like a snob today I am all for that, if she acts reasonable I will too.
Originally posted by: Schfifty Five
January 03
Well, I called her Monday around 7:45 PM, she didn't answer , today had passed she didn't give me a call back.
I am supposed to go to work today, I really don't know what she is going to say or do.
I am expecting some half-assed execuse from her, if she appologizes for not calling back and sets some date when she is not busy, we'll go out, if she just doesn't bring it up, I am afraid tough sht, I don't care anymore.
Today I decided I want my normal ME again, I went out and played soccer with some friends, and ATM I am hangning out at my favorite coffee shop enjoying my time (which includes but not exclusive too listening to / mixing some kick ass Trance records , sipping coffee and bothering the hell out of my buddies that work there ).
I already feel I am over her, but I have a bad feeling that I might be dragged all over again into all of this once she talks to me again today, only time will tell, if she acts like a snob today I am all for that, if she acts reasonable I will too.
Hmm...you make it sound like she's this bitch who deserves nothing but the worst, where as it's quite the opposite. She hasn't done anything wrong. You make it sound like she owes you something which she doesn't. So she doens't like you, now you act as if she's trying to hurt you on purpose? (I don't know her, so maybe she is, but I give the benefit of the doubt to people).
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: Remy XO
LOL AT THIS THREAD
GEE THANKS :disgust:
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: Schfifty Five
January 03
Well, I called her Monday around 7:45 PM, she didn't answer , today had passed she didn't give me a call back.
I am supposed to go to work today, I really don't know what she is going to say or do.
I am expecting some half-assed execuse from her, if she appologizes for not calling back and sets some date when she is not busy, we'll go out, if she just doesn't bring it up, I am afraid tough sht, I don't care anymore.
Today I decided I want my normal ME again, I went out and played soccer with some friends, and ATM I am hangning out at my favorite coffee shop enjoying my time (which includes but not exclusive too listening to / mixing some kick ass Trance records , sipping coffee and bothering the hell out of my buddies that work there ).
I already feel I am over her, but I have a bad feeling that I might be dragged all over again into all of this once she talks to me again today, only time will tell, if she acts like a snob today I am all for that, if she acts reasonable I will too.
Hmm...you make it sound like she's this bitch who deserves nothing but the worst, where as it's quite the opposite. She hasn't done anything wrong. You make it sound like she owes you something which she doesn't. So she doens't like you, now you act as if she's trying to hurt you on purpose? (I don't know her, so maybe she is, but I give the benefit of the doubt to people).
Ignoring my phone calls isn't something wrong ? And keep in mind I have called her twice, anymore would get me a restraining order I guess :laugh:
I am afraid I might not be explaining what happened yet accuratly, the only way that I would turn a blind eye to all of this if she tells me that something really bad had happened to her or some family member or something like that and it was totally not the convenient time for her to talk about going out , then maybe I would understand. But telling me with all arrogance that she just looked at my missed calls and ignored them (which I don't think is a far possibility here) is not going to fix this.
Originally posted by: KingofCamelot
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: Remy XO
LOL AT THIS THREAD
GEE THANKS :disgust:
Hes quite right. You said you were going to stop caring if she didn't call on Monday. You are being pathetic and making up excuses for yourself. Man up and do what you said you were going to do, which is stop caring. Which means letting this thread die and not updating it.
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: KingofCamelot
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: Remy XO
LOL AT THIS THREAD
GEE THANKS :disgust:
Hes quite right. You said you were going to stop caring if she didn't call on Monday. You are being pathetic and making up excuses for yourself. Man up and do what you said you were going to do, which is stop caring. Which means letting this thread die and not updating it.
The thread isn't only about if this works or not.
It's about learning from mistakes, my decesion today is absolutley final, there is no going back, the only reason why I called her again was to make BD STFU but since she didn't call back and she called in sick on Saturday I am giving her the benefit of doubt that something could have happened that made it impossible for her to call me back.
I hope nothing happened to her, but if I see her today what ever the outcome is, it's going to be a final outcome , meaning either we go on with this attempt at a stable relationship or this whole thing dies and the thread with it, so for you who want this thread to die hold on till I see her again.
I think this is the open source of dating if one ever existed.
I have never seen anyone post such a detailed experience here on AT (and now I think I know why) , this could become a great lesson for those that have someone who they think "digs them" and want to learn want to do or what not to do.
I am not embarassed about all of this, this is the first that I speak to others about how I feel.
And I think this was a great chance for me to open up and see what others think was wrong or wasn't.
And for you guys that claim that they know how a girl think. I can't count how many PMs I have recieved from well known female members here on AT that told me that if she really haven't gave me a call back that she is being an asshole about it. And that I gave her too many chances till now, and she better have one hell of an excuse for me today.
Also I talked to a couple of very close female friends of mine (that I have known for several years) today and explained to them why I haven't been my self lately and they have been very honest with me (as they always have been), that based on the years that they have known me in, that girl doesn't deserve a guy like me giving her all these chances ( if she is really ignoring me), moreover they have told me that they never thought that a guy that has a such good reputation of regarding gilrs with respect like me would ever end up being ditched like that ( if that's what she really did).
All my friends where so happy for me that I have mustered up all that courage after all this time, only to be let down again.
I really feel no guilt right now, and hoping to end this with no further headaches.
Please PLEASE stop thinking you have a "relationship" with her. You don't have ANYTHING with her. You never had a date with her, you're probably barely even friends, you NEVER got dumped seeing as how you NEVER went out with her. You two are NOT dating, you never were, looks like you never will. So just stop it with the whole fooling yourself into thinking that you actually had something with her.